MsMisha319 said:

When I fall in love with somebody the first moment a see a person it's not a councious decision I make. I am not making continously the same mistakes over and over again, but I sure have no control who I fall in love with and no control if I have feelings for a person or not . Just as I cannot choose to love somebody if I am not attracted to that person I can not choose to not love somebody. But that thread ain't about me anyway.

if a man is smart enough to have his cake, eat it & get away with it, so be it. more power to him/them. as women, the onus is on us to be smarter and not get played like some punk ass bitches.

Cool story bro.

Serious said:

I think understand what you mean about the emotional andI think its o.k. to "fall in love" with someone, my feeling is just take time to enjoy that ---- and in the process get to know who you're dealing with. You can control the physical aspect for sure.

I'm just waiting for a reply from miss.

I don't feel sorry for you.

NMuzakNSoul said:

I'm waiting for reply's from to other ignorant ass orgers who made ignorant ass threads but they haven't showed or spoken up yet...let's see how far you get with this one.

SCNDLS said:

Ya boy said it best here...I know you can't stand him (I ain't forgot about the pool table incident you told me about ), but looks like he may have calmed his ass down a lil' bit and got some sense

PanthaGirl said:

And it aint a straight thing but a gay thing too!

IT'S

A

MAN

THING

ThreadBare said:

ConsciousContact said:

it all comes down to this whether someone even realizes they are choosing this or not.

The last time u were played by a non-black guy.....did u have this response?

Vendetta1 said:

Let's see...

"Or something"

You stalked him at his job.

He only talks to you in your car.


That's a lot of red flags!

Genesia said:

It's downright Communism

Graycap23 said:

^^^^ You read my mind.


Babygirl I loves ya but... your complaint reads like you are more upset that a Black man dissed you... I being a Rican myself, can feel you on the "I must be worshipped and adored dammit!" thang..... but seriously, the emphasis on him being black reads as though you are shocked that a black man chose to stay with his girl over you. I adore black men, but not because I feel that they will kiss my high-yellow-curly-haired-rice-and-bean-eating azz, but because I relate with black men better than another other type, even more so than my own Rican-male counterparts.

So maybe, I am just misreading this post and maybe you just are upset that a man didn't leave his girl for you.

At any rate, I hope you don't give up on your quest for love, and know that there are wonderful men out there... I found my perfect flavor in TN. and your sexy self will too.

PS. Make em' buy you a steak dinner next time.

KidaDynamite said:

I usually don't get all deep on the forum least () but they don't wanna start.

CalhounSq said:

I thought I was asking him if I was his girlfriend. He got it confused.

JasmineFire said:

That's the thing. I don't love this man. I liked him. I thought he was a sincere, honest, smart, intelligent man. I just felt bad about what I did and stopped it. When he called me again after hearing about the company that I worked for failing, I thought to myself maybe he's not what I think. Maybe I'm thinking too much. I thought I was being wrong for giving him the cold shoulder. I was saying to myself, he doesn't deserve this from me. In the end, I was right.

KidaDynamite said:

First of all, heifer, I am not perfect. Don't start with the name calling!!! I've been working.

mayebelle81 said:

or maybe YOU got confused...reading ur story thats MY take on it-u two seemed to have started off on two different pages...

when u ask someone if he has a girlfriend and he says 'or something' it usually means he is involved with someone OTHER than u-thats been my experience

paintedlady said:

No. I just wish he had of told me. That's what bothered me. But after I stopped calling him, that's when Steve Harvey's book came out. I read it and it reminded me of a lot of things that I knew about men. I guess I was just giving myself a hard time and thinking I was the one in the wrong for not talking to him anymore. sometimes when you go through things, you have to let it out. I felt better after I talked about it. I have moved on already. I didn't have anyone to talk to about the situation so I posted here. Some respect a lot of the responses here and as for the people who want to name call.....YOU CAN KISS MY ASS AFTER I SHIT BECAUSE THAT WASN'T CALLED FOR!!!!

mayebelle81 said:

Since you're back, can you please explain what the hell him being black had to with you getting played like Atari?

mayebelle81 said:

So . . . if you're done dating brothas why in the Sam Hill is you reading a book written by one for dating advice???

paintedlady said:

Painted...I love you. You are a sweetheart. You are always so nice to me no matter what I do. I've missed you. How have you been?

SCNDLS said:

When I posted my issue, I was very upset, about to cry. When I am angry, I get emotional and can go off the deep end. It happens. I doubt if I post here again because I prefer to have the opinions of real friends. It just means more to me. The first love was a black man and I left him because my family didn't approve of him. I regret it to this day, six years later. I still love this man and always will. I was just mad at the situation. I still support my people no matter what. I listen to Steve because he is smart and I know he would tell it like it is and that's what I needed to hear. He confirmed that I was right in not calling him back. I was the one second guessing myself. That's on me. People take things and over analyze it or take it out of context. sometimes i have a problem with conveying exactly what I mean. I am trying to learn to communicate better and more often. I realized my errors and have learned from my mistakes. Not only was I upset with him, but I was more upset with myself. I am okay now though.

mayebelle81 said:

No...1st of all you not being perfect or working has NOTHING to do with it. It's a lot of people that work {or doesn't} and who is not perfect but still doesn't say ignorant or irrelevent things like you did.

mayebelle81 said:

So are you white?

I find it odd that you would insult all black men just cuz you were mad at one. My experience has been that if that's your first response to somebody black pissing you off, chances are you got a host of issues with black folks.

But no worries, I'll be happy to pick up your slack.

Oh and you didn't answer my ?: Why are you reading a book written by a black man about dating IF as you say you are:

" Once and for all, under no circumstances will I ever get involved with a black man EVER AGAIN!!! AND THIS TIME....I MEAN IT!!!"
[Edited 4/7/09 14:21pm]

mayebelle81 said:

Well now you're just trying to change your story lemme refresh:

"I had asked him if he had a girlfriend or something, and he said or something. I said to myself maybe he thought that I was asking him if I was his girlfriend, but I just wanted to know if he was involved with another woman before I decided to take it to the next level, if you know what I mean."

So now you thought you were asking him something that you really weren't asking him?? WHO got confused?? I think you're confused now & then, unfortunately This shit is goofy. Ask a straight question, you (hopefully) get a straight answer. You don't even know what you were saying Either way, it's still your fault for ignoring the obvious hints & trying to act betrayed in the long run



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[Edited 4/8/09 1:07am]

mayebelle81 said:

You are just problematic all around

CalhounSq said: