Okay, so hypothetically speaking, let me pose this scenario to you:

A woman who is fully aware of Mike's past, was warned by others to stay away from him, and he told her when they met he was gonna fuck her. He calls her waking her up out of her sleep at 1:30 am and asks her to come over, she says no. He begs, she asks her roommate to go with her. Her roommate says, Hell Naw! And although she had no sexual interest in him, she decided to meet him in the lobby in her PJs and proceeds to go with him to his hotel room at 3 am. As a result, he rapes her. Do you think she bears ANY responsibility for placing herself in this precarious situation with a nut she knew was a nut in the first place?

We don't have to go there because I don't believe her either when she said she didn't think sex was involved, thus I don't believe that she was raped but a willing participant. I believe she saw dollar signs and that is what drove her.

I would question a woman's judgement but I still wouldn't in her face or anywhere say she deserved to be raped because she has fucked up judgement.

We don't have to go there because I don't believe her either when she said she didn't think sex was involved, thus I don't believe that she was raped but a willing participant. I believe she saw dollar signs and that is what drove her.

I would question a woman's judgement but I still wouldn't in her face or anywhere say she deserved to be raped because she has fucked up judgement.

What's the difference between having fucked up judgment and bearing a share in the responsibility for exposing yourself to a dangerous situation?

I can't WAIT to read THAT answer.

What's the difference between having fucked up judgment and bearing a share in the responsibility for exposing yourself to a dangerous situation?

Something tells me them Orgnotes is on FIYAH!!!

in otherwords rape victims aren't victims. poor judgement or not I don't believe that.

No, those are YOUR words I did not say that. BUT do you not take precautions to avoid KNOWN dangerous situations?

I can't WAIT to read THAT answer.

what does bearing responsibility mean to you? I take responsibility for my actions is an admission that i am the person in the wrong. A rape victim is the one who is wronged regardless.

The only way it can be linked to a woman is in the way she raises her son. That is it.

Anyone that thinks a woman needs to prevent rape in any other way is absolutely 100% wrong, wrong, wrong and their attitude is actually contributing towards this kind of violence towards women.

And maybe that's the problem right there - You feel the responsibility for rape prevention falls SOLELY AND ONLY ON THE MAN.

Sadly, there are people HERE who probably believe that. Wow.

So what role do you feel woman should play in preventing rape?

She should take the proper and necessary precautions that would lessen her chances of being a victim. It's ALWAYS about precautionary measures when dealing with crime.

Take it like this, if your house gets robbed, are you just gonna blame the robbers and then NOT take necessary precautions to protect your house? You aren't gonna leave your windows and doors unlocked, right? Well, hell, your body is the ULTIMATE house and should ALWAYS be job 1 in terms of protection.

In Desiree's case, she left her doors unlocked and a robber saw opportunity and robbed her house.

What role do you feel men should play in preventing rape?

That's hard. Because rape is a crime of power and men and power go hand in hand. To get into a rapist's head is hard to do. Castration for offenders is always a good route. But to prevent men from raping...It's more so on that man to show restraint and resist that need for that particular power. Education is really the other alternative, especially on young men. Once they see the end result of their violation, hopefully it'll turn them off from that shit.

What did I start?!

Exactly. And that's exactly why no one answered my OTHER question: Why does SHE get a pass for NOT using common sense and instead putting herself in a bad situation but Mike doesn't that same pass for the SAME reasons?

(And y'all gon' make me run outta posts, watch! )

What kind of education? What is it that they should learn when it comes to rape and preventing it?

Respect for females. And they need to learn they gonna do some time if they DO go that route.

What does 'respect for females' exactly mean when discussing rape? In other words, what exactly do men need to learn when it comes to them being in that kind of situation?

Pretty much. Booty Calls: After 11PM. Fact.