Can men and women truly ever be just friends ??

Yes. Although I've recently found that who you think may be your friend (a male) may have alterior motives.

However, I still do have some male friends that I am very close to and there aren't any other motives other than friendship.

I am learning to keep my eyes a little more open in this department though.

Probably.

Anji said:

i can say "yes" 2 that, cuz i have a few guys friends that are strictly that: friends.

"friends with benefits" is strictly o-u-t in my book.

Yes they can.

In my experience, I have always found girls to have alterior motives for wanting to be friends with me.

That's why I always ensure that I find all my girl friends pretty.

Anji said:

Okay maybe I should rephrase that and make it more pacific, can a single guy and a single female who both are straight ever be just friends ?

I believe that is possible sometimes, but the temptation for more will always be there.

DigitalLisa said:

Probably.

yes. But I'd say it's pretty rare.

DigitalLisa said:

Dont you mean make it more SPECIFIC rather than pacific?

Depends on how you define the word "friends"...

Can a man and woman have a relationship in which they don't sleep together and they don't start anything romantic??...Yep...

Paisley said:

Yeah

Most of my close friends have always been guys, but then the more I got to know them I learned they had other motives as well, it made the relationship a little odd and eventually the friendship decease, sad but true

DigitalLisa said:

damn those edits... I need 2 make that my signature :Lol:

Not very easily in my experience. One of my best male friends just professed his love for me not long ago and freaked me out. I don't see him that way at all, and now its just weird. I gotta stop being so damn fabulous...

DigitalLisa said:

Don't change that signature! I love your quote!

creamychemist said:

My sister once told me that true friendships between men and women will never happen, because sooner or later one or the other will end up wanting "more", and it kills the chance for friendship...not sure if I agree with that or not, but your post reminded me of it...

creamychemist said:

Thanks
[This message was edited Sun Jan 26 11:42:51 PST 2003 by DigitalLisa]

Can this question really be answered if we don't know whether the guy and girl are physically attracted to one another?

Anji said:

Hmmm... if you were physically attracted to your female friend would you be able to be her friend... JUST friends, or would that be difficult for you to do?

Even if ur not physically attracted 2 a person you can grow 2 like that person, just because you got 2 know their personality... happened 2 me plenty of times.

I had this guy friend who I though was cute at first, but then I got to know his personality and he had the best personality in the world which made me dig him even more then just his looks... I was soo in love

and he was gay

DigitalLisa said:

I agree! The personality makes the person, in my opinion.

Regarding the guy that you fell in love with... Poor you...

AzureStar said:

Well, I have always found my girl friends have come about because we have found each other physically attractive. We'll tend to remain friends for as long as we can make each other laugh despite whatever's happening around us.

I have never had any issues with being friends with any girl that I have found attractive, so long as they are worth being friends with.

Anji said:

So you are saying that you haven't been friends with a woman that you don't find physically attractive?

I agree with your last statement... and that goes for men and women for me.

AzureStar said:

I don't think I have ever been really close friends with any girl that I haven't found pretty initially. Like I said, we will only continue to be friends, if she's worth being friends with

Have you ever been friends with any guy whose face looked like the hairy backside of a rhinocerous?

Anji said:

Yes, and I've even dated a few.