We are having a jam/party tonight at my house, and a friend of ours rang up to ask if I mind that they bring their 5 year old, who, by the way has the runs.

I blurted out "oh man, anything but the runs - don't mind sniffles, but gastro?

she replied: "oh, I really didn't think you would mind. He's been looking forwards to coming all day."

I betcha had the master taken the call, he would have said No Worries!

Other little kids will be here tonight, 2 of them under 18 months, one with a pretty weak immune system, and one of the drummers has a wife expecting a baby any minute. As hostess, I had to consider wellbeing of my other guests too right?



I just feel now like I've done the wrong thing and when the master wakes up he won't like it.

When a tummy flu goes through this house, it doesn't leave anyone standing.

Nope. They asked, knowing (or at least implying) that it was reasonable for a host to object to such a child being in their home. Factor in the fact that such a child would probably try his/her best to play with other children at the function, and you have the potential for a nightmare for other kids and parents.

To me, you did the responsible thing.

What the hell is a jam party ....is that where u make jam or jam as many people in as possible
Arrg that sucks hun ....and I imagine that felt awkward ....but I think u did the right thing...and if u told her there was going to be a pregnant woman and young child (weak immune thing) ..if she was any kind of friend she would understand....good luck telling the Master though

I don't take our own nieces and nephew when they're sick if I can help it.

johnart said:

If any of my kids are sick, I'd never dream of imposing them on anyone!

ThreadBare said:

My friend wasn't even going to ring and ask, she said her husband made her! She would have just brought him and reassured him I wouldn't mind

If my husband rings her and tells her to bring him anyway, I'd have to ring the other guests to tell them, since they can't make an informed choice about coming over otherwise

ocean said:

she's not my friend, technically, she's the ex-housemate of Leo's best mate who is here from Holland for a month. She goes to all the jams.

jam session n. An informal gathering of musicians to play improvised or unrehearsed music. Informal.

They should have stayed home.

ZombieKitten said:

oh stuff her then
yeah I figured it out ...but I swear I had a mental picture of u with ur apron on ....

ZombieKitten said:

Make sure they all healthy come May.

johnart said:

I'm not bringing any of them

sexyone said:

I said a clear NO

ZombieKitten said:

Awww that's a shame





















I'm kidding.

We gotta plan.

johnart said:

this trip is for the master and me, 10th wedding anniversary gift to myself. If the kids came, I'd stay home

yes! we should! I'm gonna need a list of all the must sees in the area

ZombieKitten said:

We've only seen some (we're in the area only a year) but I can get a list for you.

ZombieKitten said:

What date do u go hun

No. sick diarrhea kids need to stay home and rest, that's not fair to the kid, anyway.

ocean said:

leave on 20th

morningsong said:

You were absolutely NOT wrong... I wouldn't even have the nerve to call my friend with kids if I could bring my sick kid to a party..
I would've cancelled it. Not just because of the possability of infecting others.. but for the sick child too... poor child.. beeing dragged to a party

ThreadBare said:

I agree 100%

Mach said:

Me too.

morningsong said:

Sick Diarrhea Kids

Lammastide said:

Even now - Jess is 17

if she ( or anyone ) is sick, we tell people ... let them choose if they want to come over still or give them the space to say please do not bring her

I think it's the right thing to do for all parents- hell all people

not in the slightest!

I can't believe anyone would even think of taking a sick child to a party. Especially a kid with the runs. Those kinds of infections spread like wildfire -and can hit kids and adults alike.

<--- never feels bad about saying "no" to a moron

Genesia said:

Yeah - it's amazing how some people will drag sick children around. I guess for them to have their outing is more important

Hell I have cancelled major events and missed out because I needed to stay home and take care of the children ...

Genesia said:

Agreed.

Charlotte, you have every right to keep your house free of intestinal parasites, for Christ's sake. If she were begging you to mind her sick child while she attended her mother's funeral, that'd be a different story. But she wants to bring him so she can party. Sorry. You have a sick kid. You're not partying tonight.

I agree but I have to say it would've taken the jam to a whole different level

Genesia said:

You can't stop wildfire with water and soap and clean towels