2 continue my debate between the battles of the sexes, how do you all feel about a woman, getting down on her kness and proposing 2 a man? As for me I don't think I would do it. Once I asked my grandmother about this same question and she said "a woman should never ask a man's hand in marraige all because of the fact that, a man knows who he loves and if he wants 2 me marry you, he'll asked, however. If he haven't popped the big question, it's obviously he doesn't want 2 marry you and you're waisting each other time."

I kinda agree with this and then again I kind of don't. I know commitment can be hard thing, especailly if you're talking about spending the rest of your lives together. I also understand that it's sometimes how for a man 2 truly express what he feels inside, but then again I can see where my grandmother is coming from, because if a man wants you he'll want regardless if he's having a hard time with his emotions or not. Like in my other thread about "intelligent women" I think this has alot 2 do with playing role reversal. In my opinnon it is a man's job to buy the ring, get on his knees and ask the love of his life her hand in marraige. then of course he has to go meet her folks and everything 2 get the parents blessings.

I can't imagin myself, getting on my knees asking a guy hand in marraige then going to meet his folks for the blessing, I would feel weird about it. The only way I would do it is, if we eloped .

So what do u all think about a woman asking a guy 2 marry her?

by pass all that shit and


NEVER EVER EVER GET MARRIED..!!!

DORA said:

:LOL: I second that!

totally unrelated but ...Carrie is your avatar from the olivia pin up painting?

No I don't think it's from Olivia. It was from a website with 50's pinups.

I do love Olivia though! My room is covered with her paintings. I have her second book "Let them Eat Cheesecake" but I don't have the first one.

CarrieLee said:

oh because i was crusing through a gallery of her paintings on a website this morning and there was something that looked a lot like your avi...i love her too

Women have always asked me to marry them. I'm not being conceited, it has just always worked that way. It's a relationship killer because it puts a lot of pressure on a person.

I do believe in marriage as an institution though.

One of my friends that is a woman asked a man to marry her and he did. They got married in 2000 had a quick ceremony in Las Vegas and then a big wedding also in 2000 me was one of her brides mates. They seem to be very much in love 2001 they had a baby. I asked her why she asked him to marry her, and she said they kept talking about wanting to be married to start a family and follow by their religion beliefs to not have pre-martial sex. I myself wouldn't ask for a man to marry me. I would probably talk to him about marriage, but it just depends on the relationship status.

Beign a non-traditional kinda gal, if I wanted to marry a man, and thought it was right and all that, I wouldn't wait for him to ask, but I don't think I'd get down on one knee either. It would be more of a discussion. Less of a ritual.

Although, I just don't see marriage in my future. I'm not saying never, I just don't see it right now...