My wife pretty much hates me....and I have been very suspicious if she was "talking" to someone else...I haven't found any hard evidence outside of text messages (sent and recieved no content)....but my instincts tell me to be very alert right now....I don't want to reconscile...but I don't want to play the fool either....my life really sucks...

How is your day?

One time I had a dream that I walked in and caught my ex and best friend fucking. That was happening in real life

I'm great, how are you!



Just let me know if I need to give her a schoolin. I'll do it ya know

with press...

I loves you guys...

Richard...she's honestly one of the meanest women I have ever known in my life...I just MAY take you up on this one of these days...

pardonme4livin said:

here's the bonus part of the story. When I had that dream I was so shocked in it that I woke up in an instant and slammed my fist down on his chest while he was sleeping. He bolts up and is all scared and shit and I realized that I had just woken up from a dream and unfairly hit him so I closed my eyes real quick and started thrashing and mumbling.

*shaking me*

Babe! Babe! You're having a bad dream!

mmn, mph, wh, wha, what? where am I!?! OMG

Babe, it's just a dream

oh my god, that was so scary



I'm glad I got my licks in while I had the chance!

pardonme4livin said:

You've seen my anti women threads right? I will show her no mercy, gay queen style

pardonme4livin said:

Aw dayum

well i was doing alright till i read this. j/k

your instincts are probably dead on. get out while you can.

my bf cheated on me. i had no proof but actions speak volumes. so much more than words. took a long time to get over but i can proudly say "FUCK YOU AND THE BITCH YOU RODE IN ON!" Ahhhh.

Often people who suspect their partners of cheating are cheating themselves.

Just sayin’.

CarrieMpls said:

Often people who are overly suspicious and always accusing their partners of cheating are cheating themselves.

People who honestly suspect that their partners are cheating are usually right.

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too bad people just can't grow some blue diamonds and admit they are no longer invested in a relationship. all that sneaking and cheating is a waist of time and makes everybody look like damn fools.

CarrieMpls said:

Your support is always heart warming Carrie...

Instincts are usually dead on.

1sexymf said:

Yeah...I know...

pardonme4livin said:

Give me her number dude. I will tell her the batdick joke and then she will wish she never crossed you.

Imago said:

she would not see the humor in it...

CarrieMpls said:

Thats really odd , my OH has had a few misdemeanours and yes I did have and still do have my suspicions but I would never cheat myself

she might just be making sure you don't read her text messages.
or she could be stepping out. who knows. if she was, would it matter?

I can see with the kids how it wouldn't be ideal. same would go for you though. all the more reason to have a plan on moving forward. what's the frequency, kenneth? ok that didn't make sense. what's the plan, kenneth?

emm said:

The plan is simple...make sure the kids are happy and that I don't get fucked over....she asked me to move out...I refused...I was told that there could be legal ramifications for me if I moved out...so I said hell nah!

I will not get screwed over on this....no ma'am....

I'm sorry you're going through this
Bad times will pass

pardonme4livin said:

have you seen a lawyer then? i know nothing about drawing up separation agreements.

It will lead to two separate households eventually. Do you want to be the one to keep the house and kids? Do you want the house to be sold? Do you want the kids to move back and forth every other week? The ramifications, whether legal or not, suck. My brother in law kept the house and remortgaged to pay my sister out. He's found a really nice woman now though. Kids don't escape unscathed but now that they are grown and on their own they are doing much better.

I have been married for 25 years, 26 years this August. I have never ever felt that my husband was cheating on me, he is as genuine as they come. God love him, his favorite time in life is when he is at home with the family. Saturday's he and I have our date night, and Sunday's are for spending time with the whole family, picnics, beach, laying out in the sun.
I am a very lucky woman indeed.

PaisleyPark5083 said:

YES YOU ARE

DesireeNevermind said:

We are both blessed.

i have an open relationship with no questions asked.

so i would suspect that mine is

I am so sorry Ken.

I'm honestly very sorry to hear all this.

Questions (Please take no offense... and feel free to tell me to @#$! off if I'm treading on sensitive ground):

You have no interest in reconciling, but you also don't want your wife to "be" with anyone else? I'm of the mind she shouldn't be, but... is that not a little selfish of you?

I generally champion reconciliation in these instances, but if there's no interest or hope of it, how is staying together in what sounds like an antagonistic environment helping either of you or the kids?
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Lammastide said:

Because he leaves, the C wins. That's why

Also, Ken, if things are as crappy as you suggest, what makes you think she won't come clean if you just come out and ask her? Does she have a reason to hide anything at this point?

PaisleyPark5083 said:

i'm lucky too! my husband is my soulmate!