do I let myself get sucked in like this.

I've made really good friends with a bloke at work. We talk for hours each day at work, text eachother 6 or 7 times in the evenings and at weekends, been out a few times with group of friends but also few times just us (which he's instigated). He's been really sweet to me and we get on brilliantly, we could talk for days. He flirts a lot, always touching my arm, my hands etc.

So you'd think things are looking pretty good. So, I decide to tell him that I want more out of it and guess what?! He sees me as a friend!! I just don't understand!! He says he gets on better with me than he ever did with his long term ex but just wants to be mates. To me the most important thing is finding someone that you want to spend time with, who you can talk to and who excites you. Someone who you feel you could do anything with. And to me that's him. I could scream!!!!!

Shame on you! You've got a friend, one of the best things in life and you can only think of f***ing him

PANDURITO said:

Not the only thing but yeah, admittedly it one of the things I think about!

You seem to miss my point. I think we'd be good together because we get on so well. I didn't fancy him to begin with but do now I've got to know him - I fancy the person more than the way he looks whereas he seems to be looking for the opposite. Looks before the person.

u have let him know ur feelings, the next step is up to him.

but if he isnt interested, id be saying he cant be flirting/touching etc...its sending u mixed messages.

Can you take this friendship the way he intends it? If not, then it sounds like you could use a bit of distance. I hope you can find a way of sorting it out.

starfish100 said:

are you at a point in your life where you feel like you don't need any other friends? a good friend is good to find. its been said before that once you relax and stop looking for someone they tend to just fall into your lap. relax and enjoy the time.

Thanks for your replies, kind of you.

I wasn't looking for anything, he's a good friend who I've got to know better recently, the more got to know him the more I like him.

I really thought he was interested. He's arranged nights out for just us (even though we have mutual good friends nearby), he texts me loads, spend 2-3 hours a day at work talking to eachother, we've planned great holidays together which we can't afford so buy lottery tickets in hope of winning, he compliments me a lot....I could go on. Saddens me when we get on so well, think we could be really good together.

What frustrates me is that he says how well we get and that makes him feel shallow and wonder if he's looking for the wrong thing. Granted I'm not angelina jolie but I'm not that bad! He isn't stunningly good looking either - i wouldn't look twice at him if I didn't know him - it's HIM that I like. Just wish he could see it the same way.

Just hope I haven't ruined our friendship.