My mother exited my life in 1972, of her own volition...she chose her personal happiness over her children...

....I observe Mother's Day by honoring my wife, who has put up with my shit, stayed by my side, and helped me raise two great kids....

...as for mom...

..yeah, that pretty much says it all...

reneGade20 said:

I lost my mom to ovarian cancer in '89. I don't remember much anymore I was 15 at the time. I remember mostly the little things like cooking certain dishes, or memories linked to good times (of which there were many). It is becoming difficult again, as my son grows up and knows learns about mums and dads. "Everone has a mamma and daddy, daddy, but where is your mamma?"

I wish she could have seen her grandson.

LadyFunkSoldier said:

I love you, T.

reneGade20 said:

You turned out pretty darned well, Mother or not! 's and blessings.

OMG this is an incredible thread. i haven't lost my momma but i just wanted to come up in here and give all y'all a big hug.

Man...

Wanted to come in here and give much love to everyone.

My mother died 4/20/00 from complications of a life lived hard.
She missed really knowing my children and my husband. I am grateful I learned how to be a good mother in spite of her pathetic example. But, I love her and miss her.

my moms bday was yesterday
its been 2 years since they died
i have grown to loathe living through mothers day and fathers day
but if it wasnt for God.

I dont know where'd be...i miss my mom and dad alot.

its hard...

laydeefly said:

sorry double post mistake
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missmad said:

[Edited 5/7/09 18:38pm]

I lost my mom New Years eve 1999.
I remember most: Her beauty. Her laughter. Her kindness. Her fearlessness.

So sorry for all of you that have lost your mothers. Big hugs to all of you.

I lost my mum two months before I gave birth to her first grandchild and the day after Mothers day. She was so excited about becoming a grandma and the fact she never made it kills me everyday. On Mothers day my daughter and I go to her grave and lay some roses down for her. Fathers day is equally bad as I lost my dad 12 years previous, but my daughter will always know about her grandparents because through me they will live on.

I met a girl at my gym recently who new my parents back in the 70's (before I was born!) and it was because of my parents that she is doing the job she does now. My parents used to foster and adopt children, usually with special needs but sometimes problem children and this woman I met always wanted to do that after meeting with my parents and now she is, because of my parents she is turning other childrens lives around. The influence my parents had was amazing and I just wish they were still here.

to all the orgers who have lost their mums

and to my husband- who lost his mum at age 4 -b4 i was even born



and for any orger whose mum/gran is suffering dementia/alzheimers(sp?)

Fury said:

they both must have been amazing women

Mine died Nov. 27, 1996

What I remember most about mom is her sense of humor.

What I used do was bring flowers to her grave, on Mother's Day. Now I send a memorial contribution to her favorite charity.

This is a nice thread. It's nice to be able to have people posting without baiting, attacking and name-calling for once.

psychodelicide said:

it is.

missmad said:

Mach said:

same here. Almost 70 now

I lost my mother in August of 2007 and I'm still not over it. Well, we never fully get over it but it does get better as time goes by. There's not a day that goes by that I don't have at least one thought of her. She's always in my thoughts and always will be because she was part of who I am.

I truly understand what you are going through and it must be pure hell. In my mother's last days, not only had her mind gone, but her speech as well. She just sat up in the hospital bed trying to speak but it came out sounding like those chants that the Native Americans used to do in the old cowboy movies. All I can say is, hang on in there and try to focus on the days when she did remember you.

Fury said:

BeyonceLover said:

i still don't like beyonce ...but thanks anyway

Much Blessings. This thread is well hit home.



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[Edited 5/10/09 9:42am]

thanks everybody who shared their memories...we'll do it again next year



Fury

uPtoWnNY said:

You know...I was afraid to read this thread. I was worried that it would send me into a cyring fit. I finally got brave enough to read it. I have a little problem...actually...it was little on Mothers day...but because I didn't do what I should have...its a BIG problem.

You see...I didn't call my sister on mothers day (she is not a mom). She didn't call me either (and I am a mom).

I didn't want to call her because she is a MAJOR "debbie downer" and would have tried to make me feel bad for enjoying my day.....and I dont call her much because she always makes me cry or attempts to make me feel very guilty for not walllowing in pain the way she does. I just believe that life has to go on...and I'm not supposed to live it hurting all the time....I dont think that honors my mom at all. I cant really talk about my mom without getting emotional so I dont. It doesn't mean I'm going to forget her....

and when we do talk...she's gonna be all hell bent because I didn't call her and I'm gonna want to strangle her for being such a selfish "debbie downer" I spoke to my dad on Mothers day...he feels the same way about my sister. he said he puts the phone down and walks away.....