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PrintableSerious said: ZombieKitten said: no chance then, this guy probably couldn't care less who I am unless I boffed him   I met guys who are like that too. They did not have any interest in staying in contact with me once they found out that I would not have sex with them.The thing is we used to get along really well 12 years ago, we caught the tram together to work each morning for months and laughed and joked all the way to the city. The thing is he doesn't remember me, and says he is kicking himself. There was no sexual innuendo back then, we were both in relationships at the time. I thought he was a friend of my housemate because he brought him to see the band play one time (the master and the housemate's band) and we thought it was a small world!) turns out those two old drinking buddies don't remember each other either  they are both HOPELESS!!! | |
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ZombieKitten said: thekidsgirl said: well the way this is sounding, perhaps he should bring his knitting needles too, cause the spice is gone  the thing is, all I wanted was to maybe get an ice-cream, sit out in the sun for a bit - he lives in a great beachside/cafe neighbourhood and have a gasbag. I don't like that THAT isn't cool to do, that men and women who may (or may not) have some kind of spark there, can't get together with no sexual agenda - I wish this was europe, it's OK over there. By the sounds of it, it must be even worse in the states. Why can't men just keep it in their pants and NOT keep misinterpreting everything as a come-on  why does a guy assume a girl he is attracted to, wants to have sex with him just because HE is good looking (THAT in my opinion makes him a manwhore)  that assumption makes him an ugly human being in my view.well I don't think it's all men (though many are like that), plus if this particular guy knows you were once into him he probably susepcts that you still find him attractive and he has a chance...I say, its his loss! Hang with your none manwhore friends without the fear that their going to make move on you later  If you will, so will I | |
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ZombieKitten said: Serious said: I met guys who are like that too. They did not have any interest in staying in contact with me once they found out that I would not have sex with them.The thing is we used to get along really well 12 years ago, we caught the tram together to work each morning for months and laughed and joked all the way to the city. The thing is he doesn't remember me, and says he is kicking himself. There was no sexual innuendo back then, we were both in relationships at the time. I thought he was a friend of my housemate because he brought him to see the band play one time (the master and the housemate's band) and we thought it was a small world!) turns out those two old drinking buddies don't remember each other either they are both HOPELESS!!!Men . Women usually remember guys so much better than men remember women.With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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thekidsgirl said: ZombieKitten said: the thing is, all I wanted was to maybe get an ice-cream, sit out in the sun for a bit - he lives in a great beachside/cafe neighbourhood and have a gasbag. I don't like that THAT isn't cool to do, that men and women who may (or may not) have some kind of spark there, can't get together with no sexual agenda - I wish this was europe, it's OK over there. By the sounds of it, it must be even worse in the states. Why can't men just keep it in their pants and NOT keep misinterpreting everything as a come-on why does a guy assume a girl he is attracted to, wants to have sex with him just because HE is good looking (THAT in my opinion makes him a manwhore) that assumption makes him an ugly human being in my view.well I don't think it's all men (though many are like that), plus if this particular guy knows you were once into him he probably susepcts that you still find him attractive and he has a chance...I say, its his loss! Hang with your none manwhore friends without the fear that their going to make move on you later  the master used to be a manwhore | |
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Serious said: ZombieKitten said: The thing is we used to get along really well 12 years ago, we caught the tram together to work each morning for months and laughed and joked all the way to the city. The thing is he doesn't remember me, and says he is kicking himself. There was no sexual innuendo back then, we were both in relationships at the time. I thought he was a friend of my housemate because he brought him to see the band play one time (the master and the housemate's band) and we thought it was a small world!) turns out those two old drinking buddies don't remember each other either they are both HOPELESS!!!Men . Women usually remember guys so much better than men remember women.I remember everything usually, I had so much info on him he thought someone put me up to something, he was suspicious | |
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ZombieKitten said: Serious said: Men . Women usually remember guys so much better than men remember women.I remember everything usually, I had so much info on him he thought someone put me up to something, he was suspicious I am totally like that myself  !With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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ZombieKitten said: thekidsgirl said: well I don't think it's all men (though many are like that), plus if this particular guy knows you were once into him he probably susepcts that you still find him attractive and he has a chance...I say, its his loss! Hang with your none manwhore friends without the fear that their going to make move on you later the master used to be a manwhore but now he's your manwhore, so it's okay! If you will, so will I | |
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ZombieKitten said: thekidsgirl said: well the way this is sounding, perhaps he should bring his knitting needles too, cause the spice is gone the thing is, all I wanted was to maybe get an ice-cream, sit out in the sun for a bit - he lives in a great beachside/cafe neighbourhood and have a gasbag. I don't like that THAT isn't cool to do, that men and women who may (or may not) have some kind of spark there, can't get together with no sexual agenda - I wish this was europe, it's OK over there. By the sounds of it, it must be even worse in the states. Why can't men just keep it in their pants and NOT keep misinterpreting everything as a come-on why does a guy assume a girl he is attracted to, wants to have sex with him just because HE is good looking (THAT in my opinion makes him a manwhore) that assumption makes him an ugly human being in my view.It isn't just the US where it's considered inappropriate, or just iffy, for a married woman to go on a "date" with a man she used to have a girl-boner for. The Normal Whores Club | |
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FunkMistress said: ZombieKitten said: the thing is, all I wanted was to maybe get an ice-cream, sit out in the sun for a bit - he lives in a great beachside/cafe neighbourhood and have a gasbag. I don't like that THAT isn't cool to do, that men and women who may (or may not) have some kind of spark there, can't get together with no sexual agenda - I wish this was europe, it's OK over there. By the sounds of it, it must be even worse in the states. Why can't men just keep it in their pants and NOT keep misinterpreting everything as a come-on why does a guy assume a girl he is attracted to, wants to have sex with him just because HE is good looking (THAT in my opinion makes him a manwhore) that assumption makes him an ugly human being in my view.It isn't just the US where it's considered inappropriate, or just iffy, for a married woman to go on a "date" with a man she used to have a girl-bonerfor. We call that....frothed up | |
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FunkMistress said: ZombieKitten said: the thing is, all I wanted was to maybe get an ice-cream, sit out in the sun for a bit - he lives in a great beachside/cafe neighbourhood and have a gasbag. I don't like that THAT isn't cool to do, that men and women who may (or may not) have some kind of spark there, can't get together with no sexual agenda - I wish this was europe, it's OK over there. By the sounds of it, it must be even worse in the states. Why can't men just keep it in their pants and NOT keep misinterpreting everything as a come-on why does a guy assume a girl he is attracted to, wants to have sex with him just because HE is good looking (THAT in my opinion makes him a manwhore) that assumption makes him an ugly human being in my view.It isn't just the US where it's considered inappropriate, or just iffy, for a married woman to go on a "date" with a man she used to have a girl-boner for.  so go and get a cappachino, drive your own car....call it a night!THE B EST BE YOURSELF AS LONG AS YOUR SELF ISNT A DYCK[/r]
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myfavorite said: FunkMistress said: It isn't just the US where it's considered inappropriate, or just iffy, for a married woman to go on a "date" with a man she used to have a girl-boner for. so go and get a cappachino, drive your own car....call it a night!Or, if you go for an ice cream, get yours served in a dish to eat with a spoon. | |
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FunkMistress said: ZombieKitten said: the thing is, all I wanted was to maybe get an ice-cream, sit out in the sun for a bit - he lives in a great beachside/cafe neighbourhood and have a gasbag. I don't like that THAT isn't cool to do, that men and women who may (or may not) have some kind of spark there, can't get together with no sexual agenda - I wish this was europe, it's OK over there. By the sounds of it, it must be even worse in the states. Why can't men just keep it in their pants and NOT keep misinterpreting everything as a come-on why does a guy assume a girl he is attracted to, wants to have sex with him just because HE is good looking (THAT in my opinion makes him a manwhore) that assumption makes him an ugly human being in my view.It isn't just the US where it's considered inappropriate, or just iffy, for a married woman to go on a "date" with a man she used to have a girl-boner for. It's funny, when you phrase it like that the whole thing seems completely different...Like the guy isn't really doing anything wrong, but Zombie's out looking for 'a good time' away If you will, so will I | |
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Having read through this whole thread, you've gotten lots of good advice and I think you already know what to do so no need for me to add anything.
Does this mean I have to keep my hands to myself when you visit?  | |
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sextonseven said: Having read through this whole thread, you've gotten lots of good advice and I think you already know what to do so no need for me to add anything.
I'm sorry i didn't keep my hands to myself last time I saw you. Does this mean I have to keep my hands to myself when you visit? 
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I'm the type that would just show up completely oblivious. A friend's husband once sent me a whole bunch of emails inviting me to go visit them down in LA. And promised to give me a massage. (YEAH, I AM REALLY NAIVE  ) So I went. And yes, he propositioned me, and even offered me a lot of money to do it.   | |
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I'm so naive. I kinda started an online friendship with a woman, feeling cool with developing it because (a) I had no desire to sleep with her, and (b) because she's a nurse. I mean, she looked sensible, level-headed etc. - not a young girl who would misread the situation, especially considering she knew I was married. But, after a short time she kept sending me messages asking to be my 'mia nawy' (literally 'small wife', a mistress) and assumed that as a married man interacting with a woman, that was my motivation for doing so. The only thing I did that could have been construed as flirtation was complimenting her appearance in some of her pics (i.e. nice smile in this one, cool pic etc.)
I just don't have a lot of friends here and sometimes feel like I'd like to make some. I tend to prefer the company of women. It's not always easy, it seems. | |
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Fauxie said: I'm so naive. I kinda started an online friendship with a woman, feeling cool with developing it because (a) I had no desire to sleep with her, and (b) because she's a nurse. I mean, she looked sensible, level-headed etc.
- not a young girl who would misread the situation, especially considering she knew I was married. But, after a short time she kept sending me messages asking to be my 'mia nawy' (literally 'small wife', a mistress) and assumed that as a married man interacting with a woman, that was my motivation for doing so. The only thing I did that could have been construed as flirtation was complimenting her appearance in some of her pics (i.e. nice smile in this one, cool pic etc.)
I just don't have a lot of friends here and sometimes feel like I'd like to make some. I tend to prefer the company of women. It's not always easy, it seems. I'd be your friend Fauxie. | |
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JerseyKRS said: Fauxie said: I'm so naive. I kinda started an online friendship with a woman, feeling cool with developing it because (a) I had no desire to sleep with her, and (b) because she's a nurse. I mean, she looked sensible, level-headed etc.
- not a young girl who would misread the situation, especially considering she knew I was married. But, after a short time she kept sending me messages asking to be my 'mia nawy' (literally 'small wife', a mistress) and assumed that as a married man interacting with a woman, that was my motivation for doing so. The only thing I did that could have been construed as flirtation was complimenting her appearance in some of her pics (i.e. nice smile in this one, cool pic etc.)
I just don't have a lot of friends here and sometimes feel like I'd like to make some. I tend to prefer the company of women. It's not always easy, it seems. I'd be your friend Fauxie. Thanks.  | |
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I'm gonna hit someone with that damned pink purse one day, like an old lady.  | |
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thekidsgirl said: FunkMistress said: It isn't just the US where it's considered inappropriate, or just iffy, for a married woman to go on a "date" with a man she used to have a girl-boner for. It's funny, when you phrase it like that the whole thing seems completely different...Like the guy isn't really doing anything wrong, but Zombie's out looking for 'a good time' away which I'm totally not
to be honest if I'd had such a girl-boner I would have done something about it back then when I wasn't married. I had a mild crush, like any number I've had, like the one I had on my boss, which didn't stop me from turning up to work everyday. | |
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sextonseven said: Having read through this whole thread, you've gotten lots of good advice and I think you already know what to do so no need for me to add anything.
Does this mean I have to keep my hands to myself when you visit? you are a total gentleman and that is why I love you | |
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ZombieKitten said: thinks we are going to get it on if we meet up
I just want to see what he's up to, talk, since we used to have a great time talking! (cause I am a ninja bitch and have a guy harem for intellectual purposes) But I really think he wants to  he thinks it will be a hook-up!
BUT he also used that word "mate" which usually is how the aussie male differentiates you from a potential bonking partner, except this guy is from Arizona and probably doesn't realise that 
I think it means we can't just have a coffee, worst luck. Anyway, I guess my thread is less me asking you all for permission to go on a NOT DATE, but more a lament that it is not the done thing, and that doing so makes it OK for all to assume (the guy, most of the thread-respondents on this thread) it was going to be a hook-up. Everyone assumes a married woman meeting a guy IS has to be for sex, because there can simply be no other reason why they might meet, can there? | |
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Fauxie said: I'm so naive. I kinda started an online friendship with a woman, feeling cool with developing it because (a) I had no desire to sleep with her, and (b) because she's a nurse. I mean, she looked sensible, level-headed etc.
- not a young girl who would misread the situation, especially considering she knew I was married. But, after a short time she kept sending me messages asking to be my 'mia nawy' (literally 'small wife', a mistress) and assumed that as a married man interacting with a woman, that was my motivation for doing so. The only thing I did that could have been construed as flirtation was complimenting her appearance in some of her pics (i.e. nice smile in this one, cool pic etc.)
I just don't have a lot of friends here and sometimes feel like I'd like to make some. I tend to prefer the company of women. It's not always easy, it seems.  THE B EST BE YOURSELF AS LONG AS YOUR SELF ISNT A DYCK[/r]
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ZombieKitten said: ZombieKitten said: thinks we are going to get it on if we meet up
I just want to see what he's up to, talk, since we used to have a great time talking! (cause I am a ninja bitch and have a guy harem for intellectual purposes) But I really think he wants to he thinks it will be a hook-up!
BUT he also used that word "mate" which usually is how the aussie male differentiates you from a potential bonking partner, except this guy is from Arizona and probably doesn't realise that
I think it means we can't just have a coffee, worst luck. Anyway, I guess my thread is less me asking you all for permission to go on a NOT DATE, but more a lament that it is not the done thing, and that doing so makes it OK for all to assume (the guy, most of the thread-respondents on this thread) it was going to be a hook-up. Everyone assumes a married woman meeting a guy IS has to be for sex, because there can simply be no other reason why they might meet, can there? I met many men in my life without being interested in them and I always hated it that to them it were dates and they were hoping for more..With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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You are so lucky! The guy I used to have a crush on won't even friend request me on Facebook.  Shake it til ya make it  | |
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I lament as well, with others on this thread, that it's hard to be friends with the opposite sex sometimes. I have always enjoyed hanging out with guys, just as friends and as I get older it becomes more of a no-no. Luckily I live in an area where half the men are gay, so I can hang out with them all I like!  | |
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ZombieKitten said: Serious said: It does not work every time. But if the guy likes you as a person there is a chance that he will be interested in being friends with you even if there is no sex involved. no chance then, this guy probably couldn't care less who I am unless I boffed him Well, then definitely don't go. If someone doesn't even like you as a person or care about who you are, then why waste time even knowing them at all?  Especially if you are not looking for someone to sleep with (as you said)."I saw a woman with major Hammer pants on the subway a few weeks ago and totally thought of you." - sextonseven | |
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ZombieKitten said: Anyway, I guess my thread is less me asking you all for permission to go on a NOT DATE, but more a lament that it is not the done thing, and that doing so makes it OK for all to assume (the guy, most of the thread-respondents on this thread) it was going to be a hook-up. Everyone assumes a married woman meeting a guy IS has to be for sex, because there can simply be no other reason why they might meet, can there?
If you really want to see your old crush but don't want to have sex with him or give the impression that you might consider it, why don't you meet up casually during the day or preferably on a weekend afternoon at a public place like a mall or something and if possible, bring the kids along. That would send the old crush a clear signal that he can;t expect to hook up with you that easily (though he may email or text you to meet up later). BTW, my best friend called me earlier and told me about how she went out to a club with her girlfriends and had a number of married men hitting on her. Now I understand why some guys want to hit on her since she keeps her body in great shape even though she is in her late 30's, but married men? How clueless or horny do you have to be to hit on some other chick when you have a wife at home unless you're a manwhore looking for something on the side.
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