MAYBE HE LIKES IT WHEN YOU AREN'T TALKING

I couldn't really tell you. Let's just say that the men I hook up with don't have a problem with telling me what they like or don't like.

I think it's just a man's insecurity talking. "What if she thinks I'm a freak.." etc.

I think more men should let it all hang out. It would really help some relationships.

Yes, I know you're all huge studs with huge cocks that know how to drive the ladies wild but read this and tell me if this is common with dudes.

This guy I like…like really like and have known for years is a good friend of mine and we've been fuck buddies off and on for about 6 years. Well, the very first time we slept together I asked him what he liked (totally normal thing to do, right?), and he got all awkward and answered, "I dunno, no one ever asked me that". I was shocked but whatever, I just did what I thought he would like. Well, I guess he liked it enough to stick around for all this time..hooked on the sex I suppose. However, things didn't really progress all that much in bed....don't get me wrong, he definitely knows what he's doing for sure, has lots of experience with different girls...but I think it could have gotten way hotter if he just opened up a little. He's admitted in the past that I intimidate him...but come on...how many times do we have to do it for you to let loose a little??

Anyway, we stopped sleeping together (and pretty much even seeing each other) about a year and a half ago because he is seeing someone but we went out last weekend and of course ending up having sex. It had been a while and so I asked him again what he wanted and AGAIN he said, "I dunno". I was like wtf?? Haven't you been with a gf for a year and a half and still 'I dunno'???

So I'm talking to my friend and she recently met this dude and slept with him for the first time and she asked him what he liked. He answered with, "I dunno" as well.

Ok, so seriously...is this common? Do most guys end up with girls that don't care what he wants? Like, there is no communication at all when it comes to sex? And can a guy really not know what they like/want? Or are they just holding back for some reason?

And I'm totally making it my mission to make this dude a filthy, filthy boy.

This is an interesting take.

I'm pretty sure I've asked him about it when not in a sexual situation. I think he was just like, "it's great just the way it is".

but maybe "what do you like" isn't the way to ask, because it sounds like you're digging for preferences or "upright chair fucking" fetishes.

I think the better way to get him to try something is to ask "where do you want to..." implying a new location at the very least. and even if he misinterprets what you mean and says "in the butt", well there you go.

But I'm not looking for him to right an essay on it. Just let me in a little.

As for the gf...ya, well...he wants out...that's for him to work out. I don't care.

Do you like it when I do this? Do you prefer that? Hard, fast, slow? I refuse to believe that it's all just ok...or no feedback when something is a bit better that something else.

this is absolutely ridiculous. You said he knows what he's doing so atleast he's. Not a TOTAL dudd, but if u can't open up n say what u want then u can't have the ultimate connection n it's just gay. Maybe he doesn't have anything to say cuz u already have all the bases covered..? Maybe he's just used to the routine maintenence....

Does he atleast talk dirty??

I was just gonna add to the question if this is a straight dude thing???
I think a lot of us gay men have been trained to pretty much "list out" (sometimes literally ) what we're into from the get go.

Kinda, he says stuff...but it's not the filth I like.

for real, Erin be like "faster? slower? gentle? harder?"

meanwhile his dick is NOT in her mouth

I think my penis moved just a little.....

No it's in....I can barely fit it in but it's in.

Seriously, "Your pussy feels so fucking good" just isn't good enough for me.

I think I can even do better than that.

Is this the dude that won't let you take a breath?

I know.



I'm gonna get obsessed over this.

You know... maybe instead of asking him what he wants, just invite him to be rough, or fuck you doing a headstand, or whatever and see if he takes you up on it.

You know... maybe instead of asking him what he wants, just invite him to be rough, or fuck you doing a headstand, or whatever and see if he takes you up on it.

You know... maybe instead of asking him what he wants, just invite him to be rough, or fuck you doing a headstand, or whatever and see if he takes you up on it.