Are you an 'All or Nothing' person? In life, are you passionate and totally involved in a project / your work / your hobbies? And with love and relationships, does it have to be the whole 9 - passion, excitement, to be loved and adored to the ends of the earth...

Or are you a more 'Middle of the Road' kind of person, are you happy to compromise, feel content, have no drama, no complaints, that kind of thing? Just curious... or bored..!

'All or Nothing' person ! In life, I am passionate and totally involved in a project / my work / my hobbies And with love and relationships, - passion, excitement, to be loved and to give love

'Middle of the Road' kind of person, I am happy to compromise, feel content, have no drama, no complaints,

I am a bit of everything mentioned and I like it that way

All or nothing, i don't do half measures

Depends on what it is, really. I have been all of the above at one time or another.

I am an 'All or Nothing' person and I wish I was a 'Middle of the Road' kind of person, because I would be a lot more happy then I suppose

Serious said:

Serious said:

No you wouldn't, the thing you have to do is be happy with what you are and embrace it.

Serious said:

Would you though....?!

shanti0608 said:

Thank you, Val .

Jeffiner said:

Yes I think I would. I have the feeling I fucked up my whole life with my "all or nothing attitude" .

mdiver said:

But I am not happy with who I am. I wish I wasn't me . Peter told me today that I just don't have talent to be a happy person. Maybe he is right.

Serious said:

Awww you are just like me, we are our own worst enemy some times and over think things too much.

shanti0608 said:

I know .

Serious said:

Well, that's interesting, that's what I'm trying to find out, what's the best way... but I suppose you either are or you're not, you can't really change yourself, so maybe embracing how you are as mdiver says CAN make you happier?

Serious said:

Well, if you don't mind me saying it comes down to embracing things.

It is exciting to go all out, run fast,think fast and act fast, live on the edge. That is the great adrenaline/endorphine part of it that we thrive on. However there is a down side, sometimes things go tits up, sometimes one gets hurt, falls flat..etc. however we cant have the one without the other so we have to embrace that chance, in fact sometimes it is the chance of failure/getting hurt that makes us feel alive. The closeness of death or pain is what makes it so much fucking fun. Unfortunately until one realises that one is not really ready for the chase

Serious said:

And there is your 'all or nothing' attitude - you've completely messed up your WHOLE life!! Not just a little bit, or some of it...? You sure?

mdiver said:

So true, life is for LIVING! Really living, not just sort of getting through without any risks of failure or getting hurt, it's all part of the experience I think.

mdiver said:

See I am not the "go all out, run fast,think fast and act fast, live on the edge kind of person" . I am the kind of person who needs security and stability. But still I am the "all or nothing" kind of person. And having fallen flat and been hurt does not make me feel alive . Quite the opposite. I feel alive when I am happy, and I can appreciate the little things in life. Having "survived" things did not make me stronger like people usually say. I think I am just a hopeless case .

Serious said:

It is a good quality, most ppl do not think enough.

I wish I could give you a real hug right now.

Serious said:

Some things do need a balance of bits of compromise



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Jeffiner said:

Yeah I probably should work on that, but somehow I feel like I am my worst enemy just like Val said .

Mach said:

I am quite good at compromises actually. But I am not good when it comes to balance I guess.

Serious said:

~shantishakesseriousthengivesherabighug~
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shanti0608 said:

I wish that too, but some day it will happen .

I have been told by everybody that I think too much and I think that's true. So in my case it's not a good quality anymore .

Jeffiner said:

You CAN change yourself

There is NO BEST way Finding a balance for yourself that works in your life - in your relationships is going to be your best way

but your way may not be my best way and mine would not be yours

Jeffiner said:

Yes sadly I am quite sure . But hopefully things will get better again one day .

Jeffiner said:

But that's exactly the kind of life I wish I could live .

Serious said:

I really think more people are a balance of both concepts - just they pick a main theme and run with it

for me, to REALLY be an "all or nothing " person - you have to be able to throw in doses of some of the thigs listed for a " middle of the road " person

shanti0608 said:

~seriousneededthatshakeandevenmorethehugandhugsback~

Mach said:

I changed a lot because I had to, but in some things I am so still the same..