What is it? How is it shown/given?

20 views, and no one seems to know or care...?

I believe Friendship is a relationship between people the relationship is base on love toward that person willing to help out each other through thick and thin moments in life. Friendship could be shown in many ways toward the person or people. True friendship is willing to trust the friend, try to be forgiving when something bad happens, and help out the friend who might be dealing with some tough times in life. I also believe shareing things in common is a plus in a friendship.
[This message was edited Sat Nov 30 0:10:44 PST 2002 by kondwanii]

And then a burst of 20 votes/views...with a .1 average. Too, too funny!

kondwanii said:

Thanks for your reply, kondwanii

NegaTIVity said:

Someone else will reply to this topic soon. I think this is a good topic to discuss.

I think friendship is the most important thing in this world...what would we do without any friends? We'd be lonely and just hanging around @ home using the internet all day or watching the TV

Seriously 4 me a good friendship is worth more than love. If u care 4 it it holds on 4 lifetime! But u never know what happens with your love...



never 4get about your real friends..u might need them 1 day!

Take care @ all and xcuse 4 my bad english again

greetz Conny

NegaTIVity said:

My personal definition of "Friendship"-

a relationship that entails/engulfs never ending support, love, an open ear with a understanding and patient/true . "Friendship" is by far more forgiving toward our sometimes uncertains ways... "Friendship" can exists within two people who love each other deeply and intimately, although the term "Friendship" in this sense stands somewhat apart than from a childhood friend or lifetime friend or new found friend, it just does.

When I think of "Friendship", many faces and heart existing souls illuminate beautifully in my mind/heart personally. I can actually think of my dad, my aunt my best friends (one is which just called me from Alaska just a few minutes ago), she is visiting her boyfriends family up there near the Alaskian Peninsula... and she just called to say "I love you and miss you" , that's what "Friendship" consists of (one of many/endless beautiful situations)... at least for me. I am blessed with "Frienship" , but the critical key is... "Friendship" takes work, mutual commitment/efforts and definitely mutual communication... just like any relationship that lives and survive's in "beautiful time"... it was never meant to be easy and effortless completely...just like every other relationship. "Friendship" has it's ups and downs, it's happy and moments... it's and ... but working through it "together" is what makes it so strong and resilient...simply being there for each other 24/7.

"Friendship" is there... when nothing else is, or temporaryily seems to not be... "we" all have our moments. True Friendship is definitely a treasured with undying love. I am sooo thankful to have so much in my life.

~~~sorry for going off on a tangent , I suppose I awoke with a profound sense of personal reflectiveness... that and the beautiful was definitely inspiring... it ignited my soul warmly and beautifully.

... by the way... "Good Morning"! I must get ready for work.
[This message was edited Sun Dec 1 23:11:07 PST 2002 by Freespirit]

friendship

transends time and space

like a fire alarm box

in case of emergency

break glass for assistance

friendship is comfort

in the pressence of the friend

:HUG:

NegaTIVity said:

There is nothing more treasured or powerful than friendship, in my opinion.

How is it shown or given? Well, to me, a true friend is loyal - no matter what - and honest... brutally so and a true friend would embrace that honesty. They are there with you through thick or thin... they are compassionate and understanding. A true friend would never betray you or your trust, regardless of whether you still speak or not. A true friend is one who accepts you for who you are and is understanding of that "you". They are there when you need a shoulder to cry on... they are there to lend an ear. They give you time when you need it, they listen to you, they talk to you without telling you. They hear you out and never jump to conclusions. They share your laughter and your tears... they share their heart with you.

It is difficult, I think, to find true friendship, but when you do there is nothing better and I am fortunate enough to have found just that. I also have many acquaintances, with whom I share good and bad times with, and they are special to me and I do consider them a friend, but I wouldn't necessarily trust them with my deepest, darkest secrets.

Friendship.
Let me tell you a little story about someone who showed me what true friendship means.
I live in Israel. a few years back my brother got in trouble in Egypt and was sentenced to 25 years in prison. His friend, came to visit him every month, from Israel to Egypt, just to see him for 40 minutes each time, bought him food, and took care of everything he needed. He did much more than he could, got in a lot of dangerous situations, yet kept visiting my brother, and made sure everything was ok with him. He basically risked his own freedom each time he went there, for 5 years!.
That's what I call a true friend.
He never asked anything back. but he knows that whever he's in need of help, I'll be there for him.

i wouldn't know...most of the people i would consider my friends seem to have forgotten what it means too...(MOST)

Friendship is built up.
Two people sharing.
Two people giving, two receiving.
Ingrediants are many, reliability, fun, deep, hard, easy, maintainence, balanced, beautiful, thoughtful, kind.

The most important, is the friendship with self. Cos I believe from that, all other friendships can flourish.

I couldnt do without!!

I actually don't really believe in the Hallmark card mentality when it comes to friends and friendship...the one where "true" friends are always there for you in the exact ways you want them to be at the exact times you want them to be...where they always say just the right thing you want to hear in just the right way you want to hear it and at just the right time you feel they need to say it...where they always put a smile on our faces, always lift us whenever we're down, and always know exactly what's on our minds and in our hearts...true friends may be all of these things at different times, but they are never all of these things all of the time without fail...anyone who searches for that type of friend doesn't want a human being as a friend, they want a robot...

To me, a true friend is someone you get along with beautifully, who you connect with on many different levels...and most importantly, someone who shows you respect, compassion and empathy...and who, thru their words and actions, makes you feel appreciated, valued and loved...

I responded to an email from Anotherloverholenyohead recently...I hadn't written to her in awhile...and in the email, one of the things I said to her was that I wished I could tell her about every thought, feeling and action that had occurred in my life over the past 10-15 years...and that when I did, that she would understand everything I told her...and would still want to be my friend just as she is now...and I think that spoke to what I feel friends truly are...someone before whom we can stand emotionallly naked and vunerable, to which we can show all our flaws, faults and imperfections along with our strengths, beauty and perfections...and that they still see us as someone who they want in their lives...as someone they still respect, still feel compassion and empathy towards...and as someone they still appreciate, someone they still value, and as someone they still love just the same...There's an amazing comfort and peace of mind in knowing you have that with someone...

Of course, for a friendship to occur, we have to be willing to afford them the same things that we want and expect from them...as Freespirit and Therapy said, it's two people committed to working together, giving and recieving, and communicating "24/7" to one another that there's desire within your hearts to do so...at times the "maintenance" of the friendship will be "hard", with its times of "happy and moments... it's and "...but true friendships will survive these ups and downs without fail...and if an intimate, romantic relationship is lucky enough to have this type of friendship as its foundation, it will be wonderfully and beautifully fulfilling......

There's that saying that "Friends are family members we get to choose"...that, to me, pretty much says it all...just as in most families, there's an unconditional love shared between true friends which overcomes all the hard times, the bumps, the shaky times...all the screw ups and fuck ups, all the "D'oh!" moments that occur in life...of course it's not until you have these hard times and shaky moments that you'll know whether or not the friendship you have is true or not...I suppose that's why we do encounter them, not only to show us our own individual strengths but to also show us the strength true friendship truly does contain...

vooms

wellbeyond, touched by what you have written

I want to share something that has happened with my best friend recently.

We had a conversation on the phone, where she told me that on her personal journey at the moment, where she is at in life, she is no longer willing to give so much of herself to someone who may be feeling needy. She left a job where she was working in a hostel full of people demanding a piece of her for roughly 8 hours a day, 5 days a week. Only after becoming totally drained, she realised that she needed to look after herself in a better way. So she is drawing new boundaries in her life. Letting people know that she can't give to needy people in the way that she has done.

That includes me.

On my personal journey, at the moment in my life I am learning to be more independant. I am learning to trust myself. I have turned to my friend when I have felt needy instead of turning to myself.
My *actual* needs, are to learn to trust myself. She did me a favour. Although, at the time, I felt like I was being abandoned and rejected.
My parents were unable to complete my childhood. I believe in the philosophy that children are dependant on their parents, who help them to become dependant on the universe, roughly at the age of 18 or so. My parents abandoned that. I am learning not to blame them for that anymore. They didn't get their childhoods completed in this way either.
So when my friend informed me of her new boundaries, there lay my learning opportunity. And actually, I feel our friendship will only strengthen through this.
We both need change. I feel so relieved we can change together. I feel like I have a second chance with our friendship, that I can do a lot for myself, and that I can add an ingrediant that was missing from our friendship...giving more. I was needy and therefore clammering. Only in learning to give more to myself, as my friend is learning to, can I then give more to our friendship.
All of the dynamics of this event amaze me!

FRIENDSHIP is a mutual understanding between people
sayin, I KNOW YOU AND I STILL LIKE YOUR COMPANY.
it is shown in the COMRADERY and BONDING of peoples.

My friends are some of the most important people to me in my life.

Freespirit said:

Ermmm, why did you put "simply" next to my name in your earlier response (simplyNegaTIVity)?

I have lots of great friends...don't know why though...I'm a messed up asshole.

Quite honestly... , I was wondering why that displayed the way it did myself ... I had to go back and do a double take , for I could of sworn that your org. name was "NegaTIVity", really. (I am going to fix it right now) By the way (sincerely)..., what inspired such a question (if you care to share). Definitely a question worthy of profound thought and the awareness of individual/personal meaning... we all experience "life occurences" uniquely.

~~~Beautiful day to you, NegaTIVity.

NegaTIVity said:

A relationship between two or more people in which they get on your last nerve but you absolutely love them anyway.

A relationship between two or more people in which you share with them half (or whatever) of your three dollars and six dimes.

... in which your spirit is rejuvenated whenever you talk on the phone.

... in which you share the same bed after a fun and hectic night of partying.

... in which you buy that extra something because you know they'll simply adore it.

... in which you drop them off late at night and watch them to the door, turn on the upstairs light and wave to you from their front window OR

... drive their drunk ass home, drag them up the stairs, search the pockets for door keys, throw their drunk ass in bed, take off their clothes, funky shoes & socks, cover them up and tuck them in.

Friends are very hard to come by.


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[This message was edited Mon Dec 2 4:31:36 PST 2002 by SweeTea]

SweeTea said:

I agree with that. They are. I feel so privaleged to have the friends that I have. I have about 6 close friends.

Friendship is honesty, love, trust, sharing, laughing, crying.

My best friend and I have been friends since we were 5 years old...One can only imagine the lifetime that we have been through.

Friends never have to prove their worth.

Friendship is lasting, and staying no matter who, no matter what...

I have a friend who is hurting because the friend she thought was really isn't...How can we forget those people that we have shared much with.