shanti0608 said:

~seriousneededthatshakeandevenmorethehugandhugsback~

Serious said:

I wish I had the answers to make your pain go away and make you happy right now.
I have learned that balance is key for most of us.
Everything you have gone through lately has made you stronger and you have grown because of it. Growing pains hurt.

Serious said:

Well, if you don't mind me saying it comes down to embracing things.

It is exciting to go all out, run fast,think fast and act fast, live on the edge. That is the great adrenaline/endorphine part of it that we thrive on. However there is a down side, sometimes things go tits up, sometimes one gets hurt, falls flat..etc. however we cant have the one without the other so we have to embrace that chance, in fact sometimes it is the chance of failure/getting hurt that makes us feel alive. The closeness of death or pain is what makes it so much fucking fun. Unfortunately until one realises that one is not really ready for the chase

Jeffiner said:

But that's exactly the kind of life I wish I could live .

mdiver said:

That is SO not how I want to live my life. I don't need to get close to death to appreciate life.

I think we all have our own way of looking at things.

i am scorpio!

CarrieMpls said:

We do, we are all different and find enjoyment in different things, i dont expect everyone to feel like me, but i just get itchy and restless if my arse isnt on fire and i scare myself shitless at least a few times a week

mdiver said:

Your driving can be scary.

mdiver said:

That is SO not how I want to live my life. I don't need to get close to death to appreciate life.

I think we all have our own way of looking at things.

Serious said:

WHY? That's not what life's about, and you've only got ONE! Well, that's another subject... but it's about learning isn't it? Feeling? How can you ever really be up, if you've never been down? Failure and being hurt sometimes, are a PART of life, just as death is a part of life! I mean if someone has cancer, or is disabled I would say that's something to get depressed about you know? The rest is just how it is sometimes, and even if you take the middle ground you're not always 'safe'.
[Edited 3/14/09 7:55am]

Jeffiner said:

I wish that was what life is about, but I know it's not that way. I am not more up if I have been down before. And yes I know there are no guarantees in life no matter how safe you feel.

Well, thanks for your responses, I think it's interesting how people see things. Do you think age makes a difference? I mean as you get older you're less likely to take risks and are happier to settle for a more 'balanced' life? Maybe when we're young, we more likely to be all or nothing people! Also, once people have children, there's a huge amount of compromise isn't there? :

Serious said:

I understand..

Well, thanks for your responses, I think it's interesting how people see things. Do you think age makes a difference? I mean as you get older you're less likely to take risks and are happier to settle for a more 'balanced' life? Maybe when we're young, we more likely to be all or nothing people! Also, once people have children, there's a huge amount of compromise isn't there? :

Jeffiner said:

Every day every yr every experience makes a difference in our perceptions and actions

several yrs ago I was in a safe little bubble cruising long and BAM cancer came into our lives - it -did not make me settle for anything more the huge shifts in living life fuller -deeper then I already did - even though I am several yrs older

so yeah ... life changes - we change - perceptions and priorites change

when those things stop - we die

Jeffiner said:

I am 41 and have just gone for the biggest adventure in my life. Does that make me still young ?

Mach said:

That's very true, I'm very sorry to hear about the cancer. I was talking to someone last night who has prostate cancer, he's going into hospital next week for an operation then chemo etc. He was being VERY positive, but I really felt for him. It certainly does make you stop and think!

Serious said:

Hell, yeah!! VERY young! Go for it!

Jeffiner said:

I already did go for it. But who knows, maybe it will turn into an even bigger adventure in the future.

Jeffiner said:

Please - no sorrys needed

We are Prostate cancer survivors - it can be done

one should always pause to think - we are all human and fragile in ways that can connect us and make life much better

Serious said:

I'm fascinated!

Mach said:

I'm very glad to hear that!

Jeffiner said:

Well I am not an adventorous person at all and nobody thought I'd do it .

Jeffiner said:

I am extremely glad to be living it

Serious said:

Oh come on! Spill the beans...

Stand up comedy? Pole dancing? Jumping out of aeroplanes? An affair?!
[Edited 3/14/09 12:34pm]

Jeffiner said:

Serious said: