violator said:

I'm totally attacking him the next time we are alone. I always wait for him to start, screw it, I am talking filth, gonna try a bunch of hardcore shit and we'll see if I end up sending him crying home to his mama.

Yes, I know you're all huge studs with huge cocks that know how to drive the ladies wild but read this and tell me if this is common with dudes.

This guy I like…like really like and have known for years is a good friend of mine and we've been fuck buddies off and on for about 6 years. Well, the very first time we slept together I asked him what he liked (totally normal thing to do, right?), and he got all awkward and answered, "I dunno, no one ever asked me that". I was shocked but whatever, I just did what I thought he would like. Well, I guess he liked it enough to stick around for all this time..hooked on the sex I suppose. However, things didn't really progress all that much in bed....don't get me wrong, he definitely knows what he's doing for sure, has lots of experience with different girls...but I think it could have gotten way hotter if he just opened up a little. He's admitted in the past that I intimidate him...but come on...how many times do we have to do it for you to let loose a little??

Anyway, we stopped sleeping together (and pretty much even seeing each other) about a year and a half ago because he is seeing someone but we went out last weekend and of course ending up having sex. It had been a while and so I asked him again what he wanted and AGAIN he said, "I dunno". I was like wtf?? Haven't you been with a gf for a year and a half and still 'I dunno'???

So I'm talking to my friend and she recently met this dude and slept with him for the first time and she asked him what he liked. He answered with, "I dunno" as well.

Ok, so seriously...is this common? Do most guys end up with girls that don't care what he wants? Like, there is no communication at all when it comes to sex? And can a guy really not know what they like/want? Or are they just holding back for some reason?

And I'm totally making it my mission to make this dude a filthy, filthy boy.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

But are lots of dudes like this?

most dudes don't feel like talking after sex. A lot of men have communication issues, too. Maybe try talking about it at a different time. Perhaps he'll be more relaxed and able to just talk about it.



Or maybe he just wants to fuck the way it's been going, men are simple also. Rarely is it some deep, in depth process as to what the answer is.

Girls read too much Cosmo and shit.

JerseyKRS said:

Well, this isn't after sex. I have no interest in talking after sex. I wanna sleep or get up and get the day going or whatever.

I don't read cosmo.

I just want to know what I can do to make him feel amazing.

This has happened to me too.
But
I think as long as a mans dick goes into something, he's fine with it!


boooooring

The whole thing about relationship levels is a good point. The level the two of you are at (despite the 6 yrs that have passed) may not be in his " let it all out" range. He's happy with what he has been getting with you and might want to keep it that way. You're a woman who wants more and its just too tempting for you to want to turn him out. I get that. Deep down, he knows that you can get what you need from anyone you want but, you still end up with him.

purpleizpassion said:

Turning into a romance novel here.

MacDaddy said:

Oh, he knows exactly what I like. All he's said to that is, "Ya, I can't be that guy". And that's totally fine, I know not every dude is cool with what I like.

And I have done stuff and asked but he's just awkward talking about it.

I think I scare him maybe.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

I was just gonna add to the question if this is a straight dude thing???
I think a lot of us gay men have been trained to pretty much "list out" (sometimes literally ) what we're into from the get go.

JustErin said:

I think my penis moved just a little.....

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

Seriously, "Your pussy feels so fucking good" just isn't good enough for me.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

Guy, I get my ass destroyed, and "oh ya, you whore" is nothing compared to what I hear (and like to hear).

I have friends that think I am not mentally right because of what I like.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

Sometimes it's hot to not be sure if you'll make it out the bedroom...but know you will at the same time.

Cinnie said:

No, I don't think so...and I won't do that anyway.

Cinnie said:

This idea was actually pulled from a couple straight buds of mine that said they only did certain things with certain relationship levels.

I thought that was weird. But maybe he feels like that.

JustErin said:

I don't have your patience. I want a man to treat me like a filthy whore from day one.

Yes, I know you're all huge studs with huge cocks that know how to drive the ladies wild but read this and tell me if this is common with dudes.

This guy I like…like really like and have known for years is a good friend of mine and we've been fuck buddies off and on for about 6 years. Well, the very first time we slept together I asked him what he liked (totally normal thing to do, right?), and he got all awkward and answered, "I dunno, no one ever asked me that". I was shocked but whatever, I just did what I thought he would like. Well, I guess he liked it enough to stick around for all this time..hooked on the sex I suppose. However, things didn't really progress all that much in bed....don't get me wrong, he definitely knows what he's doing for sure, has lots of experience with different girls...but I think it could have gotten way hotter if he just opened up a little. He's admitted in the past that I intimidate him...but come on...how many times do we have to do it for you to let loose a little??

Anyway, we stopped sleeping together (and pretty much even seeing each other) about a year and a half ago because he is seeing someone but we went out last weekend and of course ending up having sex. It had been a while and so I asked him again what he wanted and AGAIN he said, "I dunno". I was like wtf?? Haven't you been with a gf for a year and a half and still 'I dunno'???

So I'm talking to my friend and she recently met this dude and slept with him for the first time and she asked him what he liked. He answered with, "I dunno" as well.

Ok, so seriously...is this common? Do most guys end up with girls that don't care what he wants? Like, there is no communication at all when it comes to sex? And can a guy really not know what they like/want? Or are they just holding back for some reason?

And I'm totally making it my mission to make this dude a filthy, filthy boy.

CalhounSq said:

I stand corrected.

MacDaddy said:

Oh, he knows exactly what I like. All he's said to that is, "Ya, I can't be that guy". And that's totally fine, I know not every dude is cool with what I like.

And I have done stuff and asked but he's just awkward talking about it.

I think I scare him maybe.

JerseyKRS said:

No he's a freak and doesn't want to scare you because YOU seem vanilla. So he doesn't know what's safe to say, and with a woman, nothing usually beats the alternative.

JustErin said:

Start talking about freaky stuff when you aren't in bed. It may be easier to talk about sitting outside at McDonald's where you can just talk.

JustErin said:

Why are you still having sex with him?
Serious question. He doesn't sound like someone I'd waste my time sleeping with, even if I liked them. He's obviously not ALL that interested in giving you want you want.

JustErin said:

Who call THAT talking dirty? It's worse than I thought . . .

JustErin said:

WHAT?!
You're no fun!

JustErin said:

Maybe early on in your booty call relationship, you punked him out in bed just like Gianna Michaels, and he is still having hangups about that. Or maybe he's not all that freaky to begin with. As long as he's getting his sexual needs satisfied, he's perfectly happy where he is in bed with you.

But then again, maybe he's a real closet freak that wants to talk really dirty to you and humiliate you in bed, fuck you in the ass, and scream "suck my cum out my cock you fucking slutty whore" while you're deep throating him to the point of gagging, and he really would like to fist you as well, but he may not be willing to do that with you because he might interpret that as needing to be on a really intimate level in this relationship that either he doesn't want to go to or you obviously don't want to go to.

SUPRMAN said:

I don't trust dudes to be as clean and ready as I am for that kind of thing.