Ok this is the sister to the "100+ Relationship Mistakes" thread, (thx CJ). So orgers, what are the keys to a healthy and successful relationship? This goes for love, friendship, family and work. This thread may take a little more thought because while it is easy to see what went or is wrong, finding the solution and making it right may not be easy to see or even commit to (resolution). So let's start off on a good foot.

Here we go:


A Key to a successful relationship is to love yourself first b/c then it is easier to love someone else.


and


Starting from a place of YES rather than a place of NO

DesireeNevermind said:

Is that a euphemism for masturbation? If so, I'm in great shape for a successful relationship.

DesireeNevermind said:

I think this is so key.

Not just because it makes things easier, but because the more you love yourself, the more you heal yourself. This means you're walking around with fewer holes and gaping wounds that you're unconsciously expecting another person to fill up and fix for you - a task that's usually just too hard for another person to do.

mcmeekle said:

I need more loving...and more batteries.

Another key...FORGIVENESS. Sometimes success is born out of a mistake and the willingness to learn from it and move forward. We all deserve another chance to make our relationships a success or at least the consideration.
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Balance of everything

DesireeNevermind said:

...and I have repetitive strain injury.....

mcmeekle said:

dayum

Being trustworthy and honesty.

being faithfull

"That list is 4 things long".



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ACCEPTANCE. if you can't accept the person you're with 100% for who they are, then you don't need to be with them.

Letting your partner talk and not interrupting them. You may not agree with what they say but at least you will both know where the other is coming from. Then make mad sticky hot jungle sex.

Trust
Loyalty
Open communication

a love and respect of all things Prince...

RenHoek said:

That too

Blow jobs

(is that one word i am never sure )

Anxiety said:

Ooh, good one.

That's something I need to remind myself of sometimes. Thanks Anx!

Sharing everything...none of that "this is my food, that's your food" or separate bank accounts. Sharing is a sign of trust, trust builds long and healthy relationships.

(but damn if it isn't hard to share)

DesireeNevermind said:

WHAT!!! You mean I'm supposed to share EVERYTHING!!! Even my Green Tea ice cream!!! Awww hell no...

RenHoek said:

No no no no ... Sharing is good

but sharing everything

I have had my OWN bank accounts since I was a YOUNG teen - still have them

DesireeNevermind said:

Uh, unless its syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia, Trichinosis, AIDS, HIV, herpes, genital warts and creepy crawlies that burrow in you skin ad give you an itchy ass crack. eewwwww keep that shit to YO'self mayne!!!
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Mach said:

but why keep money separate from your partner? are they irresponsible?
why say, don't touch this type food instead of buying enough for the both of you? I think that's why I see it as a trust issue.

paintedlady said:

creepy ass crack crawlies. but you know there is a lot of that type sharing going on.

Understanding.... in any relationship a partner has to be willing to have compassion towards the needs of another. You can't make someone change their entire life and make you the center of their universe. This also falls under the sharing catergory.

which leads to.....

patience, you have to be patient in dealing with someone else. Expect a few flaws, ones you can live with because no one is perfect. BUT never compromise who you are and what you want in a partner. Keep a standard.
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I think to never raise your voice and to be the first to say sorry in an argument even if you think you are not wrong. From time to time at least.

DesireeNevermind said:

irresponsible ? NOT ! Could not see me staying with a man for 24 yrs now if he was

Has zero to do with trust

if he / we need that $ it's THERE for that - I'm just not closing out the 30 some odd yr old accounts that have built up into NICE security funds

Mach said:

Ahhh. well that's another thing entirely.


but i stand by sharing the green tea ice cream or was it just green ice cream?

DesireeNevermind said:

maybe it was just cream

Mach said: