Or is it just about the attention?

Or what is it?

Twice yesterday I was hit on randomly. Once on the bus by a guy who I listened to tell his friends that he all he had planned for the day was checking out the mini skirts wherever they were going ( ). As I was about to get off the bus he complimented my hair (to which I replied "thanks") and then asked if he could come BBQ with me. I smiled and said "no" and he honestly looked all shocked and offended that that was my response. What kind of response was he expecting?

Then when I was leaving my friend's place, some neighbors were hanging on their front stoop across the street from where I was walking and started yelling across the street to me. "Hey, I love your hair. And your sunglasses..." and there were a couple of them all yelling things and it went on and on until "Hey! Where are you going?"




Why can't people just leave well enough alone?

it's all well and good until they get to the point where they start hurling insults because you WON'T got somewhere with them. WHAT IS WRONG with them really, what kind of person just goes somewhere unquestioningly with a total stranger who hassles women on a train.

NotI remember a story the master told me, about a nice girl who was being chatted up at a pub by a guy who was there with his mates. It all seemed to be going pretty well, then the girl went to the bathroom. The guy turns to his mates and says "Her lips are going to look sooooo good around my dick" and they are all laughing and guffawing. Leo told the girl what they said when she came out of the bathroom. She left.

Yep. Why? Because there are women out there that fall for a just about any line/approach.

CarrieMpls said:

The thing is if no one payed attention to you or complimented you when you left your house, how would you feel?
If no one found you attractive or said anything, good or bad, about you I'm sure you'd still be bitching.

Be happy and appreciate the fact that men see something in you to make a fool of themselves in public trying to hook up with you.

MuthaFunka said:

For real? That's CRAZY.

dseann said:

eh, I kinda get what you're saying.

Still, it would be nice not to be hassled when I'm minding my own business riding the bus.

ZombieKitten said:

EXACTLY.

It's just as bad as walking down a street and a bunch of construction guys are whistling and all kinds of sexy comments being thrown at me. I've had that.

Some show I was watching said it's a biological thing that men never know when they'll miss an opportunity to spread their genes, or some stuff like that. It went on saying that guys are wired to take any and every opportunity they can.

Off the top of my head, I can remember picking up a chick on a restaurant patio (on Queen Street - the part of it I recommended you check out when you were here).

I was grabbing some lunch and there was a cute girl also grabbing lunch solo at a table across. She was reading a book, I asked her what it was and had her number inside of 15 mins.

Not bragging, just saying it's entirely possible.

Be thankful you don't live in Jamiaca, Queens. A (cute) female friend hated it there. Every day she was harrased by 5' Mexicans whistling at her, or yelling "hey, mommy" and so forth.

Even if she were to lower -well, let's say eliminate her standards entirely and decide to hook up with one of these walking sloths, she'd far rather spit on a creep who does the whistling thing than kiss him.

As she once said "I ain't a fucking taxi, and even if I were, you sure as Hell can't pay the fare."

Men want to fuck and will keep trying til a woman says yes. Just like Charlotte said, the best is when they insult you for ignoring them.

Ace said:

Slick show off

CarrieMpls said:

oh I don't think there's anything wrong with a compliment, a stranger going out of their way to say something nice IS appreciated - if an guy tells me I have a beautiful smile and goes about his business, it will always leave me feeling pleased and I will always say thank you! but HASSLING is kind of different it's usually a guy with his pack that has that false bravado and something to prove. UGH

luv4u said:

These days, I don't think 500 minutes would be enough.

Vendetta1 said:

But who says "yes"??? That's what I want to know!

Ace said:

Yeah but that's game, Ace. I would have given you my number, too.

Ace said:

but you were by yourself right? not in a gang of leeries? and you're totally hot so, that's not so strange

Ace said:

CarrieMpls said:

Feel proud that you still attract attention. If you don't want to be hassled then don't look soooo damn good when you leave home.

ZombieKitten said:

Exactly. There's a big difference between a compliment and sleezy come-on.

CarrieMpls said:

I have NO idea. I always think a guy (a stranger) has an ulterior motive when he pays me a compliment.

ZombieKitten said:

By myself? Yes. Totally hot? Not even back then (and I was in my prime!).

ZombieKitten said:

I love how he pretends he's not hot.

CarrieMpls said:

'Nother random pickup on Queen:

Girl eating at counter in window (or on patio - can't remember ) of the Rivoli. Again, this is going back a ways, but I'll bet you most guys here have picked up a chick "randomly".

Vendetta1 said:

Ever heard that Chris Rock bit? 'Can I get your chair for you? = Howsa 'bout some dick? '

Ace said:

Vendetta1 said:

That's because they do!

Vendetta1 said:

Trust me: there's no pretending involved. Once upon a time, perhaps, I was lukewarm. These days, I'm cold as the East Coast in January.

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Ace said:

You could look like Quasimodo and still be hot to me.