hokie said:

( answers are from over 25 yrs ago )
Have you seriously hurt another or been seriously hurt by violence.

Yes &

Yes - 3 broken ribs from being thrown off my pourch

Do most your fights become physical or remain verbal

They were both and often - for 3 yrs = abusive relationship

I've been in enough fights to learn how not to fight when in a potentially dangerous situation, (like getting jumped, or beaten by a grown man, or knife/gun attack been there done that) don't remember how many.


I never have been hurt bad, but I was always terrified. Never fought anyone my size, I was always smaller, outnumbered or outmatched in some way. So I learned to get crafty and use whatever I could to hit and run... or hurt badly enough so that the person would back off. I won some, I lost a few... but I always put up a good fight. Made anyone work hard to whoop my butt.


Talking your way out (manipulation) works wayyy better. Jedi mind tricks.


I have taught my teen how to talk his way out of a situation. He is a black 18 yr. old living in a rough part of South Boston... enough said.

The last physical altercation was when my mom's lover was trying to suffocate my mom with a grapefruit half... I walked in on that after hearing the struggle, and shoved him to the floor and broke a lamp on his forehead. My mom actually yelled at me (with a face full of pulp) and told me to mind my own business... so now I do, and now my brother who is HUGE whips his ass when he hits her.

Yes, they are still together, and I stay to myself w/ my children in a peaceful home where there is no yelling and fighting. I grew up with fighting and yelling, now all I hear is laughter daily and the quiet of a loving home.

Mach said:

I love you for being so strong... I wish my mom believed in herself more.

Yes every now and then in grammar school. One incident I remember was when I was little my mother threatened to beat my ass if I didn't fight this girl back who I was afraid of-I don't know why. But I was more afraid of my mother. I whooped that girls ass

and later on being in an abusive relationship.

not seriously hurt from any.

heybaby said:

I chased a neighborhood bully down once. He had stolen a little girl's homework and I saw her at the bus stop crying so I chased him down, got it back and "made" him apologize.

ocean said:

I hit someone once when really, really upset, then he hit me back with 100x more force. That ended that altercation.

But I've never been in a real physical fight. Fighting is the epitome of pathetic.

I'm a point in my life (and have been for a few years now) where I don't even get into verbal fights. They are useless.

I found myself in the occasional fight as a kid -- almost exclusively with my best friend, a physically small guy who, to this day, has a bit of a Napoleon complex and needs to flex his masculinity every so often.

I was only in two memorable fights with other people:

* I fought a kid named Boris -- "Boris" -- at church when I was about 10. I'd been teasing him all night, and he told me to meet him in the parking lot. I was cocky, so I did -- and he beat the snot out of me. I was going to slaughter him the following week, but he made up with me when he saw me coming. (The Holy Spirit protecting my idiot butt from myself. )

* The other "sort of" fight was with this burnout kid named Billy in junior high. We were in gym class, and Billy was running around using his big ol' head as a battering ram... totally unprovoked! And he was DESTROYING people! When he eventually charged at me, I caught him in a half nelson and squeezed until he begged me to let him go. (Actually, I kept squeezing a bit even after he begged. ) When I let him go, he was pissed, but in no real condition to fight -- plus our teacher was around by then, and she broke us up.

I haven't fought since then. The battling theologian thing only seems to work for Shaolin monks and Jedis. It just ain't fair.

I've been in a physical fight one time in my whole life (minus the slaps and punches i gave my brothers)


I was 19 and had been dating this guy.
One night we went to visit his mom. After we left, he straight out told me "my mom dont like u cuz ur black" which wasnt a problem with me cuz he told me before we went to see her that she's a little racist. whatever. So I said "ok i could tell she didnt like me"
Later on that night we went to my best friend party.
A few hours went by and he found out I told my friend what happened at his house with his mom. She went up to him at the party and said "u lucky ur not dating me cuz if u would have taken me to see ur mother...it wouldve been a problem" He got mad! He asked me to come outside with him so we could talk. So I went. We went outside and he said "u didnt have to tell anybody" and then took his hands and wrapped them around my neck. fuck that. I punched him dead in his face and kept punching until i saw blood. Then when he let me go i fucked his nuts up. Some guys that were standing outside saw this and came over pulling me away. One of the guys went inside and told my best friend. She came out with my friends and I told them what happened. My male friends found him around the corner on his way home and i have no clue what they did to him.

JustErin said:

I am with you on this. I have had girlfriends that slap and punch their boyfriends/husbands. What is all of that about? Seriously!
I have only been in one fight as an adult, it was mainly me trying to defend myself. The person was a lot bigger & stronger than me, he did not punch me or hit me back but did throw me across the bed onto the floor.

I usually avoid, fighting, yelling and arguing at all costs.
I watched my mom get abused for too many years to play that game myself.

As a child I was picked on by bullies, never bothered to really fight back, I was always much smaller than them.
I usually found other ways at getting back at their sorry asses.

paintedlady said:

I love you back

JustErin said:

I agree and wont waste my time going there either and I are really glad that my husband is also this way

we simply do not fight and really have very few disagreements over the past 24 yrs

^ I typed drunk sounding lol

shanti0608 said:

I don't understand women that think its ok for them to hit/slap their partner

The First Rule of Fightclub is:

When I was 8 I had a physical altercation with a grown ass woman.

I don't think EVER

There's an echo in here

ocean said:

I just read that lazycrockett beat me to the punch... so to speak...

johnart said:

I have to ask, what is an ass woman?

ThreadBare said:

so what IS the first rule then?

ZombieKitten said:

Yeah that's what I wanna know...lets get em

ZombieKitten said:

GROWN-ass as in her ass was a GROWN UP!

ocean said:

That's just a bunch of misplaced, pent-up rage...

Not in 30+ years. I've been in a situation on different occasions with 2 different men where they wanted to get into a physical fight, luckily I was able to diffuse the situation before it went that far, one was on meth at the time, that could have ended extremely bad, dude was pretty psycho at the time. The other just like to fight, that was his thing. Haven't gotten my self in those type of situations in many years now. But I do get verbal on occasion, but that's been mostly with family and generally we kiss and make up and move on.

johnart said:

paintedlady said:

i think thats so important how u make sure ur home is a place of solace and comfort for u and ur dumplings

The last time I was in a physical fight, I was in the single digits. Probably 8 or so, never fought much. That may have been my only fight, I've only had 2 @ the most...

i've only been hit one time

that was when one guy hit me cause i had slept with his boyfriend.
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