It seems like it doesn't matter what creed, religion,nationality or sexuality All men cheat, period. And if they don't cheat they will be tempted to cheat at least once in their life time?


Why is this?


Why is there a urge for a man 2 cheat? He can totally in love with the woman, but still mess up all because he couldn't control his urges 2 stray... Woman cheat also, but that's different. A man will most likely be tempted 2 cheat then a woman and I wanna know why this is?

Ummm...you forgot about the women. they cheat too. why separate between men and women there?
People cheat I guess mostly for lack of attention by their partner, or because they like the thrills of it.
But I wouldn't know. I'm

I'm going to base my answer on nature. Just the fact that it takes a woman 9 months to bear a child, and men can basically father a child daily...sorta says a lot, imho.

LaVisHh said:

I think that's such a cop-out, though--it implies they can't control themselves. And they can. I think it's a combo of mental processes (justifying it, rationalization) and the physical urges/passion of the moment.

DigitalLisa said:

No offense Lisa but this is bullshit..that myth that men always, feel the need to cheat, cheat more than women etc. along with men always beating on women and it not being the other way around must stop.

What a completely crap and pointless generalisation! Perhaps your experiences of male infidelity are not as common as u think. I know from myself that I've only ever slept with one woman, my wife, and am 100% I will never cheat on her. I'm happy in every way with my relationship and I have no wish to do anything to break that. I don't have urges that I need to take elsewhere. Perhaps it's not easy to find a great balance in a relationship where u feel so comfortable and so suited, but it does happen and many men surely find the right woman and are forever more faithful and true.

Have u ever cheated? That I would like to know.

i would assume that men cheat for the same reasons that women cheat...

a much better phrasing of this would have been, "why do people cheat?"...

i personally have never cheated, nor have i been cheated on... so, i can't help you out there...

but making it sound like men are the only ones who cheat and that every man will cheat is complete bullshit...

sawatdiikhrap said:

Now this is some kind of wonderful!

sag10 said:

Thank u.

There has to be some kind of reward for having a good heart. I think I've found it.

I'm sad about all the stuff that goes on in relationships these days. I've always tried to offer one thing as a man and that's something to believe in for the woman, something they can put all of their trust in and never worry about in that way.

I didn't look for a partner, but obviously I attracted just the right one for me.

Maybe u get what u deserve in some respects, who knows?

There are faithful men and woman, and unfaithful men and woman. It's just not easy to find the one that's right for u, but it's possible.
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DigitalLisa said: "...Woman cheat also, but that's different."
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DigitalLisa said:

i can't b the VOICE 4 all Men but the reaon some Men Cheat or if u wanna use the WOrd: 2 Cheat. (unless u'r Married then u'r NOT cheating, i think anyway).

but if a Man has a WoMan who's a Good Lover then he'll keep her there 4 that & if he has a WoMan that can cook like his Mom does then he'LL keep her 2. then u have a WoMan who's a Good Listener & he'LL keep her 4 that.

sometimes the PROBLEM is u can't find all thoz TRAITS in the 1 WoMan u have. u have 2 find that WoMan & then mayb he or u (the Men/Man) won't... Cheat.


but then agian some Men Cheat (as u say) becuz they just can & the WoMen they're with ALLOWS it. if u don't want 2 b TREATED that way then don't b INVOLVED with a Man who does or HAS Cheated sometime in his Life.


Muslim Men as i am a Muslim Man we're ALLOWED by The Cre8tor/Allah 2 have more than 1 Wife. & that's Wife NOT girlfriend...


oh & a Man who belives & TRIES 2 Live according 2 The Laws of The Cre8tor won't treat a WoMan like that.

my StepFather is Muslim & so is my Mom & my Mom has told him he can go MARRY another WoMan 2 have Children becuz he has me: his StepSon & that's it. & don't u know my Pops won't do it. he Loves my Mom that MUCH & would rather b childless than go & marry another WoMan...


now THAT's Loyalty...

sawatdiikhrap said:

You sound like a very wonderful man...keep up the good soul!

Male here. I've never cheated and i hope i never do.
If you feel the need to cheat then you ain't getting all you need from the relationship you're in. Move on.

Cloudbuster said:

Good Point!

Cloudbuster said:

exactly. DigitalLisa, sometimes, when the people we're attracted to -- or attracting -- bring us pain, we should check ourselves.

And, yes, I've been there. From experience, I can tell ya, women cheat, too, and the reasons seem pretty much the same.


[This message was edited Tue Dec 17 9:21:27 PST 2002 by ThreadBare]

I'm still exhausted from all of the posts{giving reasons and explanations as to why BOTH men and women cheat} I made on AnotherLover's cheating thread from earlier this year. I think I will sit this one out...Interesting posts from everyone..BTW

Why does anyone cheat?

Because they are either very selfish or they are not satisfied!

We have a penis...

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Lame excuse.

Cloudbuster said:

It was a joke Beleive me I've been on the "cheated on" end of things and it doesn't feel good. I personally discuss this going in and bow out of the relationship if it's not meeting my needs.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Fair 'nuff.

I think people "cheat" because monogamy is highly overrated. Of course, if you and your partner can be openminded, you don't have to think of it as cheating.

Doves,
Mel!ssa

PurpleLove7 said:

That's not something to be praised as incredible and loyal much as just expected. I'm not sure it's healthy for the children for the father to have more wives.

Also I believe it would be cheating if u had been with your girlfriend/boyfriend for 12 months say, and then slept with someone else behind their back. U don't think?


[This message was edited Tue Dec 17 10:25:27 PST 2002 by sawatdiikhrap]

we have 2 seriousLy think about this... The Cre8tor made us 2 b this was (2 an xtent) & then we have 2 say: yo i have an Adam & Eve Attitude.

1 WoMan & 1 Man 2gether 4 Life... u feel me!?!?!

sag10 said:

Thank u. Nice to meet u. That's quite possibly the most positive response I've had from anybody on the org.

And I got some flak a little while back about people saying I control my wife and call her a slut?! Sometimes people here can be very cruel. I'd hope they could see that's not who I am at all.

Thank u sag10 for brightening my day.

2 times...
[This message was edited Tue Dec 17 10:26:09 PST 2002 by sawatdiikhrap]

...three times...sorry!
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mrchristian said:

Co-sign.

Its simple, men have to put there 2 heads together to make a decision, and usually the smallest one wins!

I believe there are many reasons why both sexes cheat.

I do believe that if people are happy in a relationship and have invested a lot of their emotions, then the chances of them straying, I imagine will be less than if the person was unhappy.

I wonder if some people perhaps are not fully sensitised to the other person in a relationship and therefore, perhaps do not appreciate all the qualities of another person, and so shag someone else. It strikes me as odd, that a person can invest so much into a partnership to then risk losing it all.

I think when someone does not appreciate another, or the two are not well matched, then perhaps it is a way out for them. With this frame of mind, a person can easily shag about while in a relationship, as they are de-sensitised to what they have in that relationship.

Some people may adopt the 'you only live once' thing and so have sex with as many different people as possible. Yet, if in a valued relationship, I wonder if that same person could bring themselves to do it?

What Im saying, is that both men and women do it. I think they are either not enjoying the relationship or they are de-sensitised to their own feelings invested in the relationship (for various reasons).