Um, orgnote me please. I'll help you with a few tricks I've learned.



Your daughters hair is just dry and fine which equals to splitting ends and breakage.
It'll grow IF you learn to keep it from breaking off and chipping away, all hair grows at about a rate of 1/2 inch per month. The tricky part is keeping that hair in its proper condition.

The proper brushes and combs for her hair will also be needed.
She can't use the same brushes you use on your hair.
Combing and brushing hair when wet will cause extreme damage, and so will excessive heat and the wrong shampoos and not enough conditioning.

Its easy enough once you get the hang of it, you just have to be prepared to spend time while you do her hair.

paintedlady said:

I knew I put the right person on the case.

DO NOT PUT A RELAXER ON HER HAIR!!!!!

My daughter has almost the same kind of hair. The pink lotion is drying her hair out.

Go to a salon and get the Bed head control freak line, it is kinda expensive but it will manage the hair. I used a combination of olive oil and water on my baby's hair for years. All of the store bought moisterizers have alcohol and water in them so you will use more and more because the hair is dry dry dry.

when you wash her hair get WIDE tooth comb almost like a afro pic and comb it out gently and fully while it's wet or with the conditioner in (it when you rise it out do not muss it too much or it will tangle up again). then braid it up in two or 4 big braids to dry. If you want to blow dry it, comb it out in sections, (so part it in 4 or 6 sections and comb it out and braid the sections, then undo each section and blow it dry with a blow dryer with a pick on the end.

www.mixedchicks.net also carries wonderful products.

And their site along with Curls has great 'how-to' videos.


I hope this helps!

butterfli25 said:

Pretty baby

oh, Erin - you will love the products from either site! Curls.biz does have more variety, though.

And DaVanity, Curls.biz has a full line for babies & children I think you will love. Leave the Pink Lotion alone, though. I used to try and use that mess when I was a teen and it gunked up my hair terribly.

butterfli25 said:

Pretty baby

SCNDLS said:

thanks girl, she's becoming a handful here lately, I had to pull out my mama handbook on her ass this weekend

14 that was when she was 12 though, that's my basketball player.

Thanks to all who replied! This was my response to an orgnote so I thought I would add it:

Thanks so much for your response! I'm glad we haven't done anything chemically to it because I figure that is kinda harsh, might burn her hair or scalp or she could have an allergic reaction.

Not true, you can relax the hair, it is not the relaxer you have to worry about.
Its the hair after that is the problem. The hair will become processed and will be even more dry and break off even quicker. This is why relaxed hair is HIGH maintenance hair. It takes more work to do it.

But the salons say this is a new improved type that is supposed to be gentle. That said, we've just asked around, no salon worker has seen or felt her hair, just from what we describe so they would have to see it in person to tell more about it.

True, no salon will say what they will do until they see the hair for a proper consultation. You may take your baby in and they may say anything depending on the condition of her hair, and what you are willing to do with it as far as upkeep.


I commented it as a nightmare because it will be more of a nightmare for her when she grows up and gets too frustrated with it, than it is for me and mom right now because we have that routine I described and it works for all of us right now.

Be careful, many mothers... even Latino moms make their daughters self-conscious and umwittingly end up making daughters hate their heads of hair if you approach doing your daughters hair with a long sigh. But we understand and know all too well how much work you have to put in. But try to come at her with a smile and put in a disney movie w/ popcorn to lessen the feel of time while doing it.... it'll surprise you how much quicker the time goes. (Assuming you don't already have this game plan )

We do a braid on each side very often, usually the day of the wash routine, and leave it in a few days until the next wash, it stays put and out of her face and doesn't get tangly. But it's never been corn-rowed, we don't know how long that would last or if it would start coming loose or even if that would be damaging to have it in for weeks at a time and having the braids so tight.

Cornrows stay in depending on texture of hair... the nappier the better. The looser the curl the frizzier the braid will look, and I kept my niece's in for a week. Because of her texture, and I never braided too tight. I finishd the ends with clear little plastic bands or black rubber ones or beads whenever the mood hit. Its also great for summer camp and summer.


We're all about always putting pretty stuff in her hair and working with it even on the off days when it's dry and we can't get a comb thru it.

That's great! Perfect! No need for cornrows if the plats look nice, and multi-ponytails always looks cute too.

Wouldn't using shampoo on her hair 3 times a weeks be too much? Would that dry it out?
Yes and cause more breakage.


It never gets dirty or oily just dry and tangly. I sometimes leave the conditioner in because it always makes it softer for a day or 2, some of it comes out when I comb it thru and she usually goes to bed soon after so some it gets absorbed into the pillow I guess. I don't use a whole bottle although sometimes I've been tempted LOL just a big handful to coat her hair. What kind of leave-in cond. would you recommend? I think just a spray in would be too light, unless I added another kind, she needs something thick and kinda creamy.

Just use that oil and a good shampoo and conditioner, nothing else is really needed... as she gets older you can switch to other products that are suited for dry curly hair.

Do you have any tips on how to start out with my new baby's hair also? Thanks for your help!



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Also, wouldn't taking a blow dryer to it be really bad and damaging?

YES... all things salons do damage the hair. Anytime you manipulate the texture of hair with any kind of heat, it damages the cuticle, but the salons also condition the hair and "train" it to behave the way it does so that the hair is easier to manage.

I never blow dry my own hair, it's air dry all the way and in the winter I shower before I go to bed so it has time to dry naturally. Seems like that would make her hair more frizzy and dry, even if I did use the heat protection items on it. Yes or no? And we do the same for her, usually bath before bed during colder months so she never goes out with a wet head.

You will have blow dry the hair eventually in the cold months because her hair hold in moisture and will stay damp for over a day. You child will get sick going outside with a damp head of hair. But doing so will 'break down" the hair better and become easier and easier to do over time with repeated use of the blow dryer and conditioners, this is called "Training" the hair.

I asked paintedlady, could I get the coconut oil at WalMart or grocery store, I'm going out tomorrow and if they carry kinda the same thing, I'd be interested in trying it. Get it in the food section right? YES!


So it's a no-go on the Pink Lotion? What about any kind of Sheen Spray? NONE NEEDED she's six years old (just the oil for scalp and hair)... multiple pig tails will do fine.

I'm glad we've only been using those products for a year, her hair was the same way before we started them though, and the lotion is only used twice a week. Thanks so much for all the wonderful responses and help, I wished I would've asked sooner, but we've only just inquired about the salon relaxer recently so I wanted to get all input about the whole situation first. I may take her just so they could look at it and feel it and go from there and tell more about it or what they would suggest. I'm not going to jump into anything! Thanks everyone )

Thanks to all who replied! This was my response to an orgnote so I thought I would add it:

Thanks so much for your response! I'm glad we haven't done anything chemically to it because I figure that is kinda harsh, might burn her hair or scalp or she could have an allergic reaction. But the salons say this is a new improved type that is supposed to be gentle. That said, we've just asked around, no salon worker has seen or felt her hair, just from what we describe so they would have to see it in person to tell more about it. I commented it as a nightmare because it will be more of a nightmare for her when she grows up and gets too frustrated with it, than it is for me and mom right now because we have that routine I described and it works for all of us right now.

We do a braid on each side very often, usually the day of the wash routine, and leave it in a few days until the next wash, it stays put and out of her face and doesn't get tangly. But it's never been corn-rowed, we don't know how long that would last or if it would start coming loose or even if that would be damaging to have it in for weeks at a time and having the braids so tight. We're all about always putting pretty stuff in her hair and working with it even on the off days when it's dry and we can't get a comb thru it. Wouldn't using shampoo on her hair 3 times a weeks be too much? Would that dry it out? It never gets dirty or oily just dry and tangly. I sometimes leave the conditioner in because it always makes it softer for a day or 2, some of it comes out when I comb it thru and she usually goes to bed soon after so some it gets absorbed into the pillow I guess. I don't use a whole bottle although sometimes I've been tempted LOL just a big handful to coat her hair. What kind of leave-in cond. would you recommend? I think just a spray in would be too light, unless I added another kind, she needs something thick and kinda creamy.

Do you have any tips on how to start out with my new baby's hair also? Thanks for your help!

Also, wouldn't taking a blow dryer to it be really bad and damaging? I never blow dry my own hair, it's air dry all the way and in the winter I shower before I go to bed so it has time to dry naturally. Seems like that would make her hair more frizzy and dry, even if I did use the heat protection items on it. Yes or no? And we do the same for her, usually bath before bed during colder months so she never goes out with a wet head. I asked paintedlady, could I get the coconut oil at WalMart or grocery store, I'm going out tomorrow and if they carry kinda the same thing, I'd be interested in trying it. Get it in the food section right? So it's a no-go on the Pink Lotion? What about any kind of Sheen Spray? I'm glad we've only been using those products for a year, her hair was the same way before we started them though, and the lotion is only used twice a week. Thanks so much for all the wonderful responses and help, I wished I would've asked sooner, but we've only just inquired about the salon relaxer recently so I wanted to get all input about the whole situation first. I may take her just so they could look at it and feel it and go from there and tell more about it or what they would suggest. I'm not going to jump into anything! Thanks everyone )

I find the connection in this thread extremely endearing