I mean, would you ever be a sperm donor?

Why and why not?

And what would you expect from the ordeal?

still a serious question




nut bust edit

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I'm trying!

Fauxie said:

never give up

i would and i have

Never. I don't want to be my own child's uncle.

Anxiety said:

You have a baby???!!!!

i like that i'm a genetic dead end

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

no, but not for lack of trying.

Anxiety said:

So, without getting too personal...

Have you been a sperm donor? To someone you know?

Fauxie said:

hokie said:

yes, a friend asked me. this was years ago, by the way...

Anxiety said:

So, she wasn't able to get pregnant?

That is really sweet.

hokie said:

she and her partner had tried at first doing the anonymous donor route, and that was way too expensive for them to keep trying; so my friend asked me how i'd feel about it, and after we discussed a few logistical concerns (do i have to pay alimony? do i have to touch girl parts? ), i realized it was an idea that didn't bother me in the least. in fact, i felt honored to be asked.

and no, unfortunately she wasn't able to get pregnant. we tried for 4 months, and after that she took a break from it and i'm not sure what happened after that, but i don't think she ever got impregnated. i've lost touch with her over the years - i hope she had a kid or was able to adopt. one of the reasons i was cool with being a part of it was because i thought she'd be an awesome mom.

Anxiety said:

You mean child support.

That's really cool. Would you have wanted to be involved in the child's life or would she have wanted you involved?

I doubt that the wife would go for it, seeing as though she's wanted another child for the longest....but if all the complications (legal and otherwise) were worked out, I'd have no problem at all...

...especially if its a physical sperm donation....

hokie said:

oh. right. child support.

we talked about my being in the child's life. it was interesting, because she left that decision up to me. she said if i were open to letting her tell the child i was its biological dad, it would be cool for me to have a role in the child's life like an uncle or a godfather. i wouldn't be a primary decision maker for the child, but they'd want the child to know me and for me to be part of its family (and vice versa, of course).

interesting legality: if the child had been born, i would have become its legal guardian if everyone in her family and her partner's family died. the chances of that seemed pretty slim, though.

Anxiety said:

PEJ said:

it wasn't nearly as sordid as it sounds.

No, I'd tell them to adopt.

I tell everybody to adopt.

Anxiety said:

did ya bust a nut in a cup?

I can't believe Anx plowed a lesbo

reneGade20 said:

you haven't wanted another kid?



and why do i have to leave dick to get in on this?

I would donate sperm - if I had any

Nope.
Dont think it is in the best interest of the child.

ok so im not a guy, but.....


I was asked by a very very close friend years ago to carry "their" baby.
I told them if they had no other way of doing it then, yes I would.


She is a cancer survivor, but could no longer conceive naturally or carry a pregnancy to full term.


They decided after a year of uncertainty to adopt a newborn.....

again, i would have done it for her....

as far as being in that baby's life...

hum, no.....i would have been JUST the incubator.....

AND BY NO MEANS WOULD I HAVE DONE IT IF I FOR ONE SECOND THOUGHT THEY COULDNT PROPERLY CARE FOR THE CHILD.
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emm said:

Uh uh....no way....the two we had were plenty to deal with at the time...young, broke and working dead end jobs barely making ends meet as it was...and by the time we were in a better place, it just didn't pan out....

reneGade20 said:

I'm just going to come out with it but I hope your wife didn't take it upon herself to trip out about the facts and harbor resentment because she didn't have another child. She had 2, that's success and get over it.

That's assuming she was ever a bruja about it

I don't think so.

Nothing at all against lesbians raising children. It's just that with one child, I've filled my personal reproduction limit. I personally wouldn't want to be part of conceiving another human when there are so many that already need love, a home, decent parents. I'm a much bigger proponent of adoption these days.
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Kids don't need 2 be handicapped from birth with just 1 parent. No.

Graycap23 said:

in my case, the woman had a partner, and both of their families were very accepting of them and also very encouraging about them raising a child.