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Printableerrant said: Cinnie said: Perhaps I'm blessed, but I always found that another door opened as the other was closing.
slut!  I wasn't even implying that kinda closeness | |
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Harlepolis said: Do you fight it and push yourself into their lives, or do you let things take their course and let them be?
I've been kinda hurt these past few months because I can tell that me & my BEST girlfriend are growing apart. Part of me says love her from a distance and respect her space, the next part of me says you might never replace her with anybody else. I've been torn about this. [Edited 5/29/09 17:57pm] I have had this many times. I don't fight it. It's the way life goes. | |
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If she's not meeting you 1/2 way, just chill out on the effort & see what happens. It's frustrating & hurtful but the healthiest thing you can do is just accept that it may turn out to be a very distant friendship (if it exists at all) & get comfortable w/ that. Your heart is telling you to leave the door open to that person, & that's cool. But don't keep trying so hard or you'll end up resenting her for not doing the same.
It's so weird b/c to be a friend to someone, you're really just being yourself. So when you're rejected on the basis of friendship, it feels really personal & awful & we can't imagine why we'd be so disposable to the other person  But sometimes it's not even about us, they may be going through something & not even be aware of how their actions are effecting us (or they are & don't give a shit @ that time). It sucks but over time it doesn't feel as bad, that's just how it goes. Roll with it, put the focus back on yourself    I never met you, but I LOVE you & I will forever!! Thank you for being YOU - my little Princey, the best to EVER do it | |
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CalhounSq said: they may be going through something & not even be aware of how their actions are effecting us.
Yeah, thats what I've been thinking too. She stuck with me through HELL and I don't want to know about her going through some shit without me reaching out or AT LEAST letting her know that my door is always open. I'm having a family get-toghether next week, and knowing that she considers them family too, I called her and told her about it real casually so she won't feel left out(god knows how sensitive she is about these things ).
But yes, I'm letting things take their course. Thanx CalhounSq. | |
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