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JerseyKRS said: are you going to cook dinner now??
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yup, just lost a big part of my heart because i refused to change what i believe in.
 hope things work out for yaOne of the best days of my life... http://prince.org/msg/100/291111
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oh and i hope dinner was good  One of the best days of my life... http://prince.org/msg/100/291111
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RenHoek said: JerseyKRS said: are you going to cook dinner now??
sorry but... That fucker is so full of shit.
He has been so incredibly supportive, and I'd be a mess through this without him.  The Normal Whores Club | |
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FunkMistress said: RenHoek said: sorry but... That fucker is so full of shit.
He has been so incredibly supportive, and I'd be a mess through this without him. Plus u could slip arsenic in his dinner  | |
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nakedpianoplayer said: yup, just lost a big part of my heart because i refused to change what i believe in.
hope things work out for ya
I'm realizing that I can't allow people to treat me in an unacceptable way, no matter what they are going through, no matter what their reasons. That is not compassion, that is allowing people to walk on me and enabling their irrational and fucked up beliefs. I can't do it, even if it costs me important relationships. I've decided that holding on to relationships (outside of my immediate family) isn't as important as being true to what I know is right. That includes not allowing people to use their pain as a weapon against me. That includes calling people on it when they are behaving unacceptably towards me, instead of making excuses for them because I feel for them. It feels cold, but it also feels necessary. The Normal Whores Club | |
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I will NOT post on this thread!  I won't back down!!! I'll show you!!! I won't be bullied into postin--
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FunkMistress said: Mach said: Yes I have and I have lost people over my "ground"
I remind myself that their issues are THEIR issues and no matter how they try to word it or turn their issue around on me, that MY choice is mine and is right and good for me! If they do not want to support my choice then I wish them well anyway and walk on It is never my intention to hurt another though I know that sometimes my choices or actions may  we all have been or will be on both sides of that fence
When I know I am doing the right thing for me then I can move forward and not feel as much need to listen to ( take on ) the guilt. It can actually fule my path when people do try to toss that at me  
People are continuing to throw guilt trips at me, and I am trying to be gentle and not hurtful. The person I am dealing with lost her mother three months ago, who was also extremely dear to me. She, and her husband, are trying to throw that in my face when it has nothing to do with the situation at hand. ahhh damn - projected pain mixed with their issues about your kids ... Also may be why they are not thinking acting right - grief causes people to act outta wack | |
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FunkMistress said: I'm reading Mach's post over and over again to help me remember to not get sucked in by other people's issues. It's so hard when I truly care about them. It hurts that they feel I'm being an insensitive asshole for daring to defend my children.
YOU are being just the oppisit of what they think -
YOU are being sensitive - you are putting children before adults even under pressure - not much more you can do to truely be sensitive hun | |
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FunkMistress said: I'm realizing that I can't allow people to treat me in an unacceptable way, no matter what they are going through, no matter what their reasons. That is not compassion, that is allowing people to walk on me and enabling their irrational and fucked up beliefs. I can't do it, even if it costs me important relationships. I've decided that holding on to relationships (outside of my immediate family) isn't as important as being true to what I know is right. That includes not allowing people to use their pain as a weapon against me. That includes calling people on it when they are behaving unacceptably towards me, instead of making excuses for them because I feel for them. It feels cold, but it also feels necessary. | |
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 "Stop worryN about what people say...aint gonna stop 'em anyway."  | |
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FunkMistress said: nakedpianoplayer said: yup, just lost a big part of my heart because i refused to change what i believe in.
hope things work out for ya
I'm realizing that I can't allow people to treat me in an unacceptable way, no matter what they are going through, no matter what their reasons. That is not compassion, that is allowing people to walk on me and enabling their irrational and fucked up beliefs. I can't do it, even if it costs me important relationships. I've decided that holding on to relationships (outside of my immediate family) isn't as important as being true to what I know is right. That includes not allowing people to use their pain as a weapon against me. That includes calling people on it when they are behaving unacceptably towards me, instead of making excuses for them because I feel for them. It feels cold, but it also feels necessary. wow, i TOTALLY know how you feel!!!! i couldnt have said it better myself it hurts me to do what i did because i am usually the peacemaker in my family and i tend to take the crap so other people dont have to be hurt, but there comes a time when you realize that your feelings are JUST AS IMPORTANT as someone elses and to not stand up for yourself when someone hurts you with their actions is a horrible thing to do to YOU.
for me it feels strange because i have never done it, but at the same time it felt great! and in the end i am very happy for what i did and plan to continue to stand up for myself. hopefully it will be better for both of us, we are good people who dont deserve to be hurt One of the best days of my life... http://prince.org/msg/100/291111
love is a gift
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nakedpianoplayer said: FunkMistress said:
I'm realizing that I can't allow people to treat me in an unacceptable way, no matter what they are going through, no matter what their reasons. That is not compassion, that is allowing people to walk on me and enabling their irrational and fucked up beliefs. I can't do it, even if it costs me important relationships. I've decided that holding on to relationships (outside of my immediate family) isn't as important as being true to what I know is right. That includes not allowing people to use their pain as a weapon against me. That includes calling people on it when they are behaving unacceptably towards me, instead of making excuses for them because I feel for them. It feels cold, but it also feels necessary. wow, i TOTALLY know how you feel!!!! i couldnt have said it better myself it hurts me to do what i did because i am usually the peacemaker in my family and i tend to take the crap so other people dont have to be hurt, but there comes a time when you realize that your feelings are JUST AS IMPORTANT as someone elses and to not stand up for yourself when someone hurts you with their actions is a horrible thing to do to YOU.
for me it feels strange because i have never done it, but at the same time it felt great! and in the end i am very happy for what i did and plan to continue to stand up for myself. hopefully it will be better for both of us, we are good people who dont deserve to be hurt Yeah, but now that I've calmed down, I'm realizing that tossing away relationships that are really important to me isn't something I want to do. She really doesn't hurt me on purpose. It was more her husband who was attacking me and using his wife's pain against me, and I really don't have a relationship with his ass in the first place. The Normal Whores Club | |
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It is a part of life. Either people are contributing something positive 2 u or they are not. If they are not, it is time 2 turn them loose. Related or not. | |
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FunkMistress said: nakedpianoplayer said: wow, i TOTALLY know how you feel!!!! i couldnt have said it better myself it hurts me to do what i did because i am usually the peacemaker in my family and i tend to take the crap so other people dont have to be hurt, but there comes a time when you realize that your feelings are JUST AS IMPORTANT as someone elses and to not stand up for yourself when someone hurts you with their actions is a horrible thing to do to YOU.
for me it feels strange because i have never done it, but at the same time it felt great! and in the end i am very happy for what i did and plan to continue to stand up for myself. hopefully it will be better for both of us, we are good people who dont deserve to be hurt Yeah, but now that I've calmed down, I'm realizing that tossing away relationships that are really important to me isn't something I want to do. She really doesn't hurt me on purpose. It was more her husband who was attacking me and using his wife's pain against me, and I really don't have a relationship with his ass in the first place. well, i hope things go well for you
for me, i've calmed down, and i can still see that the relationship was best left alone... im still happy i did what i did, not sure i could live with myself the way things were. either way, i hope in the future you (and i) can remember that standing up for yourself and your feelings is a perfectly healthy thing to do and you are important, so is your heart - dont let others walk all over it!! One of the best days of my life... http://prince.org/msg/100/291111
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Billmenever said: "Stop worryN about what people say...aint gonna stop 'em anyway." luv luv luv this!  I swear the words "HATER" is wayyy over-rated...smh | |
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