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Thread started 03/28/09 9:17am

Thatstoobig

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Do women fancy their gay friends?

Do women fancy their gay friends?
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Reply #1 posted 03/28/09 9:21am

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Oh yes, sometimes. biggrin
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Reply #2 posted 03/28/09 9:56am

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shellyevon said:

Oh yes, sometimes. biggrin


Really eek eek Why???
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Reply #3 posted 03/28/09 10:07am

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Only in unhealthy friendships. Been there and I was partly to blame.
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Reply #4 posted 03/28/09 10:15am

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Not this woman! wave

I have lots of gay boyfriends and while I love them all I'm not attracted to any of them. It's not that I think they're not attractive people (most of them are quite the opposite!), only that once I know a man's gay, I lose any attraction to them usually.

Of course, I can totally have what I think of as platonic crushes on anyone, gay, straight, man, woman, what have you. But I think that's another thing altogether.
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Reply #5 posted 03/28/09 11:42am

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Gay men are fun to have as friends.
They usually have more attitude than females and that makes me laugh and it's just another person u can have girl/boy talk wit giggle
Attracted --- whether masculine or feminine --- nahhh
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Reply #6 posted 03/28/09 12:41pm

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nope... I do find them handsome, but thats as far as it goes
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Reply #7 posted 03/28/09 12:51pm

Vendetta1

Yep what woman wouldn't fancy a man who treats her like a princess? My gay friends are some of the greatest men on the planet.
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Reply #8 posted 03/28/09 8:42pm

Tremolina

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Yep what woman wouldn't fancy a man who treats her like a princess? My gay friends are some of the greatest men on the planet.

They won´t fuck you like a Prince tho´ wink
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Reply #9 posted 03/28/09 8:47pm

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no, but i do have a few gay friends that are pretty handsome! wink all my female friends are hot for them. lol
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Reply #10 posted 03/28/09 9:09pm

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Not that I think they represent all women, but I know several who do.
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Reply #11 posted 03/29/09 3:52am

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I don't. What for?
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Reply #12 posted 03/29/09 7:40am

Vendetta1

Tremolina said:

Vendetta1 said:

Yep what woman wouldn't fancy a man who treats her like a princess? My gay friends are some of the greatest men on the planet.

They won´t fuck you like a Prince tho´ wink
Fuck Prince? no no no!
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Reply #13 posted 03/29/09 7:52am

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You mean "fancy" in a sexual way, right?

Well...in college I fancied a couple gay men. But I didn't know at the time that they were gay. (Both died of AIDS, sadly.)

I have since developed an almost infallible gaydar system. So that doesn't happen to me anymore.
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Reply #14 posted 03/29/09 8:00am

lascantas

I don't have any gay friends. I have maybe gay acquaintances, but not gay friends or family. I have had conversations with more of the gay community here than anywhere.

I do not know why? I have wondered about this.

Is there anyone else here not having gay "friends" in real life?
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Reply #15 posted 03/29/09 8:09am

Genesia

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lascantas said:

I don't have any gay friends. I have maybe gay acquaintances, but not gay friends or family. I have had conversations with more of the gay community here than anywhere.

I do not know why? I have wondered about this.

Is there anyone else here not having gay "friends" in real life?


I work a lot in theatre. Draw your own conclusions. lol
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Reply #16 posted 03/29/09 8:17am

lascantas

Genesia said:

lascantas said:

I don't have any gay friends. I have maybe gay acquaintances, but not gay friends or family. I have had conversations with more of the gay community here than anywhere.

I do not know why? I have wondered about this.

Is there anyone else here not having gay "friends" in real life?


I work a lot in theatre. Draw your own conclusions. lol
[Edited 3/29/09 8:10am]


Oh.. well, I attend theatre, but I do not work there.

I have really wondered through the many conversations I've had here, why I don't.

It's like I am not acquainted with gays--even gay couples. But we don't socialize--like to where we would be friends. We really don't talk about anything.. like I do here. We talk but it's very light. Nothing serious. But still it's more like on the periphery?

I wonder sometimes if this is the problem a lot of people might have? It's not that one isn't "acquainted" with members of the gay community, but it's more like.. well..the opportunity for real friendships do not present themselves that easily. It might be due to the circle of friends we have, even our professional associations that we are not as..integrated as we like to believe, you know? It's not like we would reject anybody. It's more like the opportunity never happens, you know?
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Reply #17 posted 03/29/09 8:24am

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lascantas said:

Genesia said:



I work a lot in theatre. Draw your own conclusions. lol
[Edited 3/29/09 8:10am]


Oh.. well, I attend theatre, but I do not work there.

I have really wondered through the many conversations I've had here, why I don't.

It's like I am not acquainted with gays--even gay couples. But we don't socialize--like to where we would be friends. We really don't talk about anything.. like I do here. We talk but it's very light. Nothing serious. But still it's more like on the periphery?

I wonder sometimes if this is the problem a lot of people might have? It's not that one isn't "acquainted" with members of the gay community, but it's more like.. well..the opportunity for real friendships do not present themselves that easily. It might be due to the circle of friends we have, even our professional associations that we are not as..integrated as we like to believe, you know? It's not like we would reject anybody. It's more like the opportunity never happens, you know?


I think you're overthinking it.

Yes, I have gay friends. But it's not like I said to myself, "Gosh - I don't have any gay friends. I wonder why that is? I should try to find some," and then went out and did it.

Friendships form around common interests - not around a desire for demographic diversity.
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Reply #18 posted 03/29/09 8:26am

lascantas

Genesia said:

lascantas said:



Oh.. well, I attend theatre, but I do not work there.

I have really wondered through the many conversations I've had here, why I don't.

It's like I am not acquainted with gays--even gay couples. But we don't socialize--like to where we would be friends. We really don't talk about anything.. like I do here. We talk but it's very light. Nothing serious. But still it's more like on the periphery?

I wonder sometimes if this is the problem a lot of people might have? It's not that one isn't "acquainted" with members of the gay community, but it's more like.. well..the opportunity for real friendships do not present themselves that easily. It might be due to the circle of friends we have, even our professional associations that we are not as..integrated as we like to believe, you know? It's not like we would reject anybody. It's more like the opportunity never happens, you know?


I think you're overthinking it.

Yes, I have gay friends. But it's not like I said to myself, "Gosh - I don't have any gay friends. I wonder why that is? I should try to find some," and then went out and did it.

Friendships form around common interests - not around a desire for demographic diversity.


Yes, this is true. I would feel stupid going up to an acquaintance, and saying, "Will you be my friend?" lol lol Or saying, "Let's go out to lunch," when we really do not have a lot in common, or don't seem to.

It has to evolve naturally. So you are right.
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Reply #19 posted 03/29/09 9:14am

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One other thing - don't fall into the mindset that you "have to" have friends who are one thing or another. One thing I find absolutely disgusting is the attitude some take that if you don't have gay friends, you must be a homophobe. Or that if you don't have black friends, you're a bigot. Friendships have an element of chance, too - ie, if you live in a predominantly white midwestern town, for example, your chances of having black friends are slim. (And how come it's white folks that have to find black friends? I haven't had any black folks bustin' down my door trying to be my friend. Well...except for the one I sleep with. lol )

It doesn't have anything to do with bigotry - it's largely about opportunity. Any black or gay friends I have, I made in the same way I made all my friendships. Just treat people as people...and let the friendships fall where they may.
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Reply #20 posted 03/29/09 9:42am

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Genesia said:

One other thing - don't fall into the mindset that you "have to" have friends who are one thing or another. One thing I find absolutely disgusting is the attitude some take that if you don't have gay friends, you must be a homophobe. Or that if you don't have black friends, you're a bigot. Friendships have an element of chance, too - ie, if you live in a predominantly white midwestern town, for example, your chances of having black friends are slim. (And how come it's white folks that have to find black friends? I haven't had any black folks bustin' down my door trying to be my friend. Well...except for the one I sleep with. lol )

It doesn't have anything to do with bigotry - it's largely about opportunity. Any black or gay friends I have, I made in the same way I made all my friendships. Just treat people as people...and let the friendships fall where they may.

A lot of people are like that...I don't have any friends who are not my race...Then again I don't have any friends like that, I'm a hermit. I would like to have friends who are a different culture/race than me.
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Reply #21 posted 03/29/09 9:56am

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Vendetta1 said:

Tremolina said:


They won´t fuck you like a Prince tho´ wink
Fuck Prince? no no no!
[Edited 3/29/09 7:41am]
lol
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Reply #22 posted 03/29/09 1:30pm

Vendetta1

Tremolina said:

Vendetta1 said:

Fuck Prince? no no no!
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lol
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Reply #23 posted 03/29/09 4:49pm

Tremolina

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Tremolina said:

lol
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Oh. lol

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Reply #24 posted 03/29/09 4:56pm

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wtf falloff

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Reply #25 posted 03/29/09 6:40pm

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peacenlovealways said:

Genesia said:

One other thing - don't fall into the mindset that you "have to" have friends who are one thing or another. One thing I find absolutely disgusting is the attitude some take that if you don't have gay friends, you must be a homophobe. Or that if you don't have black friends, you're a bigot. Friendships have an element of chance, too - ie, if you live in a predominantly white midwestern town, for example, your chances of having black friends are slim. (And how come it's white folks that have to find black friends? I haven't had any black folks bustin' down my door trying to be my friend. Well...except for the one I sleep with. lol )

It doesn't have anything to do with bigotry - it's largely about opportunity. Any black or gay friends I have, I made in the same way I made all my friendships. Just treat people as people...and let the friendships fall where they may.

A lot of people are like that...I don't have any friends who are not my race...Then again I don't have any friends like that, I'm a hermit. I would like to have friends who are a different culture/race than me.

I feel the same way sometimes, jus so I don't live in a "box" all my life, ya know?
I love my Caribbean culture but I need variety in my life!
At times I may ask an innocent question on here and ppl may laugh and jeer and say "have u been livin under a rock?!" but alot of ppl don't understand how very different life is down here. Anyway, that's another topic...
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Reply #26 posted 03/29/09 9:27pm

Ottensen

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Not this woman! wave

I have lots of gay boyfriends and while I love them all I'm not attracted to any of them. It's not that I think they're not attractive people (most of them are quite the opposite!), only that once I know a man's gay, I lose any attraction to them usually.

Of course, I can totally have what I think of as platonic crushes on anyone, gay, straight, man, woman, what have you. But I think that's another thing altogether.



I feel the same way. I have gay friends that I adore absolutely to bits, but I don't think I've had a crush on one since high school or college. I figured out a loonnng time ago if they are on the other side of the fence, that means they are not for me. I'm always slightly bewildered when I see friends of mine, even at this stage in life, get confused about their roles to each other in the gay-straight relationship context. Unfortunately I even still see gay friends of mine today at age 35+ who still occasionally encourage or send out mixed signals to the straight women in their lives. Imagine a conversation with one of my friends going something like this:

Boi: "yeah...the relationship with Ingrid is becoming problematic...she just wants, oh I don't know, just wants too much of me somehow..."

Me: "Oh yeah? you might try to stop snuggling with her and kissing her on the lips when you part...that might be a start, Kid"

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Reply #27 posted 03/29/09 10:43pm

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I'm not 'in love' but love a gay friend of mine very much.. he understands my feelings, and we are attracted to the same kind of guys lol
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Reply #28 posted 03/30/09 11:04am

Vendetta1

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Vendetta1 said:

Oh. lol

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You're lucky you are so fuckin' hot. wink
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