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Ever feel like your going absolutely no where in life? So what do you do?
I think I'm having a mid-life crisis. But I'm not even 21 yet, so are beg-life crisis possible? Your lips would make a lollipop too happy. | |
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Nope, just take control and aim at something, without a goal you just drift.
Good luck  | |
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Yep. 
Do something about it now, before you're saddled with all the responsibilties and trappings of 'adulthood' (mortgage, debt, marriage, kids etc). Make the absolute most of your youth, its a precious time that you will never get back. You have so many possibilities open to you, so take a short time to have a think about what you want to do and where you want to be in your future then put your head down and go for it! Good luck with whatever you decide to do  I'm not stopping. I haven't even taken my coat off
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There s nothing wrong with drifting. Just ride out the "feeling" of going no where. Don t make any rash decisions. Plenty of people will give you advice but do what you want to do,including doing nothing if thats what you want. | |
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Almost everyday lately | |
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start doing research on 'the law of attraction'
life will never be 'perfect'. but you do have power over your thoughts which become your actions | |
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Every couple months I hit a wall, and just feel like my life is completely pointless and going nowhere....
I usually just isolate myself and try to work through it set new goals, re-evaluate the situation and plan for the future That generally gets me back to normal in a few days or so Good Luck  If you will, so will I | |
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YES, the last time I opened my 401k statement.  | |
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Yep!
 I'm firmly planted in denial | |
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its called growing up
 You're so glam, every time I see you I wanna slam! | |
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minneapolisFunq said: its called growing up
When does it end? I feel the same way he/she does. Like I'm suspended in mid air and can't figure out how to get down again. | |
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on and off I feel that way. I have a stable job right now though I'm not sure for how much longer. Though I like my field, I've thought about switching to something else, but I'm not sure what yet though I want to go back to school next year. I've been volunteering on the side and pursuing my hobbies, but not sure if I want to make that a career or not. | |
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alphastreet said: on and off I feel that way. I have a stable job right now though I'm not sure for how much longer. Though I like my field, I've thought about switching to something else, but I'm not sure what yet though I want to go back to school next year. I've been volunteering on the side and pursuing my hobbies, but not sure if I want to make that a career or not.
I'm pretty much in the same boat although I can't decide what to go to school for. Life is hard....and confusing. | |
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I know this feeling all too well... more than I should have ever known, really. And I'm only 18, which may make my sentiments null-and-void in a way, but all the same, once upon a time I could relate to your situation.
For multiple years, I had no social life. I sat at the computer all day doing nothing. I was an enormous underachiever and slacker in school. I had undiagnosed mental disorders. I had similarly mentally ill, overgrown-children parents who fought all the time and emotionally bruised me with drug addictions, racism, etc. I dressed plain, looked plain, was lazy, had no real hobbies, had this "shy", "strange" personality, no self-esteem to speak of... hell, I didn't even have the BEDROOM of a teenager  . Basically, in the world of experience and self-defining known as adolescence, I was an undefined, inexperienced gray blob who stagnated.
And then, I moved out of my house for a few months to get away from everything and try to start anew. Thanks to medication and some really deep counselling, I've been able to undergo a metamorphosis and see a light at the end of the tunnel. In retrospect, I really had more than I thought in my old life: A beloved best friend who had nothing but unconditional love for me; other great -- or potentially great -- friends who I just neglected out of self-consciousness; times when I actually DID embrace socializing and was actually HAPPY (you'd think I would have pursued that more often); talents and qualities about myself that I didn't appreciate before (I could write a mean poem and people tended to really like me once they got to know me; ROCK concerts  . And my parents... well, you know what? They really were great people on the inside that did a lot for me and supported me when they weren't indulging in their own demons and dysfunction. They weren't bad or evil, they just had their own issues thanks to unpleasant events in their own lives/youth. I've made so many amends with them and can't imagine my life without them.
I have dreams now and have made a lot of progress. I am doing better in school. I look better. I spin those poems more often. I've read movies and books that were absolute experiences. And whereas before I was going to drop out of high school, I now am going to be attending college in the fall and majoring in music. This summer I'm preparing for my major with music theory education and guitar lessons. I look forward to moving back and living life like I never have before. I've been changed. I will never forget that unhappiness in the past, and maybe it will never stop haunting me 100%, but it is accepting what happened back then and where I was, that has led me to appreciate life perhaps more than many people my age who have embraced it longer do. I feel for you, dude. Life is so much more than what we ever could imagine once we look and feel beyond our self-made boundaries, our voids, our pain, our demons, our ghosts. Once we think we have reached a sort of hopelessness, though, we can only ascend to greater heights unless we let that hopelessness consume us. I have faith you will come out through the other side. 
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yep, should be married and in my own place already... unlucky7 reincarnated | |
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squiddyren said: I know this feeling all too well... more than I should have ever known, really. And I'm only 18, which may make my sentiments null-and-void in a way, but all the same, once upon a time I could relate to your situation.
For multiple years, I had no social life. I sat at the computer all day doing nothing. I was an enormous underachiever and slacker in school. I had undiagnosed mental disorders. I had similarly mentally ill, overgrown-children parents who fought all the time and emotionally bruised me with drug addictions, racism, etc. I dressed plain, looked plain, was lazy, had no real hobbies, had this "shy", "strange" personality, no self-esteem to speak of... hell, I didn't even have the BEDROOM of a teenager . Basically, in the world of experience and self-defining known as adolescence, I was an undefined, inexperienced gray blob who stagnated.
And then, I moved out of my house for a few months to get away from everything and try to start anew. Thanks to medication and some really deep counselling, I've been able to undergo a metamorphosis and see a light at the end of the tunnel. In retrospect, I really had more than I thought in my old life: A beloved best friend who had nothing but unconditional love for me; other great -- or potentially great -- friends who I just neglected out of self-consciousness; times when I actually DID embrace socializing and was actually HAPPY (you'd think I would have pursued that more often); talents and qualities about myself that I didn't appreciate before (I could write a mean poem and people tended to really like me once they got to know me; ROCK concerts . And my parents... well, you know what? They really were great people on the inside that did a lot for me and supported me when they weren't indulging in their own demons and dysfunction. They weren't bad or evil, they just had their own issues thanks to unpleasant events in their own lives/youth. I've made so many amends with them and can't imagine my life without them.
I have dreams now and have made a lot of progress. I am doing better in school. I look better. I spin those poems more often. I've read movies and books that were absolute experiences. And whereas before I was going to drop out of high school, I now am going to be attending college in the fall and majoring in music. This summer I'm preparing for my major with music theory education and guitar lessons. I look forward to moving back and living life like I never have before. I've been changed. I will never forget that unhappiness in the past, and maybe it will never stop haunting me 100%, but it is accepting what happened back then and where I was, that has led me to appreciate life perhaps more than many people my age who have embraced it longer do. I feel for you, dude. Life is so much more than what we ever could imagine once we look and feel beyond our self-made boundaries, our voids, our pain, our demons, our ghosts. Once we think we have reached a sort of hopelessness, though, we can only ascend to greater heights unless we let that hopelessness consume us. I have faith you will come out through the other side.
And I'm sorry if that post was a little self-indulgent.  Wow. I have to say that this is one of the most mature, enlightening and inspirational messages that has been posted on this board in a long time and from one so young!
Well done Squid, I applaud your attitude and the way you have turned your life around. Good on yah mate  I'm not stopping. I haven't even taken my coat off
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squiddyren said: I know this feeling all too well... more than I should have ever known, really. And I'm only 18, which may make my sentiments null-and-void in a way, but all the same, once upon a time I could relate to your situation.
For multiple years, I had no social life. I sat at the computer all day doing nothing. I was an enormous underachiever and slacker in school. I had undiagnosed mental disorders. I had similarly mentally ill, overgrown-children parents who fought all the time and emotionally bruised me with drug addictions, racism, etc. I dressed plain, looked plain, was lazy, had no real hobbies, had this "shy", "strange" personality, no self-esteem to speak of... hell, I didn't even have the BEDROOM of a teenager . Basically, in the world of experience and self-defining known as adolescence, I was an undefined, inexperienced gray blob who stagnated.
And then, I moved out of my house for a few months to get away from everything and try to start anew. Thanks to medication and some really deep counselling, I've been able to undergo a metamorphosis and see a light at the end of the tunnel. In retrospect, I really had more than I thought in my old life: A beloved best friend who had nothing but unconditional love for me; other great -- or potentially great -- friends who I just neglected out of self-consciousness; times when I actually DID embrace socializing and was actually HAPPY (you'd think I would have pursued that more often); talents and qualities about myself that I didn't appreciate before (I could write a mean poem and people tended to really like me once they got to know me; ROCK concerts . And my parents... well, you know what? They really were great people on the inside that did a lot for me and supported me when they weren't indulging in their own demons and dysfunction. They weren't bad or evil, they just had their own issues thanks to unpleasant events in their own lives/youth. I've made so many amends with them and can't imagine my life without them.
I have dreams now and have made a lot of progress. I am doing better in school. I look better. I spin those poems more often. I've read movies and books that were absolute experiences. And whereas before I was going to drop out of high school, I now am going to be attending college in the fall and majoring in music. This summer I'm preparing for my major with music theory education and guitar lessons. I look forward to moving back and living life like I never have before. I've been changed. I will never forget that unhappiness in the past, and maybe it will never stop haunting me 100%, but it is accepting what happened back then and where I was, that has led me to appreciate life perhaps more than many people my age who have embraced it longer do. I feel for you, dude. Life is so much more than what we ever could imagine once we look and feel beyond our self-made boundaries, our voids, our pain, our demons, our ghosts. Once we think we have reached a sort of hopelessness, though, we can only ascend to greater heights unless we let that hopelessness consume us. I have faith you will come out through the other side.
And I'm sorry if that post was a little self-indulgent. What a wonderful post. | |
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squiddyren said: I know this feeling all too well... more than I should have ever known, really. And I'm only 18, which may make my sentiments null-and-void in a way, but all the same, once upon a time I could relate to your situation.
For multiple years, I had no social life. I sat at the computer all day doing nothing. I was an enormous underachiever and slacker in school. I had undiagnosed mental disorders. I had similarly mentally ill, overgrown-children parents who fought all the time and emotionally bruised me with drug addictions, racism, etc. I dressed plain, looked plain, was lazy, had no real hobbies, had this "shy", "strange" personality, no self-esteem to speak of... hell, I didn't even have the BEDROOM of a teenager . Basically, in the world of experience and self-defining known as adolescence, I was an undefined, inexperienced gray blob who stagnated.
And then, I moved out of my house for a few months to get away from everything and try to start anew. Thanks to medication and some really deep counselling, I've been able to undergo a metamorphosis and see a light at the end of the tunnel. In retrospect, I really had more than I thought in my old life: A beloved best friend who had nothing but unconditional love for me; other great -- or potentially great -- friends who I just neglected out of self-consciousness; times when I actually DID embrace socializing and was actually HAPPY (you'd think I would have pursued that more often); talents and qualities about myself that I didn't appreciate before (I could write a mean poem and people tended to really like me once they got to know me; ROCK concerts . And my parents... well, you know what? They really were great people on the inside that did a lot for me and supported me when they weren't indulging in their own demons and dysfunction. They weren't bad or evil, they just had their own issues thanks to unpleasant events in their own lives/youth. I've made so many amends with them and can't imagine my life without them.
I have dreams now and have made a lot of progress. I am doing better in school. I look better. I spin those poems more often. I've read movies and books that were absolute experiences. And whereas before I was going to drop out of high school, I now am going to be attending college in the fall and majoring in music. This summer I'm preparing for my major with music theory education and guitar lessons. I look forward to moving back and living life like I never have before. I've been changed. I will never forget that unhappiness in the past, and maybe it will never stop haunting me 100%, but it is accepting what happened back then and where I was, that has led me to appreciate life perhaps more than many people my age who have embraced it longer do. I feel for you, dude. Life is so much more than what we ever could imagine once we look and feel beyond our self-made boundaries, our voids, our pain, our demons, our ghosts. Once we think we have reached a sort of hopelessness, though, we can only ascend to greater heights unless we let that hopelessness consume us. I have faith you will come out through the other side.
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there were many moments in my teenage years and in my early 20's when i felt like my life was going no where and it was standing still. so i came to a point when i did something about it. i made tons of changes, and reached outside of my comfort zone, and that's when i really found joy in my life.
i really do feel life is full of seasons.... | |
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Negritaluvyu said: So what do you do?
I think I'm having a mid-life crisis. But I'm not even 21 yet, so are beg-life crisis possible? You're not 21 yet? Me being close to 40, I don't see this as such a huge problem right now, but the years do tend to fly by. So... I was 30 when I started feeling like you do now. As much as it hurt me to do so, I had to admit that much of what the girl who dumped me at the time, said about me, was true. I made significant personal and professional changes and, literally, for the first time in my life stuck some things out to their end. I couldn't be happier with my life now. I've said it many times before, but I live a charmed life and sometimes I can't believe how fortunate I am. I guess the point being, it's never too late to change the direction your life is heading. | |
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Yup. I've felt this way for the past 2 years now. RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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iinthesky85 said: alphastreet said: on and off I feel that way. I have a stable job right now though I'm not sure for how much longer. Though I like my field, I've thought about switching to something else, but I'm not sure what yet though I want to go back to school next year. I've been volunteering on the side and pursuing my hobbies, but not sure if I want to make that a career or not.
I'm pretty much in the same boat although I can't decide what to go to school for. Life is hard....and confusing. I like my job, but I don't know if my skin is thick enough for it, I feel like I'm really being tested on everything sometimes. | |
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alphastreet said: iinthesky85 said: I'm pretty much in the same boat although I can't decide what to go to school for. Life is hard....and confusing. I like my job, but I don't know if my skin is thick enough for it, I feel like I'm really being tested on everything sometimes. What do you do? | |
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Ask mdiver he has been riding round and round in circles going absolutely no where for years   What you don't remember never happened | |
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got to go, gots to go!
I gotta see beyond the trees right now and it feels like i'm looking past heaven, i have friends who have needs right now...and they have been waiting since 11! If you see them, they aren't friendly, they are too caught up and busy spending. throw a rock, hide your hands, and spend your way to the promised land. THE B EST BE YOURSELF AS LONG AS YOUR SELF ISNT A DYCK[/r]
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endymion said: Ask mdiver he has been riding round and round in circles going absolutely no where for years
Apart from winning trophies, yes,that is true | |
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Get in the car and drive back. There's Joy In Expatriation. | |
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