Y'know some men do not know how to be gentlemen. I have been near emm and I have hugged and and been close to her and never took advantage of the situation because I am not that kind of person.

I have been the type to save some women from creeps like that and get in the middle. No man should put his hands on a woman in a sexual manner without permission PERIOD!!!. What an asshole that guy was Emm...

emm

All I can suggest is that you contact the police and press charges if possible.

Don't let him get away with it so he cannot do it to someone else.

luv4u said:

Im still heated from this

So sorry you've experienced this, emm. I have run into more than my share in my lifetime. Sometimes it takes a while for us to find our voice but I think yours has surfaced and God help the next creep that tries anything. Take karate or a class at a domestic violence shelter (they are generally free and are fantastic for this type of encounter). You are a strong woman and this will put you on guard and prepared if it happens again. Absolutely tell your cousin. She probably already knows or has suspicions.

Emm, I am sorry you went through this!

In elementary school when I was in 3rd grade, this boy, who I think was in first or second grade touched my ass and sadly I did nothing about it because I was shy and very timid. However, if some guy did that to me now I would slap him and threaten to cut his manhood off.

BTW, everythings gonna be okay.
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emm, I'm so sorry to hear this.


As for contributions to this thread, I'll orgnote you.

Suffice it to say, the creeps I encountered and quickly reported to my parents were usually people in positions of authority/trust.

JustErin said:

bastard

emm said:

Threaten to cut his manhood of if he does that again. Okay baby.

Sorry to hear emm was the first dude a stranger? definitely creepy both of them. Even if your cousin doesn't do much about it (although she should) it's best if the truth is out.

I've never done and never will do anything like that...It's called having respect for a woman.

ZombieKitten said:

i had my first bra at 9! no fair

i was so angry at a teacher in highschool. he repeatedly teased a friend of mine that the only bra she needed was a bandaid (very untrue, but beyond the point.) I didn't know what to call it then but knew it was inappropriate interaction. found out years later when another friend became a teacher and sub'd in his room... that he had a mirror strategically placed on his desk to peek down students shirts when they came to his desk for help.

IAintTheOne said:

steve

I've come to acknowledge that the first guy ten days ago did just that. took advantage of our friendship and of my nature. his actions were just as offensive and wrong and yet i was willing to brush it off. now, however, they combine with the second to make this persistent pit in my stomach. he'll be told to never be around me by himself again.

NastradumasKid said:

it takes a lot to speak out when so young!
hopefully no one was doing anything to that kid to make him act out like that

NMuzakNSoul said:

nope. he tried it on about 9 years ago and i kicked him in the shin. but you can be sure there will never be another incident. as moonsongs said, i've found my voice.

emm said:

I don't think so but then again it's possible and to be honest I lost a bit of innocence that day
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emm said:

we had a teacher that flicked our bra straps from behind

ZombieKitten said:

what the...the most I experienced was on a free dress day and I wore shorts .....I was chatting with friends outside the science block and a female teacher came out and told me all the male teachers were in heaven looking at my legs
I didn't quite know how to respond to that
lol

NastradumasKid said:

He married someone else so he's no longer my problem.

Oh Emm Some men are such shits! I know how you feel though - I've had my share of creeps and sometimes it's hard to know how to react - hindsight is lovely, but when you're in the moment it takes you by surprise that much that your brain kinda shuts down (at least mine did )

2 Experiences spring to my mind:

About 7 years ago I was at a houseparty for my brother's birthday, with just family and close friends. I went upstairs to the bathroom and one of my brother's friends followed me up and tried it on with me.. nice, especially as his pregnant wife was downstairs, as was my husband and entire family. I pushed him away, looked him full in the eye and said 'You really don't want to do that'. Looking back I wish I'd have given him a black eye, but I didn't want to upset his wife and had I have said anything to anyone at the time it could have got nasty.

The other happend a couple of months ago. I went out with some friends on a night out, where we met my friend, Leanne's new fella. Unfortunately I was sober as I was driving, everyone else drank loads though At the end of the evening I offered Leanne and her fella a lift home, she sat in the back, he in the front. When we got there I gave her a kiss goodnight (we're very tactile) as she was getting out of the car HE then decided to grab hold of me and pulled me in for a kiss on the lips :shudder: I pulled away quickly but he still had hold of me and pulled me back and said 'You are SO fuckin sexy - I really would like to fuck you' I was completely floored! I just said 'yeah, yeah Good NIGHT' and tried to laugh it off. Again, looking back I wish I'd have punched him in the neck

So, WHY DO some men think this shit is okay? Entitlement?

This story is the PRIME EXAMPLE of why it's amazing I wasn't raped, injured or killed when I was younger.

When I was in college I lived in a condo with my best friend and a roommate.

It was a 2 room condo, I shared a room and a king sized bed with my friend.

I use to work cleaning the gym at the college we went to. One night I got home and my friend and her boyfriend were asleep in "our" bed.

I knew the guy...he was okay. He was my friends "first".

That night, I had a 101 degree fever. I felt like shit and said as much.

They were sleeping, not in any stage of having sex and I said, "Look, I'm sick and I just want to sleep." I crawled into bed and died.

Next morning, I wake up to the MF'er feeling me up. My friend had gone to take a shower. I put an immediate halt to it. Told him to GTFOUT and if he didn't tell my friend about it I would. He didn't....I did....she dumped his ass.

Never saw him again.

MrsGoodnight said:

bastards! and drinking is no free pass definitely only a creep would proposition a fuck while in the immediate vicinity of your supposed partner/pregnant wife! who does this shit?

meow85 said:

i think that small smarmy group of men that are creeps know that chances are they can get away with it and so keep trying it and keep trying it. power, entitlement, for some. for the second creep, he's such a sorry excuse for a man that it's probably born out of his own sense of failure. i dunno. what do you think?

Nothinbutjoy said:

oh joyjoy bastard! yay for you for speaking out!

I could add some stories, but I'd rather not do. Some men just don't know how to behave .

ocean said:

and the terrible thing is none of us minded it because we were all totally in love with him (I still sometimes fantasise about him )

Mach said:

wow Mach you go!

emm said:

Bullshit...let him know if he does it again you'll call the cops...some men do not realize the things they do sometimes....they think touching is nothing. I hate men like that.

I am very sorry this happened to you Emm.

ZombieKitten said: