would it bother you more if your "replacement" was a carbon copy of you (looks, personality, body size, etc) or the total opposite of who you are?

i find that it's really best to not dwell on it. don't you?

It wouldn't

But my ex's new boyfriend is very creepy-looking so

Not at all, there is so much more essence in life then having to brood on the past. An EX is just an EX meaning they are now EXcluded from my life.

It depends on how it ended. If I was dumped and replaced by someone like me, I'd be pissed. Luckily that never happened. I did dump a girl who went on to date one of my best friends. In this case, I felt like she was going for the lesser version of me and I turned it into an ego boost.

ex is an ex for a reason, what she does with her life is her lookout. In fact i am/would be more worried for him because i know she has not changed. Poor fucker.

Knowing my leafy green ass, it would bother me a bit either way. But I'd write a blog, do some poems, and get over it because that's their life. If they wanna carbon copy or play polar opposites to forget me, it shows I'm still on their mind.

Matter of fact, the little curly haired mutha DID try to replace me as a lover AND a friend and according to him, he ended up going to this blasphemous church where the pastor is a pimp and they drink in the church. He found that chick in a yahoo chatroom. Since we hardly talk anymore, I dunno if he's found someone else and frankly I don't care. He's triflin' as hell anyway and even his mama can't stand him.

When he left Roni land, he lost ALL the privileges. Mint-infused shampoo treatments, cupcakes, pedicures, and unconditional love. He gave up Lobster Bisque, y'all.

My ex's current girlfriend and I really aren't much alike -but I think she's great. I think they're much better together than he and I ever were.

So I think it might weird me out a little if he'd chosen Me v2.0, but since he didn't it's all gravy.

LadyLuvSexxy said:

That poor, lost soul....

It wouldn't bother me as much if they looked like I do. Obviously, it would mean that she wasn't over me yet...which is actually what happened to me. My ex did cheat on me with a guy that did surprisingly look very similar to me. The great thing was...he treated her like crap!!! Karma is a bitch sometimes!

meow85 said:

I treated him to some Omaha Steaks type of stuff. Oh well. Karma's on that azz now. I tried to defend his butt when my dad said that's what he gets for doin' me wrong. Now, I agree a thousand times over. He surely is a lost soul...

The majority of my exes do seem to date people eerily similar to me. One or two are with the exact opposite.

I think it's the opposite that bothers me more.

The people I've dated have almost all told me I'm much different than any other girl they've dated. I never know how to take that.

I don't really know who they go on to date after me. I don't think I really care.

Ya man, it irks me a bit. Especially if she's me with an upgrade. But I'm on good terms with my ex's so it's not something that drives me nuts or really, really upsets me.

I couldn't have cared less when I was single about my ex or her new boo....what bugged the crap out of me was when they'd go out of their way to say hello to me if they were out together and we crossed paths....complete with the overemphasized introductions....or worse, when I ran into a couple of them after I'd gotten married and THEY acted all out of sorts....like "I can't believe you got married?" or like one who got pissed off, cursed me out, turned on a heel and walked off....and SHE'S the one who broke it off with me....

people are fucking crazy....

PanthaGirl said:

i tend to go for a certain type, and most of my exs do so we all kinda look the same.

It doesn't bother me either way. I have actually become friends with some of my different ex's boyfriends.

PanthaGirl said:

Truth!


But I'll have to come back to answer the thread question when/if it happens to me.

Fury said:

I don't think it would matter to me either way. I am moving on with my life and so is he. You like who you like.














That being said he'll never find anyone cuter than me.


j/k

The easy thing is just to avoid having 'ex's' altogether.

violator said:

I hope I never have another one. The emotional damage is really painful.

hokie said:

It takes courage to give yourself to someone to the degree that you risk the hurt. I try to avoid that, so I'm more emotionally vacant than most people.

Negligence leads to destitution leads to loneliness leads to self-loathing.....

violator said:

I was young and sort of naive to the workings of a real relationship. I want to get married again some day. It is going to be very different this next time though. It sounds bad, but it (getting married again) will be on my terms. I spent too many years holding back about my true feelings. Never again.

You're hot. That makes up for being emotionally vacant.

hokie said:

You say the most wonderful things...

Fury said:

I had an ex that did that, even down to the SAME NAME as me! I went up to her and said "So, how's the fake-ass twin version?" and she found it amusing...then fucked me a few weeks later.

Ain't a stinker?

violator said:

OK, stop being nice to me lest Erin come here and punch me.

MuthaFunka said:

Only if you told her she shouldn't let the door hit her ass on the way out as soon as y'all were done.....

reneGade20 said:

In fact, I said "Tell ya dude 'Thanks'" and her jaw DROPPED and she laughed and was like "That's fucked up".