JustErin said:

:tendrils:

uPtoWnNY said:

That's just it though...so is it that most chicks are so totally blah that dudes get conditioned to not expect anything or even want it?

Just no real violence, or scat, or fisting.

JustErin said:

In his case I am guessing he is used to "omg it's so big omg omg" that he doesn't have to step up much, and that they don't know what they're doing. he wouldn't come back to you after 6 years if you didn't already know what you're doing.

pat yourself on the back, while i pull out clumps of your hair you fuckin' cum dumpster*


*I'm tryin'

I wish wish wish I had time to read this from beginning to end. But alas, I have work to do.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

I was just saying maybe this is where that dude is scared to take it.

He is waiting for her to be like.... "sooooo... wanna gag on my shitty panties?" or whatever

Yes, I know he likes what he gets from me, he's told me. I guess maybe I'm just pounting because it's not as hot as *I* want it to be.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

I was just saying maybe this is where that dude is scared to take it.

He is waiting for her to be like.... "sooooo... wanna gag on my shitty panties?" or whatever

JustErin said:

Right. Actually, this is a revelation. Instead of blaming him for not communicating what he wants (okay, what YOU want), you're gonna just have to take him by his large hands (right?) and instead tell him what YOU like.

Just remember to keep fit, and have fun.

Cinnie said:

Dude.

No.

JustErin said:

Maybe not a fist, but he wants a finger in the ass, I guarantee it.

But the problem with that is I don't want him doing things he doesn't really like just to please me.

JustErin said:

In the episode right before he cums he yells out stuff like "Oh yeah you whore" and stuff like that. That could be very offensive to some. Charlotte was VERY offended.

I'm all game in the bedroom. Just no real violence, or scat, or fisting.

I was with a guy once that started pushing me around and being kinda rough. I was soooo f'ing turned on by it.

MacDaddy said:

Oh, he knows exactly what I like. All he's said to that is, "Ya, I can't be that guy". And that's totally fine, I know not every dude is cool with what I like.

And I have done stuff and asked but he's just awkward talking about it.

I think I scare him maybe.

Yes, I know you're all huge studs with huge cocks that know how to drive the ladies wild but read this and tell me if this is common with dudes.

This guy I like…like really like and have known for years is a good friend of mine and we've been fuck buddies off and on for about 6 years. Well, the very first time we slept together I asked him what he liked (totally normal thing to do, right?), and he got all awkward and answered, "I dunno, no one ever asked me that". I was shocked but whatever, I just did what I thought he would like. Well, I guess he liked it enough to stick around for all this time..hooked on the sex I suppose. However, things didn't really progress all that much in bed....don't get me wrong, he definitely knows what he's doing for sure, has lots of experience with different girls...but I think it could have gotten way hotter if he just opened up a little. He's admitted in the past that I intimidate him...but come on...how many times do we have to do it for you to let loose a little??

I'm scared to answer that, because I dunno what would turn you (the girl) off!
Anyway, we stopped sleeping together (and pretty much even seeing each other) about a year and a half ago because he is seeing someone but we went out last weekend and of course ending up having sex. It had been a while and so I asked him again what he wanted and AGAIN he said, "I dunno". I was like wtf?? Haven't you been with a gf for a year and a half and still 'I dunno'???

So I'm talking to my friend and she recently met this dude and slept with him for the first time and she asked him what he liked. He answered with, "I dunno" as well.

Ok, so seriously...is this common? Do most guys end up with girls that don't care what he wants? Like, there is no communication at all when it comes to sex? And can a guy really not know what they like/want? Or are they just holding back for some reason?

And I'm totally making it my mission to make this dude a filthy, filthy boy.

Another thought, maybe he doesn't want to "open up" because that means he would be taking things to a more intimate level that he doesn't want to share with you (reminds him of his GF, or whatever). That might be fuckin' up his flow too.

JustErin said:

Maybe you have a lot in common as friends, and maybe you both appreciate certain aspects about each other´s sexuality , and it is good enough to be sex buddies, but in the long run, and when it comes to that kind of sex that you like, maybe there you are just a bit too different.
People can be sex buddies and enjoy a deep friendship and have great sex but it is not necessarily the ultimate, most fulfilling sex in your life on a physical and mental level.
Six years are a long time and one wonders why he´s still like that but, as I said, maybe your personalities will always stay a little bit different and you won´t get where you´d like to go with him,simply because of that difference.I don´t think that you´d scare him, not even on a simply sexual level, after such a long and sincere friendship. On the other hand, you´ve had this one year break and that puts things in a different perspective.

JustErin said:

uPtoWnNY said:

That's just it though...so is it that most chicks are so totally blah that dudes get conditioned to not expect anything or even want it?

JustErin said:

I don't know about most, but I'd say some women are like that - they have a "take it or leave it" attitude toward sex. Folks are wired differently.

Some dudes may be scared/nervous/put off by a sexually aggressive woman, not me. I love it when she takes the initiative, throws me down, rips my clothes off and attacks like a wild beast. I'll definitely return the favor.

Cinnie said:

This idea was actually pulled from a couple straight buds of mine that said they only did certain things with certain relationship levels.

I thought that was weird. But maybe he feels like that.

Cinnie said:

This is totally true. A lot of guys will do some things with some girls but not with others....

and usually it's they have 'nice' sex with the gf/wife and filthy with the one on the side or if single its with girls they just want to fuck but not get serious with.

Treat those girls like whores but they can't even imagine doing the same thing to their sig other. They are good girls, you know.

and usually it's they have 'nice' sex with the gf/wife and filthy with the one on the side or if single its with girls they just want to fuck but not get serious with.

Cinnie said:

This is totally true. A lot of guys will do some things with some girls but not with others....

and usually it's they have 'nice' sex with the gf/wife and filthy with the one on the side or if single its with girls they just want to fuck but not get serious with.

Treat those girls like whores but they can't even imagine doing the same thing to their sig other. They are good girls, you know.

uPtoWnNY said:

Nice try This isn't a dating site, and you're not getting into JustErin's pants.

JustErin said:

And he might already be displaying his rougher side.

Yes, I know you're all huge studs with huge cocks that know how to drive the ladies wild but read this and tell me if this is common with dudes.

This guy I like…like really like and have known for years is a good friend of mine and we've been fuck buddies off and on for about 6 years. Well, the very first time we slept together I asked him what he liked (totally normal thing to do, right?), and he got all awkward and answered, "I dunno, no one ever asked me that". I was shocked but whatever, I just did what I thought he would like. Well, I guess he liked it enough to stick around for all this time..hooked on the sex I suppose. However, things didn't really progress all that much in bed....don't get me wrong, he definitely knows what he's doing for sure, has lots of experience with different girls...but I think it could have gotten way hotter if he just opened up a little. He's admitted in the past that I intimidate him...but come on...how many times do we have to do it for you to let loose a little??

Anyway, we stopped sleeping together (and pretty much even seeing each other) about a year and a half ago because he is seeing someone but we went out last weekend and of course ending up having sex. It had been a while and so I asked him again what he wanted and AGAIN he said, "I dunno". I was like wtf?? Haven't you been with a gf for a year and a half and still 'I dunno'???

So I'm talking to my friend and she recently met this dude and slept with him for the first time and she asked him what he liked. He answered with, "I dunno" as well.

Ok, so seriously...is this common? Do most guys end up with girls that don't care what he wants? Like, there is no communication at all when it comes to sex? And can a guy really not know what they like/want? Or are they just holding back for some reason?

And I'm totally making it my mission to make this dude a filthy, filthy boy.