Inspired by the 'alone on Valentine's Day' thread.

So....?

There's nobody I want. Too picky? Maybe. But I shouldn't have to settle.

I'd say it's cuz I play my cards WAY to close. But who the fuck knows.



oh yeah...i also dont want someone else's kids. And seeing as how I'm thirty, that equation is hard to balance out.
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I'm single because I'm only attractive to a limited few.

I'm single because I hang out with mostly lesbians, no contact with gay guys. heeehee.

I'm single because as I get older my standards have gotten higher. I thought they would get lower but they haven't.

I'm single because I've taken care of partners alllll my life. By that I mean I was basically a babysitter. I want to be taken care of now, or at least have someone that has their shit somewhat together.

oy vey.....

CarrieLee said:

Same, really. Cause I'd rather be alone than with anyone I've met so far.

Or they didn't want to be with me, that's happened a couple of times over the course of my life.

There's a whole host of reasons why I'd rather be alone, I suppose. It's few and far between that I meet anyone I'm remotely interested in. I don't trust men, I'm far too self-concious, very shy, etc.... And a whole host of reasons people probably don't want to be with me: I'm moody, very few men find me attractive, etc.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

Change # 2 to my hanging out with gay men & straight women and having no contact with straight men and all of these fit me as well.

I don't know...I think I'm too "real", if that makes sense. I'm completely comfortable with myself and my sexuality, I know who I am and what I want, I follow the beat of my own drum, I guess I'm a lot to handle. I'm not even picky! Which is so weird...It's a shame too, because I'm a real catch. I'm balanced, attractive, intelligent, talented, I have a sense of humor, educated, all that good stuff guys look for but eh.

I'm picky and I don't go out and meet new people very often. That and since I broke up with my last boyfriend, I haven't really wanted to get involved in any kind of romantic relationship. I'm just not interested at this point

'Cause I just got divorced !

I broke out of a two year relationship about 11 months ago... and I've just grown a bit tired of hunting for romance at the moment...

Im single for many different reasons.

But for the most part, I think, is because I don't know how to pick 'em.
Ive tried to date different types of guys, but there is always soemthing "not right"
And as for those single men out there that have an issue with women who already have kid (s), well thats gonna be a difficult one for ya'll.

The majority of women out there have been in a relationship and at one time felt its was going well and they decided to have children....later down the line it just didnt work out.

Dont rule them out just because they are mothers.

Exception:
Now if they have numerous kids from many different babies daddy's then right there is a red flag.....
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I'm not

But when I was, it was because I like making my own rules. I didn't have to answer to anyone if I wanted to go somewhere.

CarrieMpls said:

This sounds like me as well.

I like being alone

I trust no one

Don't want any drama in my life

I'm wary of single mothers(from past experiences)

CarrieMpls said:

You're being too hard on yourself.

I think my Path is running the show

I've said this before on the org. I think I'm waiting for that "movie love". I expect that I'll be at a book store or the grocery store where I and some guy start talking about your everyday things. The next thing I know I feel a spark, and he makes me laugh. The feeling seems to be mutual.....

*sigh*

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Yup!

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

When you find that store, let me know where it is. I'll travel for love

i've only been actively looking for a relatively short period of time
it takes time to sort the wheat from the chaff when you use the internet to meet men but if not for that i just wouldn't meet them.

uPtoWnNY said:

Probably, but it’s accurate as well. But that’s OK. I don’t mean it in an “oh woe is me” kind of way, though I realize that’s probably how it comes off. But it IS a practical reason for why it’s difficult for me to find anyone to date - the pool of men who find me attractive is pretty darn small. I’m not pizza or a cheeseburger or something else that everyone likes. I’m more like a pear salad with smoky gorgonzola and candied walnuts. I happen to LOVE a nice pear salad. But most people are gonna overlook that on the menu.
And it goes both ways. Like I said, I’m awfully picky. I don’t find very many men attractive in the sense that I’d want to date them right back.

So no one's answer is "No one wants me?".

As for me it's a few things:

I'm honestly very happy being alone right now

My son is my number one and I do not want to take away from him at all in any way at this young age

I'm not comfortable with my weight and that makes me feel that I am not worthy of being with someone

I find 99% of the population unattractive in one way or another

Other than one person who doesn't want to be with me, I haven't met anyone that I really want to be with seriously

I like the whole sex with no strings thing I've got going on with someone

JustErin said:

That too but I'd rather blame it on my spiritual path

Because nothing is more important to me than my freedom. And I don't believe the positive things about being coupled outweigh the negative.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

http://www.wnyc.org/books/33777

CarrieMpls said:

You shouldn't. Or women for that matter.

Because women are too goddamn picky!

Music

minneapolisFunq said:

You're single because of music?

JustErin said:

It's possible (like, for instance, you're always walking around blaring your copy of New Power Soul ).