JustErin said:

I am going to assume that after 24 + yrs with the same man - I would already know - ya know

So no ... I would not ask why

Quickly kill me after sex

CarrieMpls said:

Politeness has its place but there are emotions involved and one or the other ususally doesn't wannt the relationship to end, so the response from that person is never going to be, "okay, thats fine, thanks for letting me know." I wouldn't want a break up wrapped up in politeness, I would want the truth, however ugly.

Mach said:

You'd be surprised how many peopple have absolutley no idea their relationship is going belly up. E.G your partner could be having an affair and be as happy as larry around you, no clues etc until the day he walks out, after 24 years I'd demand an explanationa and get one!

I don't know that there's any good way. I have been broken up with very respectfully, and reacted horribly to it.

But I suppose that the respectful & honest breakup doesn't have long term effects, as perhaps her & her new man laughing at my pain might.

LleeLlee said:

After investing 24 yrs, he walks ... I'm not sure I would be interested in the excuse



To each their own

Mach said:

Wouldnt you be hurt?

LleeLlee said:

Very

very much so, yes

Just man up and say "it's not working for me" or whatever. no need to be rude or insulting about it. Just cut it clean, be nice.

...go with letter A...
..mzsexybaby

^ Get that a lot, huh?

JustErin said:

I would. Cuz I'd need to understand why. A good and peaceful conversation is the best way according to me. Afterwards I would say "It's ok you can go now"

MarySharon said:

I'm the most laid back, drama free person ever and I would still want to know what they felt. I might not get the answer and I would have to deal with that but at least I asked.

Brutal honesty.

ernestsewell said:

...no..i'm the one that does the leaving..and when i'm out i tell u how it is..because we are grown and if u are a man like u THINK u are..then take it like one..with no tears...oh but then u ernest u are LIKE a little boy..u might start crying
..mzsexybaby

a) brutal honesty "you just aren't my type, really. Please don't call me again"

mzkqueen03 said:

..imagine someone saying to you. "I believe I can do better."

ernestsewell said:

I always laugh when people say they've never been dumped.

I've only ever dumped someone once - my son's father. Everyone else ripped my heart out and jumped on it a little too.

endymion said:

Yes.

NDRU said:

This is also good.

JustErin said:

It's all about saving face, and pride. Yet pride comes before a fall. Weird cycle people get into that way. It seems that if the other person ALWAYS does the leaving first, then they're probably a player and lack a true sense of commitment anyway, and it's better they stay single.

a)

Email.

LleeLlee said:

hmmm... I was thinking mostly in a casual or the beginning of a relationship. I'm assuming you're not already married or going down that kind of path, I guess.
And I've been broken up with and had pretty much that exact response. The guy actually took me out to dinner and told me he really liked me and thought very highly of me but that he was getting back together with his ex. What more could I say at that point other than "OK, that's fine, thanks for letting me know"? This was years ago and interestingly enough I still consider him kind of a friend.

But I think even when being polite there are emotions. That doesn't make it less real or valid.

CarrieMpls said:

I was thinking of it from the perspective of a long term relationship, years rather than weeks or months. You're right, if its casual or short term, then not raking over the details would be fine for most people. I think when both of you have invested years you need to know why because it plays a huge part in the healing process. In fact, i think (imo) not knowing why it happened can prolong the agony of a break up.

someone once broke up with me by writing me a letter on white house stationery. i should find that shit and sell it on ebay.

Anxiety said:

Monica, is that you?

NDRU said:

:lol;

JustErin said:

I've never been dumped. I could never get anybody in the first place to have the opportunity to dump me.