Today I was at the bookstore, and I saw this girl walk by who caught my eye because she was really tall and she even looked sorta like me (if I had a faux-hawk and wore pink jeans )....Anyway, in her hands she had the 21 Nights in London and the Buffy the Vampire Slayer boxset!
Then she went and picked up a vegetarian cookbook

I wanted to start up a conversation with her, but she had on headphones, plus I didn't know what to say

But I think I missed out on meeting a potential best friend


How do you approach a stranger, and ask him or her on a "friend date"?

Best friend my ass, she sounds like a dyke and I think you wanted to fuck her!

Buffy?

Vegetarian?

FAUXHAWK????

Come on. And Prince fans are good in bed. Stalk her.

I swear I didn't want her body, only her mind!

I so wanted to ask her to get coffee or something (cause she probably liked coffee too!) but I didn't want her to think I was "coming on to her"

you just go up to her and say "ohmigod" (in your valley girl voice) "those are, like, my favorite shows!" And then you ask her something really specific about one of them that will engage her for hours if she's a true fan

I don't know if you'd get coffee out of it, but it might add a spark to your day!

i usually just follow them to the bathroom.....

heartbeatocean said:

casual conversation would probably be enough...i talk to strangers about casual stuff all the time...got a few phone numbers passed to me in starbucks

say hi and introduce yourself...

then lick her right across the face...

works everytime

thekidsgirl said:

Just change the words: ""Everything I want to do to her mind, I want to do to her body.""

roodboi said:

across the face?...see id be pissed you messed up my makeup for no good reason

BabyGirl said:

me too. Everyone thinks I'm so shy, but I have some great fleeting interactions with strangers! Never got a phone number though...

BabyGirl said:

you'd get over it...

besides I always pop a tic tac right before that move, so your face would be minty freah as a muthafuka...

roodboi said:

i smell fresh enough without your minty spit all over my face...if im gettin licked i better be getting more out of it

BabyGirl said:

*note to self...if I ever see BabyGirl, shake her hand...

BabyGirl said:

when I was a toddler, my mom used to wet a kleenex with her saliva and clean my face off with it. I HATED THAT! eewwww

roodboi said:

shake my hand? pfft...might lick you across the face then

I find myself in this very situation all the time.

It's so easy to meet a new pal in Kindergarten. Just walk up to a kid, start bonding over a game or some toy and... voila! You've got a new best friend for months, maybe years! But it seems adults lose so much capacity to make friends unless they're in some environment tailor made for socializing. Kinda sad.

This sounds like one of my threads, kidsgirl.

what about sniffing butts??

seems to work for dogs...

Lammastide said:

I agree. And those tailor made events always seem to require alcohol. I also find there's some kind of social stigma against chit chat. We're so bent on being productive. When I was in the Middle East, I loved how the men would sit outside on the street on a chair and spend HOURS chatting with other men. Sure they didn't seem to be getting much done, but I admired that. Unfortunately, the women didn't seem to have that option, as they were seldom seen outside of the home.

i have no friends, so i wouldn't know

thekidsgirl said:

You sound like a lesbian already.

A recent same sex hit on line i recently heard was "Hi, are you Carrie from the org?"

It seemed to work, as far as i am aware it all went well

mdiver said:

roodboi said:

I am actually pondering using this suggestion

heartbeatocean said:

then ask her what her interests are
who she beeee with
things to make her smile
what numbers to dial

Well you don't follow them into the mens room.

What?

johnart said:

errant said:

heartbeatocean said:

the valley girl voice might have sent her running

roodboi said:

hmm, I'll try that next time
It's bound to get me a new friend of atleast a restrainning order