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PrintableTheResurrection said: paintedlady said: Having a high standard and dating don't mix. I joined a dating site and put this in my profile...
You must be a US citizen... I will not marry you to help your illegal ass stay in the country. I just don't have time to teach you etiquette on how to date, tip, eat, talk to me, touch me in public... etc. You must have a job, because you MUST have health insurance and a Dr. you see regularly. ( If it hurts when you pee, you better be able to see someone for that shit!) and yes, you better not even think of kissing me if you don't have a dentist. You must have good hygiene... no missing teeth, no funny smells that come up under folds of skin. This includes knowing how to wear cologne/men's perfume properly so that I'm not choking and gasping for fresh air. I am not gonna have sex with you unless I actually know you extremely well. This includes oral sex or hand jobs. I get few messages, out of thousands of men on the site. Weed out the bad men, make room for the desirable ones. And only use the website for entertainment and just for fun conversation, just one of several avenues to meet someone. The more men you talk to, the better chance you'll have in meeting what you want exactly.  girl, that doesn't sound inviting at all...lol. I don't do the list thing. Just deal with men on their own merits and situations. Be careful, and have fun. Good men are always fun to be around, even if you aren't romantically invested in him/them. | |
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In my singledom I've had excellent luck with sites. But it's better to visit ones that are interest specific, sort of on the pen-pal-ish side not stressing dating or relationships as the primary objective ( but still including it as optional criteria). It will connect you to people with who focus first on the same hobbies, belief systems, and life experience as yours. It requires a high level of clarity and discernment (although I'm not worried about that with you  ) to navigate them properly. It also requires lengthy correspondence until you get the new potential friend figured out. It works out in that at least you end up with a good friend who you can do happy hour with or attend each others' parties and events, and at most you could make a love connection (for however brief or however long it's intended to be). The cool thing about being online is that you can make these mofos fill out personalized questionaires and you can cut out 3 months of realtime BS within 5 emails. It's almost like weeding out applicants for a employment position, and the chance of an actual meeting represents nothing more than a job interview
Your ad has me crackin' up. Too witty to attract a superficial dumb ass and too dry to attract cyber vampire. This could be a good thing | |
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chillichocaholic said: mcmeekle said: I think "put yourself out there" might mean simply get out and meet people, but not pubs/clubs. Join classes, take up a sport or hobby, etc.
If you have a love of embroidery say, joining an embroidery class will at least put you in contact with people with something in common. And that's a start. Bonus: You could embroider yourself a sign! embroidery??? Excuse my laughter but are u serious? ALl I can think is 
Anna Anna ANna Nicole It was just an example. But what's wrong with embroidery?  | |
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I know what you mean.
I am excellent at getting people to want to nail me to the mattress. Getting them to want anything else though, I'm clueless at.  "A Watcher scoffs at gravity!" | |
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meow85 said: I know what you mean.
I am excellent at getting people to want to nail me to the mattress. Getting them to want anything else though, I'm clueless at. 
I can relate! | |
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What happens when a Web-based flirtation meets the harsh light of reality? Not always disappointment, as it turns out.
Long before Victorian poet Robert Browning wooed Elizabeth Barrett with a love letter disguised as a fan letter, cave dwellers may have been carving their hearts' yearnings into stone walls. ("You're the one I want to forage berries with 4-ever, xoxo.") Today, would-be lovers possess speedier means of satisfying their desires than wall painting or letter writing. It's not uncommon for many romantic relationships to begin as "elationships"-innocent or not-so-innocent IMs and texts along the lines of "meet 2nite?" Nonetheless, whether you save them, reread them or immediately delete them, emails and texts are the Internet era's version of the epistolary romance. For Martha, a single, 31-year-old publicist based in Toronto, a work-related email kicked off an intense elationship with a man more than 10 years her senior who lived in another province. “His first message was work-related, so I answered it,” she explains. “Then he wrote me back with some light banter, so I kept up my end of the conversation.” As the months passed, their daily online chat, interspersed with games of online Scrabble, became more personal. “We ended up telling each other about our lives. I was going through a rough patch with my family, so I confided in him.” While there was no explicit declaration of love, just flirty and confessional emails, Martha — like any single girl on the lookout for Mr. Right — spent a great deal of time wondering if their email connection represented a real-life romantic connection. She didn’t have to wait too long to find out: About six months later, they met in person. He was in town on business, so they met for drinks. But from the start, all did not go well. The effortless intimacy they’d shared via email made their inperson chit-chat feel forced by comparison. Moreover, Martha was struck by their lack of physical chemistry. “In my mind’s eye, he was younger — even though I knew his age — and sprightlier. But when I saw him in person, he looked tired and older.” She became fixated on his “old man” shoes — they had Velcro clasps — and his paunch. The age difference, which hadn’t been an issue online, suddenly dominated the meeting. To make matters worse, he was unshaven and had bad breath. “It was a shock,” says Martha. “I realized that the photos he’d been sending me were either just his best angles or from 10 years earlier. It didn’t really matter, but it took some getting used to. It was like meeting an approximation of who he said he was, who I thought him to be.” Though she never told him — and they’ve never discussed it — for Martha, that disastrous meeting put the kibosh on months of simmering romantic potential. “Some people call it hyper-personal — when you’re emailing and disclosing personal things quickly,” says Michael Norton, an assistant professor of business administration at Harvard Business School in Boston who has studied the habits of online daters. “People feel they have this strong emotional bond, and then they meet and it’s bizarre…they don’t know the person well yet have felt very close.” According to Helen Fisher, an anthropologist and author of Why Him? Why Her? Finding Real Love by Understanding Your Personality Type, email exchanges are just the first in a number of interactions, or “escalation points,” that mark the development of any relationship. “Relationships run on messages: They’ve got to be accepted; they’ve got to be returned,” she says. “All along the way, there are escalation points [in a relationship] and breaking points. So, basically, these people got through the first stage, which was the email stage; they found the person enormously intellectually interesting and funny and compassionate. But they just didn’t make it to the next stage, and those physical stages — actually looking at the person — are exceedingly important to the development of romantic love.” Laura-Lee Bigongiari, 32, who works in human relations and lives in a suburb of Toronto, wasn’t looking for love or friendship when she signed up for an online language course more than a year ago. But, quite unexpectedly, she found both. “We were both studying German, and he saw me — on the site you have a little profile picture — and sent me a message one night. It was one o’clock in the morning, and I got this message that said ‘Studies going well?’” That friendly query kicked off months of long emails and texts — and they weren’t talking about German grammar. “We started chatting — sending messages back and forth. I’d say that almost instantly, we realized we had so much in common. We clicked right from the get-go.” Their emails were vibrant sharing sessions that covered the gamut: They talked about home renovations, art and their shared love of travel. An offhand mention of her love of tea resulted in the arrival of a package of flowering jasmine green tea a few weeks later — “his first romantic gesture,” says Bigongiari. | |
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Cinnie said: http://lifestyle.sympatic...date=False
What happens when a Web-based flirtation meets the harsh light of reality? Not always disappointment, as it turns out.
Long before Victorian poet Robert Browning wooed Elizabeth Barrett with a love letter disguised as a fan letter, cave dwellers may have been carving their hearts' yearnings into stone walls. ("You're the one I want to forage berries with 4-ever, xoxo.") Today, would-be lovers possess speedier means of satisfying their desires than wall painting or letter writing. It's not uncommon for many romantic relationships to begin as "elationships"-innocent or not-so-innocent IMs and texts along the lines of "meet 2nite?" Nonetheless, whether you save them, reread them or immediately delete them, emails and texts are the Internet era's version of the epistolary romance. For Martha, a single, 31-year-old publicist based in Toronto, a work-related email kicked off an intense elationship with a man more than 10 years her senior who lived in another province. “His first message was work-related, so I answered it,” she explains. “Then he wrote me back with some light banter, so I kept up my end of the conversation.” As the months passed, their daily online chat, interspersed with games of online Scrabble, became more personal. “We ended up telling each other about our lives. I was going through a rough patch with my family, so I confided in him.” While there was no explicit declaration of love, just flirty and confessional emails, Martha — like any single girl on the lookout for Mr. Right — spent a great deal of time wondering if their email connection represented a real-life romantic connection. She didn’t have to wait too long to find out: About six months later, they met in person. He was in town on business, so they met for drinks. But from the start, all did not go well. The effortless intimacy they’d shared via email made their inperson chit-chat feel forced by comparison. Moreover, Martha was struck by their lack of physical chemistry. “In my mind’s eye, he was younger — even though I knew his age — and sprightlier. But when I saw him in person, he looked tired and older.” She became fixated on his “old man” shoes — they had Velcro clasps — and his paunch. The age difference, which hadn’t been an issue online, suddenly dominated the meeting. To make matters worse, he was unshaven and had bad breath. “It was a shock,” says Martha. “I realized that the photos he’d been sending me were either just his best angles or from 10 years earlier. It didn’t really matter, but it took some getting used to. It was like meeting an approximation of who he said he was, who I thought him to be.” Though she never told him — and they’ve never discussed it — for Martha, that disastrous meeting put the kibosh on months of simmering romantic potential. “Some people call it hyper-personal — when you’re emailing and disclosing personal things quickly,” says Michael Norton, an assistant professor of business administration at Harvard Business School in Boston who has studied the habits of online daters. “People feel they have this strong emotional bond, and then they meet and it’s bizarre…they don’t know the person well yet have felt very close.” According to Helen Fisher, an anthropologist and author of Why Him? Why Her? Finding Real Love by Understanding Your Personality Type, email exchanges are just the first in a number of interactions, or “escalation points,” that mark the development of any relationship. “Relationships run on messages: They’ve got to be accepted; they’ve got to be returned,” she says. “All along the way, there are escalation points [in a relationship] and breaking points. So, basically, these people got through the first stage, which was the email stage; they found the person enormously intellectually interesting and funny and compassionate. But they just didn’t make it to the next stage, and those physical stages — actually looking at the person — are exceedingly important to the development of romantic love.” Laura-Lee Bigongiari, 32, who works in human relations and lives in a suburb of Toronto, wasn’t looking for love or friendship when she signed up for an online language course more than a year ago. But, quite unexpectedly, she found both. “We were both studying German, and he saw me — on the site you have a little profile picture — and sent me a message one night. It was one o’clock in the morning, and I got this message that said ‘Studies going well?’” That friendly query kicked off months of long emails and texts — and they weren’t talking about German grammar. “We started chatting — sending messages back and forth. I’d say that almost instantly, we realized we had so much in common. We clicked right from the get-go.” Their emails were vibrant sharing sessions that covered the gamut: They talked about home renovations, art and their shared love of travel. An offhand mention of her love of tea resulted in the arrival of a package of flowering jasmine green tea a few weeks later — “his first romantic gesture,” says Bigongiari. let's check in with them in 5 years....  | |
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paintedlady said: Having a high standard and dating don't mix. I joined a dating site and put this in my profile...
You must be a US citizen... I will not marry you to help your illegal ass stay in the country. I just don't have time to teach you etiquette on how to date, tip, eat, talk to me, touch me in public... etc. You must have a job, because you MUST have health insurance and a Dr. you see regularly. ( If it hurts when you pee, you better be able to see someone for that shit!) and yes, you better not even think of kissing me if you don't have a dentist. You must have good hygiene... no missing teeth, no funny smells that come up under folds of skin. This includes knowing how to wear cologne/men's perfume properly so that I'm not choking and gasping for fresh air. I am not gonna have sex with you unless I actually know you extremely well. This includes oral sex or hand jobs. I get few messages, out of thousands of men on the site. Weed out the bad men, make room for the desirable ones. And only use the website for entertainment and just for fun conversation, just one of several avenues to meet someone. The more men you talk to, the better chance you'll have in meeting what you want exactly. | |
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Girl, you know I have zero advice on this subject. I'm gonna have to start looking again my damn self b/c my situation got a little too callous, even for me Dating completely bites it    I never met you, but I LOVE you & I will forever!! Thank you for being YOU - my little Princey, the best to EVER do it | |
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paintedlady said: Having a high standard and dating don't mix. I joined a dating site and put this in my profile...
You must be a US citizen... I will not marry you to help your illegal ass stay in the country. I just don't have time to teach you etiquette on how to date, tip, eat, talk to me, touch me in public... etc. You must have a job, because you MUST have health insurance and a Dr. you see regularly. ( If it hurts when you pee, you better be able to see someone for that shit!) and yes, you better not even think of kissing me if you don't have a dentist. You must have good hygiene... no missing teeth, no funny smells that come up under folds of skin. This includes knowing how to wear cologne/men's perfume properly so that I'm not choking and gasping for fresh air. I am not gonna have sex with you unless I actually know you extremely well. This includes oral sex or hand jobs. I get few messages, out of thousands of men on the site. Weed out the bad men, make room for the desirable ones. And only use the website for entertainment and just for fun conversation, just one of several avenues to meet someone. The more men you talk to, the better chance you'll have in meeting what you want exactly. Damn, that just sounds...mean.
Like you're gonna be sniffing him and putting him through inspection every time he wants to pick you up for a date! | |
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paintedlady said: Having a high standard and dating don't mix. I joined a dating site and put this in my profile...
You must be a US citizen... I will not marry you to help your illegal ass stay in the country. I just don't have time to teach you etiquette on how to date, tip, eat, talk to me, touch me in public... etc. You must have a job, because you MUST have health insurance and a Dr. you see regularly. ( If it hurts when you pee, you better be able to see someone for that shit!) and yes, you better not even think of kissing me if you don't have a dentist. You must have good hygiene... no missing teeth, no funny smells that come up under folds of skin. This includes knowing how to wear cologne/men's perfume properly so that I'm not choking and gasping for fresh air. I am not gonna have sex with you unless I actually know you extremely well. This includes oral sex or hand jobs. I get few messages, out of thousands of men on the site. Weed out the bad men, make room for the desirable ones. And only use the website for entertainment and just for fun conversation, just one of several avenues to meet someone. The more men you talk to, the better chance you'll have in meeting what you want exactly.  You get replies w/ this??  I never met you, but I LOVE you & I will forever!! Thank you for being YOU - my little Princey, the best to EVER do it | |
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TheResurrection said: I'm not a former crack user. Are you a current crack user?  RIP  | |
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TheEnglishGent said: TheResurrection said: I'm not a former crack user. Are you a current crack user? | |
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what are your interests?....get involved in different organizations associated with those interests, and you'll meet someone...
how about through your church/synagogue/mosque/ashram..? have you tried people shopping..?..that is, when at the supermarket/mall/whatever, go up to someone who interests you and ask them if they've used a certain product, and start a conversation that way... | |
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TheResurrection said: I was told by someone that I don't "put myself out there". I have no idea what that means. It speaks to how approachable you are. And believe it or not, that matters a whole lot. | |
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paintedlady said: Having a high standard and dating don't mix. I joined a dating site and put this in my profile...
You must be a US citizen... I will not marry you to help your illegal ass stay in the country. I just don't have time to teach you etiquette on how to date, tip, eat, talk to me, touch me in public... etc. You must have a job, because you MUST have health insurance and a Dr. you see regularly. ( If it hurts when you pee, you better be able to see someone for that shit!) and yes, you better not even think of kissing me if you don't have a dentist. You must have good hygiene... no missing teeth, no funny smells that come up under folds of skin. This includes knowing how to wear cologne/men's perfume properly so that I'm not choking and gasping for fresh air. I am not gonna have sex with you unless I actually know you extremely well. This includes oral sex or hand jobs. I get few messages, out of thousands of men on the site. Weed out the bad men, make room for the desirable ones. And only use the website for entertainment and just for fun conversation, just one of several avenues to meet someone. The more men you talk to, the better chance you'll have in meeting what you want exactly. There are a lot of people on the net who use people as a ticket to get into a country. That's one thing you have to be careful about. Your other standards are very good  
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mcmeekle said: chillichocaholic said: embroidery??? Excuse my laughter but are u serious? ALl I can think is
Anna Anna ANna Nicole It was just an example. But what's wrong with embroidery? Why nothing  My Grandmother was very good at it :Whistle: PRINCE IS WATCHING U  " When an Artist Creates, whatever they create belongs to society"
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I put an ad on a dating site once...it said "Must love Coke, enjoy inhaling and exhaling, and be able to chew your own food. Good hygiene a plus, but not required."
Man, the stable of cuties I had after that!!  | |
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Byron said: I put an ad on a dating site once...it said "Must love Coke, enjoy inhaling and exhaling, and be able to chew your own food. Good hygiene a plus, but not required."
Man, the stable of cuties I had after that!! Just think of the avalanche of responses you'd have gotten with "must love Pepsi..."  | |
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I am starting to think that the problem I have with dating is, I have made sure that I am "too busy" to get involved. I have convinced myself apparently that If I am busy enough I won't miss it. I am happy. I love the commitments that I have with the different things I am involved in... Thing is... Its never enough to not miss it and now I just look untouchable.
The online thing just doesn't hold my attention very well. I usually get turned off in the middle of the "About me" section. Shake....shake, shake, shake. | |
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Speaking from experience, online dating has it's pros and cons; pros being the ability 2 meet somebody u normally maybe never woulda met "the regular way", also, the "buffet factor" in that all the prospects are displayed 4 u 2 select; then the cons being people with fake profiles/pictures, perverts, and those who treat online dating like a "booty buffet"....
So, I have met some nice guys, but I've also met some idiots online. Same thing can happen in the club or wherever u meet them...I haven't had much luck in the way of a serious relationship as of yet, so I have 2 join u and say that dating does SUCK....A LOT... My  "Bring friends, bring your children and bring foot spray 'cause it's gon' be funky." ~ Prince
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I'm going to write a little ad, in fact I think we all should! and then we can orgnote each other responses! 
If I wasn't married  it might be something like this!
Fun, young acting late 30s lady, 5'6" nice boobs, wants a kind man to enjoy lots of new experiences and lots of laughs. Must like flying and travel. Slim non-smoker, 30s early 40s. as it is: Married lady, tired all the time, short attention span, no time for anything  enjoys a good night's sleep and anything I didn't have to cook myself | |
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TheResurrection said: My AD:
I'm sorta smart. I can at least fool folks by taking really good pics and I don't look like Tiny. I'm a black chick, if you're into that sorta thing. I have a job. I've never been a stripper. I'm not a former crack user. I know how to say some big words. I can read. My parents new each other before having sex and having me. What else do I need to put? This dating thing SUCKSSSSS! I was told by someone that I don't "put myself out there". I have no idea what that means. HELP!!! ( I know this is the nuttiest thing to do, asking the Org for dating tips. )THAT'S your problem right there. Men like a little "stripper" in their chick. Go get a evening gig at the local "shake 'em up" and work there for about 3 months and then tell dudes you used to get ya strip on....Works like a charm.  nWo: bboy87 - Timmy84 - LittleBlueCorvette - MuthaFunka - phunkdaddy - Christopher
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MuthaFunka said: TheResurrection said: My AD:
I'm sorta smart. I can at least fool folks by taking really good pics and I don't look like Tiny. I'm a black chick, if you're into that sorta thing. I have a job. I've never been a stripper. I'm not a former crack user. I know how to say some big words. I can read. My parents new each other before having sex and having me. What else do I need to put? This dating thing SUCKSSSSS! I was told by someone that I don't "put myself out there". I have no idea what that means. HELP!!! ( I know this is the nuttiest thing to do, asking the Org for dating tips. )THAT'S your problem right there. Men like a little "stripper" in their chick. Go get a evening gig at the local "shake 'em up" and work there for about 3 months and then tell dudes you used to get ya strip on....Works like a charm. Aaaaaand we back to "smart women" I never met you, but I LOVE you & I will forever!! Thank you for being YOU - my little Princey, the best to EVER do it | |
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CalhounSq said: MuthaFunka said: THAT'S your problem right there. Men like a little "stripper" in their chick. Go get a evening gig at the local "shake 'em up" and work there for about 3 months and then tell dudes you used to get ya strip on....Works like a charm. Aaaaaand we back to "smart women" Hey, I know some smart strippers! Peaches once told me she was gonna go and take the test to go into Fashion Police!  [Edited 7/5/09 23:27pm] nWo: bboy87 - Timmy84 - LittleBlueCorvette - MuthaFunka - phunkdaddy - Christopher
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MuthaFunka said: CalhounSq said: Aaaaaand we back to "smart women" Hey, I know some smart strippers! Peaches once told me she was gonna go and take the test to go into Fashion Police!
[Edited 7/5/09 23:27pm] You are awful!  I never met you, but I LOVE you & I will forever!! Thank you for being YOU - my little Princey, the best to EVER do it | |
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ThreadBare said: Byron said: I put an ad on a dating site once...it said "Must love Coke, enjoy inhaling and exhaling, and be able to chew your own food. Good hygiene a plus, but not required."
Man, the stable of cuties I had after that!! Just think of the avalanche of responses you'd have gotten with "must love Pepsi..." Yes, all desperate females, no doubt | |
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MuthaFunka said: CalhounSq said: Aaaaaand we back to "smart women" Hey, I know some smart strippers! Peaches once told me she was gonna go and take the test to go into Fashion Police!
[Edited 7/5/09 23:27pm] A friend once got emails from his local stripper talkin' about, "She going to go to collidge to get smart and stuff!" that's a quote...  A working class Hero is something to be ~ Lennon |
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TheResurrection said: My AD:
I'm sorta smart. I can at least fool folks by taking really good pics and I don't look like Tiny. I'm a black chick, if you're into that sorta thing. I have a job. I've never been a stripper. I'm not a former crack user. I know how to say some big words. I can read. My parents new each other before having sex and having me. What else do I need to put? This dating thing SUCKSSSSS! I was told by someone that I don't "put myself out there". I have no idea what that means. HELP!!! ( I know this is the nuttiest thing to do, asking the Org for dating tips. )My dating tip....MOVE TO NYC!!!!! | |
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