just wondering, it's a question that popped into my head. If a woman has her own, her own house, her own car, a successful career, there's nothing a man couldn't buy her that she couldn't buy herself...is there a such thing of being too independent? And is her independence a threat to men?

Please discuss.

I started a thread like this about a week or so ago. I thin that some men don't like that they can't impress me with the material things they have because I have my own. But I'm not looking for a man to do for me. I'm looking for a partner, a lover. If guys can't handle it, fuck 'em. I can sex myself, too.

Nope.

only to an insecure man

Vendetta1 said:

Yeah that's what i'm saying. Why do so many men base what they can "give" you on how they feel like a man while they are with you? Why can't you just love me for who I am and just rub my back, kiss my neck and make love to me all night? Why does it have to be about the material things all the time???? I have yet to meet a man who is confident within himself and accepts the fact that even though I have my own, we can still make beautiful music together.

not at all....the only time it matters is if said independent woman/person allows it to matter...

...I must be in the minority, because all I've done since I got married was trying to convince my wife to be independent and to keep going for hers...

reneGade20 said:

yeah you must be in the minority. the last guy I was with made it a point to say that I was the "breadwinner" in the relationship. And mind you, he was saying this and didn't even know exactly how much I made a year, because I never told him...yet he always assumed that it was way more than what he made. It was true, I did make more than him (because he often talked about how much his salary was and how he wanted another job making more money, but never made the iniative to look for another job ) but I never threw it in his face or told him or acted like he was lower than me because of that. I actually didn't understand his whole attitude towards the situation, but anywho, thats neither here nor there now since we aren't together anymore.

missfee said:

its just too much pressure for one....and early on in the relationship, I got tired of that accusation coming out in our arguments...as in "you're trying to control me, yada yada yada..." even though I think she was saying that in a pre-emptive strike for the future...

ZombieKitten said:

missfee said:

No

missfee said:

There really isn't. Some men will feel threatened by a woman's independence, but a man like that is not worth wasting time on IMO.