keyiemo said:

Suck it up. Let her go wearing what she pleases and with whom she pleases. She'll appreciate the support.

I went to two proms.(long story ) One year I went by myself, the other year I brought a girl as my date.
[Edited 3/15/09 17:20pm]

Genesia said:

it needs to be done right or not at all.

Genesia said:

No, no one sews around here.

keyiemo said:

a tailor, a dry-cleaner tailor.

something

or giving up would be a nice place to start

Cinnie said:

that shit is hot.

Christopher said:

I think it is a perfect idea. The crazy thing is after a few pages I opened keyiemo's profile to orgnote her, and it said

FunkMistress said:

Very well said!!!

Cinnie said:[quote]

Christopher said:

blame it on the goose gotcha feelin loose? :shrugs:

Christopher said:

blame it on the
ah
ah/ah/ah

let her go on her terms or she'll pull away from you.
[Edited 3/16/09 19:53pm]

keyiemo said:

Mama, it's not a lifestyle, it's a life AND she didn't choose it. It really shows what a great mother you are if she came up to you and opened up about her true self.

As long as she's safe, she should wear what she wants and take who she wants to take. It's going to be a growing experience for both of you.

I'd let her go but I'd seriously try 2 talk her out of the tux idea.
Not a good idea. Maybe offer some alternative outfits.

she is and will always be your daughter, no matter what. you're not going to be around for ever, and she's going to need to have someone love her for who she is.
thank god she's found someone to give and receive love from. maybe this is not her life partner, but she's found someone to accept her for who she is, inside and out.
let her go to the prom as she wants, not as you want. be happy for her. it's her life and more than anything else, she needs your acceptance and love.

keyiemo said:

Let her Go. Let her be herself. Look at having a gay daughter as a blessing and not a curse. God saw you as special enough to give one of his unique creations. Treat it that way

keyiemo said:

She probably already deals with it. Even if kids get crazy and stupid she will have done it her way. She will always be proud of that.

FunkMistress said:

or how she

SHOULD

NOT

JUDGE

keyiemo said:

If they show up at your door, make sure you tell them to wait a sec before entering then strip naked and see if they want to preach to your breasts

Lammastide said:

NEITHER

WOULD

I

i feel we all gave good advice.....none of which was appreciated.

just sayin.

BlackAdder7 said:

you're trippin'

the bulk of the discussion took place in the first two hours from the time the OP started the thread. she also responded 24 times to that discussion and repeatedly thanked (aka appreciated) people for their input! you come along a day later with your post and just because you didn't get a response you feel slighted?
for all we know the OP hasn't even been back to the org. just sayin, adder.

BlackAdder7 said:

I want to apologize to anyone who felt I wasn't appreciative of the advice and comments that they gave to me.
I was thankful for all of your advice and also for the private messages that were sent to me.
BTW...FloralElephants, I ordered Camp Out and I'm still waiting for it. Should have been here yesterday....guess I better call Amazon..

keyiemo said:

Sorry to you Keyiemo, and to Emm....I was wrong you were right...just hug your daughter and tell her the org loves her.

BlackAdder7 said:

You better just CALM DOWN!

keyiemo said:

Ever heard of PFLAG? Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. Your daughter isn't going to change in this lifetime so a support group, if you feel you need it, might be a good thing But there's always the org. It's full of homos and lezzies and you can always ask us ANYTHING. We aint shy

All the best Keyiemo

emm said:

Just to give a long (crazy) update...I was only able to get online for a quick second yesterday before all hell broke loose. I received a phone call from the mother of the girl my daughter wanted to take to the prom. She said that her daughter had left home crying because they got into it about my daughter/prom. She wanted to know if her daughter was at my house. I went downstairs and omg, she was there with my daughter crying her eyes out. I told her mom I would bring her home and hung up the phone. I was trying to ask the girls what was going on and what happened and so forth. My daughter was crying by this time and I kept telling them to calm down and tell me what was going on. I could not calm them down and I felt so freaking helpless.....I guess I was taking too long because the mom showed up. She came in (didn't knock on my door just came in!)and started cursing out her daughter and telling her that she was not going to the prom with a girl dressed in a tux and telling her that she was crazy if she thought she was going to let her have a girlfriend.She said that they were not acting natural and God didn't make women to be together. She said they were both going to hell..She then started on me, saying people were not born with these feelings..that they learned them. She said that I was wrong for entertaining my daughter's whims. No matter how I really feel about the situation..I wasn't going to let her talk about my child or me in MY house. I ended up cursing her out and telling them to GET THE *UCK OUT OF MY *UCKING HOUSE WITH YOUR DUMB ASS!! They finally left with her telling my daughter to stay away from her child. It was so crazy. I actually at one point felt myself walking towards this lady to punch her in the face! I was SO mad!
After they left, I made the mistake of telling my daughter this is the type of *hit I'd been telling her about. She started talking crazy talk saying she was moving out and her and the girl were going to live together and she was just spewing a whole bunch of nonsense. We were arguing and it was just really bad...I didn't sleep last night. I dozed off around 6am and got up around 1. Got online to check a few things and then decided to look on here to see what was new.....
Anyway, that's what's going on in my crazy world.....

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I haven't heard of it but will certainly look into it...
Thanks.

keyiemo said:

Hang in there, i said nasty shit to my folks too when we fought but with discussion and understanding all can be worked out.
Support,care and understanding are the way forward. It sounds like your daughter reacted to the "you cant" attitude of the other mother, now is your chance to demonstrate that you are not like that.

I wish you well and hope for for you and your daughter.

Oh and i woulda punched the fuck out of her too

keyiemo said:

SHE.

IS.

DEAD.

WRONG



Every gay and lesbian person will tell you we are born this way and anybody doing the whole "I chose" routine always has religious hangups.

keyiemo said:

BLACK

ADDER

SHAME

ON

YOU!

Next time take a before dadding out on someone!

keyiemo said:

One day you're actually going to look back on this and think

wow, that entertaiment was cheaper than cable!



Crazy times but your daughter is on the verge, if not already, in womanhood. She is your child and she will always be that to you but she is becoming herself and believe me, confronting this about ourselves is the hardest thing EVER. Straight people never have to actually question their own existence in the way that many of us are forced to do. I too came from a religous household and the religion aspect made things so much harder. I've been out for 21 years now, I'm happy, my family is happy and we're living and loving the best we can.

This life is short, don't miss out on or lose your daughter because of something that is not in her control. If God didn't want us here, we would never have been born. I always feel that God chooses special people to raise gay kids. It aint easy for anyone but the alternative for gay kids can be horrifying. We support her, we support you. I wish you all the best and if you need to talk, just give a shout!