Like I said, if we were talking about a newborn that wasn't his, or a kid he'd had no hand in raising that wasn't his and he was being asked for child support I'd agree with you fully. But we're not. We're talking about a 10 year that he has already been raising and supporting, even with his earlier suspicions about the kid's paternity.

It's not legal entrapment. What it is is asking a person not to let down a kid they've already been responsible for. The adults need to put aside their stupidity and drama and think about what's really best for the kid. Is it having the father figure he's known his whole life involved in supporting him, at least financially, or is it leaving the mother to raise him herself? Assuming neither adult was abusive and is fit to parent, IMO the first option is clearly what's best for the kid.

This shit is not about the adults involved, and never is. The man needs to suck it up, quit crying, and accept the responsibility he has already taken on.

remove the 10 year old. It's only relevant to this article. If a woman is woman enough to perpetrate a lie on an innocent man, she should be fully responsible for that decision that only she made. it's legalized racqueteering.
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That would be different, but this isn't arbitrary at all. This is a child he has known and helped raise for years.

That's why he said he's torn, because he loves the child,
but he has another family to take care of too, his flesh and blood.

I agree the child is being punished in this situation but he went into it believing something is true that is not and it absolutely should be on the woman for pulling a lie in the first place.

Absolutely

Absolutely

Ok, how? By punishing the child? Because that's all that is happening here.

Ok, how? By punishing the child? Because that's all that is happening here.

It's fucked up and WRONG that a child can be used as a weapon like that. The state steps in at that point and SHE is responsible for paying the state back. How about that? Child doesn't suffer and she is held responsible.

Ok, how? By punishing the child? Because that's all that is happening here.

Hmm see the bolded text above. The mother of that child LIED period.

What does the mother do for a living?

On welfare?, into drugs?, or too lazy to work so uses the child support as her income?

If you raise the kid, it's yours. His claim would be valid if he hadn't had a hand in this child;s upbringing and was now being asked for child support, but he did.

What kind of a selfish fuck does a person have to be to deny a child they've known, raised, and hopefully loved its' whole life support? Genetics be damned. Using the logic this winner is using, adoptive parents who split up shouldn't be obligated to pay child support either.

If more men could be responsible parents, this wouldn't even be an issue...

It's fucked up and WRONG that a child can be used as a weapon like that. The state steps in at that point and SHE is responsible for paying the state back. How about that? Child doesn't suffer and she is held responsible.

Excuse me? What does her lying have to do with putting a child's best interest first? Fact of the matter is, that kid is here now - whether she lied or not. The kid grew up thinking this man was their father and now that is being ripped away.

So what is your solution to have it all be on the woman and not punish the child? Or are you actually saying that the child's best interest should not be taken into consideration because their mother lied?

Are you fucking kidding me???

I don't see why that makes him responsible for child support.

Women should keep their legs together and men should keep their zippers up.

Women should keep their legs together and men should keep their zippers up.

And have online relationships only!

Problem solved!

If you raise the kid, it's yours. His claim would be valid if he hadn't had a hand in this child;s upbringing and was now being asked for child support, but he did.

What kind of a selfish fuck does a person have to be to deny a child they've known, raised, and hopefully loved its' whole life support? Genetics be damned. Using the logic this winner is using, adoptive parents who split up shouldn't be obligated to pay child support either.