I know it sounds weird, but I'm curious if anyone has every experienced this...

My father passed away Dec 27th, and I have been taking it surprisingly well. The 27th of January, though, I started feeling what I would describe as homesick. I felt angry that my father had abandoned me, so to speak, even though I know he could not help it.

That night, I dreamed that I walked into my childhood home, and my father was sitting in his favorite chair. He was very dressed up, looked young and bright, and was the happiest I had ever seen him. He had a huge beaming grin. I thought to myself that I knew he was dead, so I asked him what he was doing. He told me he was going to the movies. I bent over to lay on his shoulder for what seemed to be a long time, and he just rocked me in the chair. I caught him looking at me out of the corner of my eye, he looked worried about me. I didn't hear him say anything, but the general feeling was "don't worry".

I woke up and cried for the rest of the day.

Is this my concious trying to resolve things, or is this what they call a visitation dream? Has anyone ever dreamed of deceased loved ones?

Ugh this hits home hard.

The night my brother died I swear he came to me in my dreams. It started off as a usual dream...he was downstairs and I locked the door. He came up yelling and banging calling me an asshole and to open the door immediately. I opened it and then everything was pitch black and it was just him and I. We were sitting down and hugging each other and he told me he heard my prayers. We never had a good relationship, at times it was down right horrible...but we just held each other and let everything go. We forgave each other and he told me he was finally at peace.

I really thought I was crazy for a while...but I swear it was real. I swear.

No one can tell you "what" kind of dream it really is - that is really yours to own and understand



Yes I have had many dreams as such - of my loved ones but more so loved ones of friends that want me to pass a message along




Allow yourself your emotions

Sorry for your loss.

The closest person I have lost was my grandma (my dad's mom). She passed away in 1997.

I have never dreamed of her, that I remember anyway, but lots and lots and lots of my dreams since then take place in her house.

I don't believe in ghosts or souls or visitations or anything like that. But I do believe our dreams work out things going on in our heads, our lives, etc.

While it's no longer a constant source of sorrow, there will be moments that just hit me from time to time and I'll miss her sooooo much. I don't think that will ever go away.

I had a dream when I was about 8 years old. I was in a white room, with a childhood friend, and my grandmother was sitting in the middle of the room at a table with her arms and hands up to her chin. Her eyes were closed, and she had a slight smile. She just sat there. This room had no doors or windows, but everything was white... and bright. Well, we were looking for a way out of the room and my friend started cursing because there was no doors or windows... I looked back at my grandmother because we didn't curse in front of her.. she did not like cursing.. lol. But when I looked back, she didn't move... just sat there with eyes closed. This went on for several minutes when I was then awakened by my mother crying loudly on the other side of the house. I and my brothers and sisters ran to her room... where she told us that her brother, our uncle just called saying that my grandmother passed away in her sleep. I just stood there at the end of the bed while the siblings sat up on mama's lap... crying. It was the strangest thing that ever happened to me.

GetAwayFromMe said:

I don't have much to offer but this

My first year in college my dog KoKo passed away. When I moved away I knew I would lose her. We were so close. I got her on Valentines day when I was 9.

I came home from class and took a nap. I dreamed KoKo was running towards me.
I called my mom and asked her how KoKo was. My mom stuttered and she said "She's fine...why do you ask?" I told her I just had a feeling.

A few weeks later I went home for Christmas and they told me she passed hours before I called. They were afraid to tell me the truth. They didn't want me to worry.

GetAwayFromMe said:

Yes.



Yes, many times. Which does bring to light certain questions about dreams & the afterlife. Strangely enough, the longest recorded dream is about 3 seconds, and dreams are described as flashes, like images set in sequence and in fast motion.

CarrieLee said:

Wow, I believe you when you say that it was real. It sure was for me. It's bittersweet, my husband tells me that I should be happy about it, but all it does it make me sad.

Mach said:

I'm stuck between what I want to believe and what my head says.

Yes.
I lost my mommy on New Year's Eve 1999. I still dream of her about once or twice a month. She never looks ill or feeble (as in the end) in the dreams.

CarrieMpls said:

It comes in waves. One day I'll feel ok, and the next is pure torture.

mdiver said:

You've been a constant source of support, so that's all you need to do.

ThreadCula said:

I wonder if we can actually sense things without knowing it also?

johnart said:

That was the weird thing, my dad looked soooo young, not like he did right before he died.

Losing a parent is the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with.

I have had loved ones that have passed away visit in my dreams and in life.

I can smell my grandpa sometimes when im home alone. He smells like stale Salmen ciggs. Very unique smell, so I know its him.



I am one who, I think, spirits like to visit.

Mach said:

Absolutely.

And if it helps at all I'd be in favour of saying that it is indeed that your conciouss (or should that be subconciouss?) is trying to resolve things.
The same happened to me last year when my Dad passed on.

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amorbella said:

I should ask my sister if she's had any dreams. I asked my mom, who is not the easiest person to get along with. She says that she doesn't dream at all.

GetAwayFromMe said:

And that's ok

and if you change your mind tomorrow, that's okay too

Mach said:

Oh Mach, do you remember when we had that conversation about prostate cancer? I was sure that he would make it.

GetAwayFromMe said:

In that case

GetAwayFromMe said:

I know hun - I was hopeful with you

We have attended 5 funerals since TR's prostate cancer surgery ( going on 3 yrs ) ... of men/friends who have passed from it

GetAwayFromMe said:

In my case, it doesn't make me sad at all. My brother had problems all his life and was always jealous of me because I had a relationship with my father and he didn't. It wasn't his fault, he was young and it took me a long time to realize why he was so awful to me. That combined with a horrible car accident that led him to drug dependency made life very difficult for him and my family. We never had a good relationship and I think I only have one fond memory of him. This 'dream' was meant to happen so I could let go of all the anger...so we could both let go. I truly believe he is at peace now, there is no more pain.

GetAwayFromMe said:

Me too.
My mom was a single mom. She was both parents to me.
She was super strong and super independent and bigger than life.
Illness took independence away from her (she lived with my partner and I so I could care for her), but she had her wits about her till the very last day.

I felt like the earth beneath me collapsed.

I still walk by her picture and say "hi" or blow a kiss.
Totally silly, I know.

johnart said:

Nah man, that ain't silly, I still blow my Dad a kiss from time to time and I didn't even much like the guy.

Cloudbuster said:

Awww...

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CarrieMpls said:

Hey gorgeous.

Yes. From time to time I dream my mother & I are hanging out, like we use to. She passed 12 years ago. So it's nice to dream about her, every now and then.

Now that I'm getting older (cough, "experienced", cough) there are times I look at myself in the mirror and I see her features instead of my dad's strong genes. I just say..."Oh, there you are. Hi mami!" *I know, I know... *


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