If you're in a long term relationship or married and feel the need to bring another person into the relationship, you'd have to ponder your future together.One threesome can lead to insecurity and distrust.Fun at the time but only will lead to regret and hurt in the long term.

If you're single and not in a 'proper' relationship, anything goes IMO.

If you're in a long term relationship or married and feel the need to bring another person into the relationship, you'd have to ponder your future together.One threesome can lead to insecurity and distrust.Fun at the time but only will lead to regret and hurt in the long term.

If you're single and not in a 'proper' relationship, anything goes IMO.

I am a bisexual woman, and yes, I have had threesomes in a so-called committed relationship. I have had two. The first one was not fun. We were only four months into our relationship and I got very jealous seeing the person I was involved with kissing a practical stranger. Had we had a stronger relationship before we did this, I probably would have felt differently. The second one we had was a lot of fun. We were two years into the relationship then. Even though I enjoyed the last one, I still regret them both. I should have never agreed to them in the first place because, once I did, he wanted to do it all the time. I didn't feel like I was enough. I probably would like to do it again, but never in a committed relationship.

i would!!! y not! i'm not Married (yet)... if that was the case ofcourse & THEY wanted 2 do it. i wouldn't push the ISSUE... (i have by the way)

stymie said:

So it undermined your trust and made u insecure. This is what I would've thought. The reason I posted this thread is because my wife is/was bisexual and when we were first together although she never showed any sign of wanting to be with women still, we did discuss it. I didn't feel good about sleeping with any other woman and obviously considered her being with a woman the same as being with another man, a complete no-no. For her part she says she's basically not bisexual anymore. She obviously still finds women attractive but it's really no different from if she was just straight. We know what is out of bounds, and don't really even think about it anyway.

Interesting.

I'm sure it must quite regularly be the beginning of the end in some relationships.

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Thecherryloon said:

Good response. I'd agree with this I think.

I think in a long term relationship it would signal that there is something missing and would only cause trouble.


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sawatdiikhrap said:

Here's another way to think about it:

Why in the world does having a long-term relationship with one person mean that you shouldn't have intimate, caring relationships with others? Those sort of relationships, for me, are what life is all about. Why does having one life partner mean you shouldn't have another? Do you have just a limited amount of love in you, only enough for one person? I doubt it, that's not how love is.

If you question some cultural assumptions, there is a lot of freedom to be found. If you don't want to do that, fine, but don't judge those of us who have.

Doves,
Mel!ssa

Who's had a threesome here and what did u think about it? Would u recommend it as simply something to do when not in a serious relationship or single, or do u think it could work when in a long term relationship too?

Just curious.


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Something to consider here--I would bet most of you are thinking '2 women, 1 man' when you say "threesome". What about a '2 men, 1 woman' scenario? I think quite a few straight guys would NOT be down with THAT kind of 3some!

Yes,definitely but the people have to be Gorgeous.

Yes,definitely but the people have to be Gorgeous.

Yes,definitely but the people have to be Gorgeous.

Natasha said:

I told you I was ok , you, me and my cousin