NDRU said:

how many ladies have you recruited so far?

thekidsgirl said:

can I be in charge of costume! (crocs! )

ZombieKitten said:

well, they say the first is the hardest so I guess I'm doing pretty well.

NDRU said:

Cinnie said:

He's not tugging it when I am there, it's when I am not....and I only see him once a week.

NDRU said:

har har

JustErin said:

sextonseven said:

sextonseven said:

That's because she never met either of us.

JustErin said:

What you got against 40 year olds? We have to cum 2.

I've just hit 30.

Of the role of masturbation:
Excessive masturbation does indeed seem to weaken the performance during intercourse considerably. One part of it just has to do with testosterone levels, although it's only a part of the phenomenon. I think that especially in those cases where the males have been staying single for longer periods of time and relying on masturbation as more or less the only means for getting an orgasm on a regular basis, get a bit too used to it. It might even take quite a while before you are able to reach an orgasm with a new partner in that case. Seems like the best way to tackle such issues is really just to quit jerking off for a while, so your hormone levels will build up naturally and "you're prepared for the situation". Exercise works in this sense too as it increases your testosterone levels rather effectively, although I'm in the camp that testosterone contributes greatly to effects of aging as well. So virile young men won't necessarily be too virile after a while. It's a bit of a two-edged sword, or a "use them and lose them" -type of deal for the women really. Alcohol also suppresses testosterone levels considerably, so don't be surprised if you have trouble in the bed after a night-out involving heavy drinking.

I've learnt this the hard way myself.


Of the role of preferences / fetishes:
The act of masturbation is usually coupled with a certain type of fantasies, and should they by rule contain e.g. the presence of a fetish or certain type of behaviour on the partner's part, the sexual impulses tend to get more effectively associated to such. Males who had an active sexual life already during their teens and have continued to have sex with a partner on a more or less unhindered basis seldom develop fetishes or other type of preferences they'd "need in order to get off". Fetishism is not just a stagnant psychological trait that falls on behalf of some indivudals during development, but I think it is indeed supported by the masturbatory acts. There are "structural" explanations for these things as well, which demand for the rethinking of the whole concept of "an object" from a new angle, but let's not get there simply for the sake of an internet discussion. People will however into great lengths to be able to sustain the "satisfaction" they get from their neurotic behaviour, and if that means the deferral of being able to get off under more normal conditions some individuals will end up going down that route. I am not at all surprised when some folks seem to half-consciously seek out situations where they will most likely get "humiliated" in front of another person - in some cases the male has more or less demanded that the female would perform some sort of a "favour" for him towards the end of the act for him to be able to get off (e.g. I can recall a case of a male demanding that the female should let him ejaculate on her pantyhose, and so on). So there's a bit of a powerplay aspect involved in there too, even if it involves the act of admitting to something of a weakness that you might possess yourself. You might be able to reverse that in a demand.

I'm just sayin'

I also have a picture of a bison - that looks like Freud in my eyes - placed as my desktop picture.

For me it seems that now that I'm in my 40's, to get off, everything has to be perfect.

When I was young it was like whatever.....now the moon has to be in the 7th house, and Jupiter is alligned with Mars.....or else it aint happening.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

Watching Hair?

JustErin said:

I don't know, maybe... from what you share, it seems there is some mutual sexual attraction missing. Can you get a little bit more specific? Is there still enough sexual attraction? Does his/their dick still ever get hard just by seeing you, or hearing you say something nasty to him or touching his dick, letting him know you want to fuck him/them? Or perhabs more importantly even, do you still get off on them?

johnart said:

...or RENT.

My stick. I just love my stick.
Mmm, my stick. I just love my stick.

Girl, your ride is bad but you can't compare.
To my baby black Cadillac, oh so rare.
Take a vacation, I don't care.
Cuz I can get some stimulation anywhere.

(chorus)
You just come to quick, I'd rather work my stick.
Get a little satisfaction, work the stick in my ride.
You just come to quick, I'd rather work my stick.
Get a little satisfaction, work the stick in my ride.
Girl, you come to quick, much, much to quick.
Girl, you come to quick, I'll just work the stick.

Offer me your body, I have to pass.
Cuz every time we make love, you run out of gas.
Girl, my car's so bad it runs on H2O.
Now you can't compete, it's got the cruise control.

(repeat chorus)

I've been drivin' baby, since the age of 13.
I'm the baddest driver you've ever seen.
You know I like it fast and I like it slow.
Sometimes I let the top down when I wanna let go.

You just come to quick, I'd rather work my stick.
Get a little satisfaction, work the stick in my ride.

What time is it?
I said, what time is it?

You just come to quick, I'd rather work my stick.

Somebody bring me a mirror so I can uh ... What song we on?

You just come to quick, I'd rather work my stick.
Get a little satisfaction, work the stick in my ride.

What time is it?

I'm just alright, oh no.
I don't need you, baby, I'll just work the stick in my ride.
I don't need your action, baby.
Get a little satisfaction, work the stick in my ride.

You just come to quick, I'd rather work my stick.

It's about time to go.
I said, I don't need you girl.
Somebody bring me a mirror.
So I can look at my stick.

Hey, alright? You wanna see it?
Should I take it out?
Take it out, man.

sextonseven said:

novabrkr said:

Great post, thanks!

Tremolina said:

He's totally good to go at first and claims that the things I do are amazing...but it takes so much fucking work to get him off. It never used to be that way...years ago.

I asked 8 Friends aged 30 - 54

they stated that they ( overall ) do not find it harder to get off nor do they "need" extra stimulations ... some even expressed that they need a bit less ( maybe because sex is now once a week instead of 4 times and so on )

I didnt ask about masturbation and how that may be helpful or hurtful to their getting off

JustErin said:

I have no doubt that you're on the right track with your thinking. If you are successful he'll probably enjoy sex much more.

This society is all about telling people that masturbation is okay, natural, normal, healthy, not shameful etc.

And it is all that stuff, but I think we sometimes ignore that it is not really necessary every day!

Like anything in life, delay gratification just a bit and it is much better. This guy is probably over stimulated, he needs a little less in his day to day life and his encounters with you will be better and he won't need a jackhammer on his balls to get off.

Mach said:

Thanks!

NDRU said:

Put your dicks back in your pants, fellas. Some some for the ladies!

JustErin said:

stop posting such hot pictures...wait, strike that from the record!

JustErin said:

No problem. The only chicken i'm chokin is KFC.

phunkdaddy said:

[Edited 7/22/09 13:38pm]

JerseyKRS said:

What did I miss??

JustErin said:

nothing exciting, I just fucked up the quoting.