My friend and I have a silly ongoing debate that she brought up yet again yesterday....

She insists that before she procedes to get busy with her boyfriend, she likes to pause first and go wrap her hair, and wash her face

to me that sounds 'anti-sexy'!
"...Ooh baby, hold that thought, I gotta go wrap my hair..." , I say just go with the flow

but of course she calls me naïve, and claims that I just don't understand
and she can't bear to wake up with 'shagging hair' and last nights makeup

What do you all think?

hell no.





get it on as fast as possible kids!

Hecky naw!

Her wrap doesnt come loose???
Homegirl got skills

I'm with u hun
[Edited 2/17/09 13:15pm]

Hell no, do the do and fuckit.....

DanceWme said:

she does the whole pincurl and wrap scarf thing
meanwhile the guy has just gotta wait for her

I think it depends.

At the beginning of a relationship I definitely just give up on that kinda thing, have fun and worry about tomorrow, tomorrow.

And seeing as I never seem to get past the beginning of a relationship, I don’t know what comes after that.

I DO imagine that after a time, bedtime routine becomes just that, routine. So I'm brushing my teeth and washing my face before I get into bed no matter what's going on.

CarrieMpls said:

Okay, she always brings that up too and says how she wouldn't pull out her night bonet in a brand new relationship, but my thought is can't you just wait until the deed is done before doing your nightly ritual?

...I can understand the teeth brushing though

To each their own

I have some friends that say they stop part way through - somke a cig - split a mountian dew and talk about how it's going then decide to carry on or not


WTF ?

CarrieMpls said:

I do my bedtime routine, but I have sex first as I sure can't wait when I am in the mood for sex. Then afterwards I do my bedtime routine while the man probably has already fallen asleep .

Mach said:

OMG!!
What is that?!

Serious said:

and that's what I said to her, but she just claims I'm not being realistic

thekidsgirl said:

But when you're done with the deed, wouldn't it be nice to just fall asleep? And be done with the night? How annoying to have to get back up and go through all that crap, especially night after night after night. I totally see her point. I see both sides, I think there's room for both. I think he just needs to stop going after her till she's ready for bed and then everybody's happy. No one has to stop mid-anything.

thekidsgirl said:

dunno man

they have sechduled sex sessions once a week - they swear this is what they do

she is the kind that insists on oral given to her and does NOT return that - so maybe they stop so she can make sure things are going HER way

i likes my hair to be pulled

I'm single so for me it's the opposite. I get ready for sex before they come over...so that's shower, brush teeth, pretty up, make up and all that crap.

CarrieMpls said:

well problem solved
but then there's no spontaneity

JustErin said:

that's alot hotter

DanceWme said:

you would!

CarrieMpls said:

If neither of us is in the "I can't wait any longer" mood for sex before we go to bed I do things like brushing my teeth first. Because yes it is annoying when he is already asleep and I have got to do things before I can sleep too.

thekidsgirl said:

What, they ONLY have sex when they're getting ready for bed at night? They can be spontaneous all the livelong day, but clearly they just need to adjust their bedtome routine.

omg. Dissecting someone else's sex life is hilarious.

umm no, get it while its HOT!!!

thekidsgirl said:

I agree. I like doing it that way. I know exactly when it's gonna happen so I can make myself look and feel as good as possible, dress up and all that silly stuff. He likes it.

passion of the christ?

Mach said:

thekidsgirl said:

Thanks . But honestly it doesn't happen that often that I or the man is in the mood for sex exactly in these few minutes when I would do my bedtime routine. But I do believe that when the mood is there everybody should go for it if it is possible and it usually is.

CarrieMpls said:

it is quite fun, and yeah I'll tell her to alter her nightly routine...Maybe do all her bed stuff really early, and then they can hang out a bit and when the erge arrives to get busy, she won't need to take that 'time-out'

CarrieMpls said:

Yeah it sounds strange to me that exactly in the few minutes she would get ready for bed he is in the mood. Of course the mood may arise when they lie in bed, but before it's not that likely to happen in that short period of time.

DanceWme said:

It's that kinda twisted funny

I have asked him 100 time WTH do you GIVE what you do not GET

I can't even imagine