Are any of you in a situation like me?

I can say "I love you" with ease to those I truly do love, no problem...girlfriends, lovers, friends, etc. But when it comes to saying it to family, it suddenly becomes harder lol ...I don't think my family has ever been very big on saying "I love you" to each other, DEFINITELY not between me and my siblings. Yet I have THE most loving and supportive family anyone could ever ask for ...My brother and sisters and I have been like each other's best friends almost all our lives...we adore spending time together, always available for all kinds of support and guidance...hell, we vacation together regularly and have a blast doing so. ..I don't think a family could be closer than the one I've been blessed to have been born into.

But we almost never say "I love you" lol ...I say it to my mom at the end of each phone call, though, and it seems natural. But she's the only family member that occurs with. We HAVE said it to each other, of course...but it's more like a Haley's Comet type of occurance lol. Make no mistake, none of us question even for one moment whether or not we are loved...we know we are. It's expressed constantly and in a multitude of ways. It's just that, for some reason, the only way in which we choose not to express it is with the words "I love you" lol...

Is anyone else in a similar situation?

I texted my mom over the weekend..."Good luck at the horse show. Love you"
She texted back....."LY2"

pearle said:

when my mom was here, i told her i love you every day. it never dawned on me that until i looked at this thread that i have not said i love you to anybody in the two years since her death.

Most of my family NEVER says 'I love you' with the exception of my dad, who tells me everytime we talk on the phone


I just don't have a very mushy family, and the love is just implied.

It is nice to hear it sometimes though

Until only the past 2 or 3 years this had been an issue with me also. I have always been able to say "I love you" to relatives, but I couldn't say it first. Now, I'm able to say it first to anyone except, for some reason, my brother. (And, of course, he won't say it first either.) I do love him, and I'm sure he loves me, but I suspect it's a guy thing.
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Lammastide said:

my brother gave me a hug for the first time in like a decade this year, and even though we're best friends, it didn't feel natural

pearle said:

my daughter does "ily"

and she is the only one I say "I love you" to without thinking about it

veronikka said:

My daughter does the "ily" thing as well lol ...(or "ily2" if I've said it first in a text message).

Byron said:

I thought she had mispelled "silly" at first

thekidsgirl said:

I don't think I've even touched my brother since I was in middle school.

veronikka said:

I thought she was saying "Oily" lol

Saying "I Love You"

This is a Neil Diamond tune isn't it ?



Anyway ~ I don't have a prob telling anyone I love that I love them




I love you Byron

Byron said:

i tell everybody i love them.
family, friends, strangers on the train
and mean it!

only person i cant say it to and thats my uncle. we have a weird relationship
i dont know what it is but i dont like him. i love him..but dont like him.
And i have never told him i love him nor do i think i ever will

DanceWme said:

SirPsycho said:

do u ever say to urself Matt, i love u man?

DanceWme said:

Same

Mach said:

LY2

Mach said:

i love u Mach!

Byron said:

I always say I love you to my kids and husband, all day everyday. I just want it to be known and never forgotten, that I love them. I will always remember when my Mom was alive, it blew her away one day when my little 4 year old boy came up to me and said "I love you, Mom" she thought it was odd.
She never understood, that you can say I love you to someone, just because.

DanceWme said:

what are you implying...


you said that like you know me well

SirPsycho said:

a little bird whispered some stuff to me.

DanceWme said:

well to answer your question?....not often enough, im told

I can type it on an online forum with no issues.
But with friends or family, I only ever say it if I mean it. And that is rarely

It's not something I give out willingly like tender morsels of my cock.

I never say it to family. I do say it to certain friends, but that's a select few. I do love my family, but there's SO much history, it's hard to actually say it.

My son and I say it to each other a billion times a day. I say it to my mom when she says it first. I never say it to my dad or my brothers - even though we are really close.

I say "I love you" all the time - to my mother, my in-laws, my brother, cousins, aunties, kids, and of course my husband. My family's very free with the "I love you"s.

we all say it on the phone all the time, but probably not so much face to face. (my kids are the exception)