This is totally true. A lot of guys will do some things with some girls but not with others....

and usually it's they have 'nice' sex with the gf/wife and filthy with the one on the side or if single its with girls they just want to fuck but not get serious with.

Treat those girls like whores but they can't even imagine doing the same thing to their sig other. They are good girls, you know.

Nice try This isn't a dating site, and you're not getting into JustErin's pants.

Yes, I know you're all huge studs with huge cocks that know how to drive the ladies wild but read this and tell me if this is common with dudes.

This guy I like…like really like and have known for years is a good friend of mine and we've been fuck buddies off and on for about 6 years. Well, the very first time we slept together I asked him what he liked (totally normal thing to do, right?), and he got all awkward and answered, "I dunno, no one ever asked me that". I was shocked but whatever, I just did what I thought he would like. Well, I guess he liked it enough to stick around for all this time..hooked on the sex I suppose. However, things didn't really progress all that much in bed....don't get me wrong, he definitely knows what he's doing for sure, has lots of experience with different girls...but I think it could have gotten way hotter if he just opened up a little. He's admitted in the past that I intimidate him...but come on...how many times do we have to do it for you to let loose a little??

Anyway, we stopped sleeping together (and pretty much even seeing each other) about a year and a half ago because he is seeing someone but we went out last weekend and of course ending up having sex. It had been a while and so I asked him again what he wanted and AGAIN he said, "I dunno". I was like wtf?? Haven't you been with a gf for a year and a half and still 'I dunno'???

So I'm talking to my friend and she recently met this dude and slept with him for the first time and she asked him what he liked. He answered with, "I dunno" as well.

Ok, so seriously...is this common? Do most guys end up with girls that don't care what he wants? Like, there is no communication at all when it comes to sex? And can a guy really not know what they like/want? Or are they just holding back for some reason?

And I'm totally making it my mission to make this dude a filthy, filthy boy.

Not all men are like this, my bf is very open about what he wants and how he wants it, maybe to open at times. but....maybe something happened to your friend in the past when he was open about what he wanted and the chic he was with thought he was some freak. Just a thought...

In the episode right before he cums he yells out stuff like "Oh yeah you whore" and stuff like that. That could be very offensive to some. Charlotte was VERY offended.

I'm all game in the bedroom. Just no real violence, or scat, or fisting.

I was with a guy once that started pushing me around and being kinda rough. I was soooo f'ing turned on by it.

Definitely not the case here. He knows he can say whatever because he KNOWS I'm one of those so called freaks.

Right. Actually, this is a revelation. Instead of blaming him for not communicating what he wants (okay, what YOU want), you're gonna just have to take him by his large hands (right?) and instead tell him what YOU like.

Just remember to keep fit, and have fun.

Thanks, Hal.

But the problem with that is I don't want him doing things he doesn't really like just to please me.

Hmmm then I just don't know...I have never really met a guy who wasn't open about what he wanted when it came to sex.

Then there's your answer. He obviously doesn't want to talk about it and doesn't want to change a thing.

I want to show him that it can be better.

And how can someone answer with "I dunno"? He has to know.

????

I meant to say that I would be afraid to answer the question because you don't know the line (crossing the line) with the girl, and you don't want to ruin the spell that got you that far....

I think rather than not knowing what he wants/likes, he's simply not comfortable talking about it.

I think he may be not comfortable talking to You Erin about it

As you don't need me to tell you men are fragile creatures underneath the bluster

You Erin obviously know what and how you like it and i would guess are no shrinking violet in the boffing department.

Because of this he probably thinks a) your gonna roll your eyes at his suggetion

or b) think what he suggests is a bit lame or maybe not 'hot' enough to mention.

I know you don't see it like that and only want to make the whole experience hotter

Maybe you could just vary it up and see how he reacts rather than actually asking

The good news is not all men are like this, but most just like blowjobs boffing doggystyle and talking dirty but I am sure you know this

Yes, I know you're all huge studs with huge cocks that know how to drive the ladies wild but read this and tell me if this is common with dudes.

This guy I like…like really like and have known for years is a good friend of mine and we've been fuck buddies off and on for about 6 years. Well, the very first time we slept together I asked him what he liked (totally normal thing to do, right?), and he got all awkward and answered, "I dunno, no one ever asked me that". I was shocked but whatever, I just did what I thought he would like. Well, I guess he liked it enough to stick around for all this time..hooked on the sex I suppose. However, things didn't really progress all that much in bed....don't get me wrong, he definitely knows what he's doing for sure, has lots of experience with different girls...but I think it could have gotten way hotter if he just opened up a little. He's admitted in the past that I intimidate him...but come on...how many times do we have to do it for you to let loose a little??

Anyway, we stopped sleeping together (and pretty much even seeing each other) about a year and a half ago because he is seeing someone but we went out last weekend and of course ending up having sex. It had been a while and so I asked him again what he wanted and AGAIN he said, "I dunno". I was like wtf?? Haven't you been with a gf for a year and a half and still 'I dunno'???

So I'm talking to my friend and she recently met this dude and slept with him for the first time and she asked him what he liked. He answered with, "I dunno" as well.

Ok, so seriously...is this common? Do most guys end up with girls that don't care what he wants? Like, there is no communication at all when it comes to sex? And can a guy really not know what they like/want? Or are they just holding back for some reason?

And I'm totally making it my mission to make this dude a filthy, filthy boy.

I totally understand this and that would make sense if he didn't know me so well. He knows I am not shy and am open to pretty much anything. We've been together so many times over the years...he should freaking know.

Women can get a whole lot more information out of me during, not before, the act.

It's always during.

he wants missionary position

No, he's not boring.

Or maybe he just has no imagination, as long as he's getting some sex he's satisfied.