What are the mistakes you feel people make in relationships? This could be love, friend, family or work. Obviously folks are fucking up else we'd all be one big utopia! So aside from the obvious murder, stealing, raping, warring mistakes. What do individuals do wrong in relationships?


I'll start:


Always looking for a flaw. Why look? We all have them

taking each other for granted.

stopping being polite to each other.

Possessiveness

micromanagement

Trying to "fix" a person

dating a person who isnt a Prince fan...

amorbella said:

comparing your current someone to your last someone. get over it already

Thinking 2 becomes 1.

am i trippin'???...

amorbella said:

Nice.

Thinking that someone will change for you


Smooches;)

When one puts their lover first instead of their kids ( IF one has kids)

Your kids should be first people

toots said:

Oh GOD, Don't get me started on this


Too many women are being EXTREMELY irresponsible, regarding their children, and it's so painful to see, hear about or read about

It almost seems that some women are sooooo desperate to have a man next to them, that they will put their children's welfare at risk ABSOLUTE BIGGEST MISTAKE! Your children and their safety comes before any man...or woman for that matter...

RIP Nevaeh Buchanan


Smooches;)

Women that settle for any ol' dude JUST so they can have a wedding and have someone to call "my husband"

Dumb broads

MsMisha319 said:

I see your point, but I think that the health of the relationship trickles down to the kids. Putting your kids first & ignoring the relationship is one way to create a miserable household.

Parents need to worry about their own health & happiness to be the best parents they can be. Put your own oxygen mask on first, so to speak.

But I'm not advocating ignoring your kids so you can go on a date.

waiting for mr or miss perfect to come into your life and not appreciating the person that is there for you right now. guess what...mr and miss perfect don't exist and if they did, they wouldn't want your fucked up ass.

MsMisha319 said:

I agree with you I have seen this too many times myself. I can understand BALANCING out the 2 but neglecting the children in order to have a man by their side AHHHH makes me wanna scream.

NDRU- u have a point too BUT many times the person gets too caught up in the lover to realize it. I have seen this myself. When this is done the child is the one who suffers NOT the parent.

I myself have told many men that my child comes first and if they dont like it there is the door dont let the door hit u where the one you worships split ya

NOONE will change my mind about that.

NDRU said:

I have that problem.
Lowering my standards or at least relax a little is difficult but that should be another thread, 100+ relationship solutions, Desiree?

CJanssen said:

not a bad idea....OK

CJanssen said:

yes! I said it because it is my problem, too. One of them, at any rate!

Trying too hard. If someone wants you they will make the effort. If after awhile you are doing all the work then kiss that relationship goodbye.

angelcat said:

I wanted to post, not doing enough effort but yours kinda is in a way. If you take each other for granted you won't do any effort for whatever thing and I think that's a relationship killer. You have to stay interested imo, just show that you are still alive and driven, even if it's for yourself and not only for that person but for everything, yourself, your house, your friends, your job, not just be a dull lazy smelly ass (like some men....)

CJanssen said:

and excuse me, also some women...

NDRU said:

And I think it is sometimes okay to put your relationship 1st as well
teaches the kids balance and they are NOT the center of the world but that all within the family are just as important as the next

Mach said:

I think Misha was referring to single mothers that expose their kids to every Tom, Dick, and Jamal trying to find a man. I may be wrong but that's what I got.

SCNDLS said:

Yes, that was exactly what I was referring to

Smooches;)

being in a relationship just for the sake of saying youre in one or to make the other person happy or to fulfill an obligation.

drifit said: