SCNDLS said:

Can I get in on that drive by?

We could go pick up Ocean and her chair... Beat the shit outta that muhfucka

when you first break up with someone, no matter what your intentions are or what their intentions are, YOU ARE NOT FRIENDS. i don't care how progressive or "special" or exceptional two people think they are, it takes time to go from exes to friends. you can't just instantly transition from lover to buddy unless, i don't know, your entire relationship consisted of two fun dates with really bad sex, i guess.

whatever his agenda, whatever your feelings, you guys can NOT be friends right now. no no no.

maybe in a few months. maybe in a year. but not today and not tomorrow.

Anxiety said:

X 1,000,000

errant said:

Aren't you kind of slutty though? Wouldn't it only take about 2 weeks for you considering your absolutely sluttiness?

nope, you can't. This is based on your personality (from the little that I know) combined with my own experiences. Some people out there are perfectly content in being friends after a breakup.



possibilities

1. He's not sincere about wanting to be friends and is asking this out of a polite gesture. To soften the blow so to speak.

2. He's wanting to be friends in the prospects that you may be able to continue sleeping together from time to time (I've done this before )


3. He's wanting to be friends sincerely because he's emotionally well passed loving you in an intimate manner so it never occurs in his mind that maybe this will be unhealthy or difficult for you--he's probably had a head start on you with the breakup in that he's been thinking about it for a long time and has had plenty of time to 'transition' his emotional state. He's being rather selfish even asking you for this then, and this shows just how little respect he has for you.


4. He wants to be your friend cause it's the right thing to do. It's also the healthiest way to come out of a breakup. Again, he's not respecting the fact that it's probably very difficult for you, and again this shows how little sensitivity he has even asking that question to begin with.


Considering the fact that you do not want to be friends, I'm gonna take a wild guess and say that this is harder on you than it is on him. In which case, if he is truly sincere he should have posed the offer this way: "When you're ready, and at your own pace, I'll always be there for you as a friend. You can always call me up."

in which case you should still say no because you're fine as hell and I want to sleep with you.

errant said:

Aren't you kind of slutty though? Wouldn't it only take about 2 weeks for you considering your absolutely sluttiness?

SCNDLS said:

Can I get in on that drive by?

We could go pick up Ocean and her chair... Beat the shit outta that muhfucka

Imago said:

Yes it is hard for me. We were pretty serious.

SCNDLS said:

or that which is even worse

Imago said:

Yes it is hard for me. We were pretty serious.

SCNDLS said:

I know this is a serious thread but

MrsGoodnight said:

Of course! We need to coordinate this mission for REAL. So, everybody wear black, pull your hair back, and don't forget the greasepaint. We'll descend on that ass like some hot female ninjas and regulate

Imago said:

Okay, I'ma quote Steel Magnolias for the second time today: "Laughter through tears is my favorite emotion."

SCNDLS said:

You've single handedly typed the gayest post I've ever seen here on the org...and I've been trying for years to come up with ghey brilliance like that.

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You guys are cracking me up! I feel so much better. Thank you

MrsGoodnight said:

Of course! We need to coordinate this mission for REAL. So, everybody wear black, pull your hair back, and don't forget the greasepaint. We'll descend on that ass like some hot female ninjas and regulate

SCNDLS said:

did somebody say Ninja?



:cut:

SCNDLS said:

did somebody say Ninja?



:cut:

SCNDLS said:

ThreadCula hangin in there this too shall pass.

I didn't answer your question. No, you can't be friends right after a break up and it depends on many others things if you can be friends later on. People who use this line. "Can we be friends", are trying to avoid a scene. I know I've used it and I'm sure many have.

... it's time for some much needed humor and a song.

http://www.youtube.com/wa...ZAi2CuW2yI

[Edited 6/11/09 17:17pm]

ThreadBare said:

ThreadCula said:

Stick with me, lady, and you can keep your first name.


I keed, I keed.

Seriously, don't fall for the old blurred-boundaries routine -- let him miss ya. Go right on with your life just fine without him. I believe God closes doors or allows them to close for a reason.

errant said:

Aren't you kind of slutty though? Wouldn't it only take about 2 weeks for you considering your absolutely sluttiness?

when you first break up with someone, no matter what your intentions are or what their intentions are, YOU ARE NOT FRIENDS. i don't care how progressive or "special" or exceptional two people think they are, it takes time to go from exes to friends. you can't just instantly transition from lover to buddy unless, i don't know, your entire relationship consisted of two fun dates with really bad sex, i guess.

whatever his agenda, whatever your feelings, you guys can NOT be friends right now. no no no.

maybe in a few months. maybe in a year. but not today and not tomorrow.

Imago said:

you accusing someone of sluttendom is kind of like the sore calling the kanker pus-filled, isn't it?