One of my best friends likes to joke with me that she's found my true love. It just so happens to be another good friend of hers.

"You two would be perfect for each other," she says, "because you both put up roadblocks to finding love."

She claims we have rules and are too true to them to give love a chance.

I think she's totally wrong, of course. But it has made me rethink some of my rules or standards.

They can't be fussy, say about a squat toilet or regarding foodstuffs they may not recognise. Other than that, I'm easy.

i've never been in a substantial relationship with someone who enjoys wearing sandals, flip-flops, or any form of open-toed shoe.

it's true.

Anxiety said:

I clean my flip-flops too. I know you don't believe it, but it's true. They look good as new after I'm through with them.

I dunno cuz I've been w the same person so long, but I think I tend to be a total pushover if I really like the person.

I guess if they show any inkling of aggressive behavior or that they'd be unfaithful or not hit it off w my kids they'd be out.

Oh n if they have no sense of humor or aren't into music I'm OUT!!!!

No matter how fine, no matter how perfect, sweet, nice, charming... etc.

I learned this week that I have a deal breaker... phimosis. Can't get past it, and I don't want to. No deformed penis for me, thanks.

Fauxie said:

have you ever worn a closed-toe shoe? i mean, like, EVER?

if i asked you to lie to me when you answer, would you?

Oh and if they like iron maiden, have a cat, have long nails, skin tags, or wear tightie whities.....C-YA!

I have to be first. sounds selfish but it is what it is.
Infidelity
If my kids don't approve
stupidity
immaturity
priorities not in order
no ambition

Excessively grouchy and rude. I had an encounter with someone I've known for a long time but hadn't seen in a while, their new found short-temper caught me completely off guard, though it wasn't directed at me, I knew it was something I didn't want to deal with in my life.

morningsong said:

Yeah negative energy is a huge turn off.

heybaby said:

All that and add on insecure for me.

dishonesty is intolerable

Anxiety said:

No need to lie. I wear them all the time. Well, maybe a quarter of the time I wear footwear. Does this make you like me 25% more?

paintedlady said:

I learn so much from you...

Anxiety said:

With the thousands of men you've been with this is really bad luck.

Perhaps you're seeking out these guys.... Well, "seeking" may not completely encompass the word I'm looking for, but I haven't had coffee this morning.

Fauxie said:

By the end of our friendship, I'll have a mad crush on me and want to shower me with Posh English affection.

noimageatall said:

Why me?

Love you back gurl!!

paintedlady said:

I'm available, and I don't have a whack penis.

Imago said:

noimageatall said:

ThreadBare said:

This is probably true of myself.

if the person told me i couldnt do something go somewhere just cause they dont want me going, forbade me ...regardless of how long...tell me that...c u later

that's one of the lists on eharmony "must have's and can't stand's" you get to pick five but I can't remember what I picked.
the entire list was pretty good... maybe that's why I'm not out there

noimageatall said:

Thanks a lot, now I'm paranoid..... .

The first thing that comes to my mind is no drug use. Sorry to be so straight-laced, but I just won't tolerate dating someone that uses drugs. Even if it's pot.

I used to say no smoking, but if you're a light smoker, I may be willing to overlook that in that beginning. You'd eventually have to quit though.

Wearing hammer pants is another big no-no.

I'm sure there are others, but I can't think of them right now.

1. She has to suck dick.
2. She can't be high maintenance.
3. She has to be a combo of cute & sexy.
4. She has to be a combo of book smart, street smart, and have common sense.
5. She has to be able to communicate.
6. She has to be able to cook.
7. She has to be able to laugh/be funnny.

sextonseven said:

Those apply for me as well.

I won’t date anyone who does drugs, including pot, and now that I’ve quit I wouldn’t date a smoker.

My main thing is racist comments or comments regarding stereotypes. I don't care who they're about, if I hear it. It's ovah.

If they are too high maintenance. It's ovah.

Ignorance
Racist remarks/comments
Bad Hygiene
Lying
Rudeness
Mean When Mad
Cruel To Animals
No Sense of Humor
Bad Lover