Are you a forgiving person? I mean, a truly forgiving person? ...I try to be but some hurts just cut too deep

how about you?

Yes, but some stabs take somewhat longer to heal, though.

In the end it's no bloody use to carry grudges. If someone's not good in my life, I cut them out. I am sure people do that likewise with me as well. No biggie, in the end.

I'll forgive almost anything. Some just because it's not worth dwelling over, some because the person gave a meaningful apology.
But some things are hard to forgive. That's when I just try to forget, instead.

when i can. but i never let the person know it if they're not worthy of it.

depends on what they did and who it is.

Great subject babes

Yes I am. I found that if I don't forgive then I'm the one who may pay most dearly because I'm holding onto resentment, anger and grudges. It can ultimately scar me emotionally and affect my health.

In saying that, it's not easy letting go of negative thoughts for anyone who has hurt me. But I strive to always be happier and remain freespirited, so untying myself from thoughts and feelings that binded me is the best decision ever.

Also it doesn't mean that I'm condoning or agreeing what has been said or done cause forgiving isn't the same as forgetting what happened. It may always remain a part of my life but letting go lessens its hold on me and can therefore focus on other positive parts of life. It also doesn't mean that I'm denying the other person's responsibility for hurting me, and it doesn't minimize or justify the wrong.

I can forgive a person that has hurt me without excusing the act

I forgave my parents, my brother, my ex and most important of all; myself. Not saying that I am the most important in that list, just saying it is sometimes damn' hard to put the focus on yourself and tell yerself you are carrying grudges waaaaay too much and long over subjects that, in the end, do not matter much. Sometimes it is just GREAT to move on and not be a dweller.

HamsterHuey said:

Wise words.

Sometimes I nail it. Sometimes it's more of a struggle to arrive at. But forgiveness is always the target for me.

Being sorry is the key. In honesty if someone pisses me off and it is inconsequential then fuck it, i ain't gonna sweat it but if it is deep,close,meaningful then i sure as hell WANT to forgive because grudges or pain held on to really hurts and troubles us as humans. For me the key is if the are sorry or if they want to heal the rift. It is a 2 way street but i am a firm believer in if one wants forgiveness then one will prove it.

no, I'm not.

like when I found out my ex had my car stolen
because he claimed I paid more attention to
my car and loved my car more than I did him...
I will never forgive or be over that...

vindictive and intentional hurt is not easily forgiven...
well, not by me at least.

For my spiritual/physical health and happiness I make myself forgive. Some may take longer than others but I do. its a waste to hold on.

Natisse said:

forgiveness??? ha. in fact, right now i might be working up a grudge about this thread. gimme some time

XxAxX said:

EVILFEMINIST

mdiver said:

brit! kidding.....~!

this post has been edited in the interests of international peace it's the dawning of a new day and hands must join in universal harmony across the waters! feet must dance to the beat of a different drummer! heads must bob to world peas, baby! whirled peas!!!!!
[Edited 1/24/09 7:44am]

I forgave the person who sexually assaulted me so I guess overall, yeah. There are some instances where I don't want to forgive, so I don't. Hate can be good.

XxAxX said:

Ok you crossed a line....no way back from that!

mdiver said:

just think whirled peas, baby!!!

XxAxX said:

I try to be, but there's something inside of me that never forgets, so that I'm prepared if it ever happens again. Fool me once shame on YOU, fool me twice shame on ME,[b]
[b][Edited 1/24/09 7:48am]

mdiver said:

please? pretty pretty please with chips and fish on top ? it IS the forgiveness thread after all. and, i showed remorse, i did go back up and edit my earlier rash statement

XxAxX said:

Ok forgiven but if it happens again there is no way off the shit list

XxAxX said:

Hold the peas please.

mdiver said:

you said something naughty

XxAxX said:

Ok that is it !

shanti0608 said:

mdiver said:

i KNOW you are, but what am i

XxAxX said:

mdiver said:

XxAxX said:

You had your chance