Mo black guys for me

I am so angry right now. I just found out that a guy that I was talking to and got a little close too had a girlfriend when I met him. I had asked him if he had a girlfriend or something, and he said or something. I said to myself maybe he thought that I was asking him if I was his girlfriend, but I just wanted to know if he was involved with another woman before I decided to take it to the next level, if you know what I mean. I should have went the other way, but I said let me give him the benefit of doubt. I just didn't want to believe that he would be kissing me if he was involved with someone else.

I would meet with this guy at his job and we would talk and kiss. I liked him a lot. He seemed like a nice guy and very smart. One day we went to the penthouse. We started to get hot and heavy, but I stopped it because I said to myself I don't really know him as well as I wish. I should slow down. I felt really bad about what I did and didn't call him for a while. He tried calling me a couple of times and would bring candy by my job. A couple of weeks ago, I let him know how I felt about the situation and he said he understood. He also said he is not the type of guy who disrespects women because he has a daughter. I called me to check on me after that and we've kind of been talking every since. Last night, he kept mentioning his girlfriend and I am thinking to myself when did this happen. So I asked him, "Is my seeing going to cause a problem?" He said, " I won't tell on myself!" As he was leaving my car I asked, "When I first met you, did you have a girlfriend?" He hesitated and said,"Yes." He closed the door and I said GOODBYE!! I said to myself, I don't deserve a man like him anyway and he had a little penis.(No we didn't have sex. We would always talk in my car, with the exception of the one time on the 28th floor.)

I was so angry at myself and at him. I want to cry. I've had some much bad news lately. I can respect a man who is man enought to say, "I have a woman, but if you still wanna get down, that's up to you." Let me decide. Don't be a maricon mutha fucka and just keep stuff from me. Part of me wanted to believe that when I met him, he was a decent individual, but I guess I was wrong. What really hurts is that for many years, I didn't date black men. I wouldn't even look at them. I gave him a chance and what happens? I get dogged out. I am a good woman and knows how to treat a man and I don't understand what it is about black men and them mistreating me. When I see him on Monday, I will give him a peace of my mind and never contact him again. I have to say it. Once and for all, under no circumstances will I ever get involved with a black man EVER AGAIN!!! AND THIS TIME....I MEAN IT!!!
[Edited 4/4/09 8:01am]

It's not a black man thing, it's a man thing...period!

He had a small penis, didn't you know then he was a terrible person? Why would you keep seeing such a horrible small dicked person?

Once and for all, under no circumstances will I ever get involved with a black man EVER AGAIN!!! AND THIS TIME....I MEAN IT!!!

You don't say how long you knew him before the kissing/petting penthouse adventure?

Rule of thumb: Spend time to get to know the guy before becoming too emotionally attached; sometimes can be tough but in the long run you'll be happier and so will he.

Any relationship that is limited to hit & miss stops is a signal something else is going on.

Hope you feel better soon.

jill4life said:

That is something you cannot influence.

Serious said:

yes you can. people do have a certain amount of control over their own emotions and a lot more control over their actions. If you know that you get emotionally attached to a person after you become physical with them, then don't become physical with them until you are sure of the relationship. A little self control goes a long way towards emotional well being.
[Edited 4/5/09 7:21am]

JasmineFire said:

I was not talking about that, but about myself here. I get emotionally attached way before I get physical with somebody. I have no control at all who I fall in love with.[Edited 4/5/09 7:29am]

And losers come in all shapes and sizes dear.

I hate generalizations and it shows your weakness. To me it's all about individuality. Let's face it there are some dumbass men and women of all races. My father''s brothers are white and dumbasshell with women and they don't respect them. Cheating etc. Get the point?

I was like reading your post, and the more I read the more ignorant it got. Your inclusion of skin color had nothing to do with him as a man. It makes your post laughable. He was wrong, but you need to check yourself also.

Just my opinion.

I'll skip the "Black" comments since everyone else has addressed it

but when you asked him if he had a girlfriend or something, he DID say "or something". That means he had some involvement with someone other than YOU. But instead of investigating that little tidbit further, you chose to rationalize the shit & roll w/ him anyway, hoping for the best.

People do what others let them - if you fuck w/ him knowing he's otherwise involved, it's on you. It'd be different if he lied

DanceWme said:

me, too!

I am a good woman and knows how to treat a man and I don't understand what it is about black men and them mistreating me.

JasmineFire said:

Ya'll KNOW how I gets down. I'll be like Arnold with the stimulus, "If you don't want it, pass that shit to me, cuz I'll sho nuf take it!"