Do men fall in love, I mean real LOVE, not sex-lust?

Do men really like the chase of trying to "get" a woman?

Can men love and be faithful to one woman if they really wanted to?

I'll think about some more in a few minutes.

Vendetta1 said:

Life

pplrain said:

This is a good one. The only love men I've been with seem to be able to express is through their dick. having one I can understand buy my heart is flourish too and I wonder if I'm totally the exception or if men can feel the flourish outside the bedroom too.

pplrain said:

yes, but it will not end the sex lust for other women, except maybe temporarily
I actually hate it, though once I know a woman likes me I love getting closer to her. Maybey that's a chase, too
yes

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

you wonder if you're THE exception? For me, yes I can truly love a woman and it's more than just sex, but sex is still inseparable from it at the same time

I feel like I understand men pretty well.

I guess my most perpetual frustration is that they often like women who play hard to get. Letting a lot of guys know how much you like 'em is the kiss of death. That one I don't get.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Most men do seem to have an easier time getting in touch with their smooshier feelings when there's a sexual context. At some point I just had to decide that this doesn't make the feelings less real.

tackam said:

i've heard this saying, not 100% true but close

Women need love to have sex, and men need sex to be in love.

ehuffnsd said:

Am I a dude???? Cuz I'm the complete opposite to that statement about women.

tackam said:

OK. This is the one I get. Someone is attracted to me, puts all the moves, finds out I'm 38 and they lose their hard-on

SCNDLS said:

Me too, essentially.

tackam said:

Yeah, I get that. It's just I can operate on love level at any and all times and I feel a great void in men, at least the ones I've been with, not having that ability outside the bed.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Yeah, I often feel that way too.

ehuffnsd said:

The sad truth.


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pplrain said:

sorry wrong thread [Edited 1/13/09 17:57pm]
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Tremolina said:

I was about to call bullshit, too.

Vendetta1 said:

I don't think it is.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

dude I dont need no sex to fall in love

and i fucked plenty of women who were most defintely not in love enjoying it as if they were, even shouting it out, but they definitly were not.

Tremolina said:

We're discussing American issues. You're European. Doesn't count

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Well I can only speak for me and I don't need love to sleep with a guy.

Vendetta1 said:

That's not what's being said. Men love through their dicks. I honestly question if men are capable of loving the way I know it in myself. I guess they're out there but they're hidden from my view

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Maybe I'm confused: is she not saying a woman has to love a guy to fuck him?

Here's what I don't understand really, why do men want to be with women - like live with them and stuff? suckers for punishment if you ask me
like really, why choose a mate who likes talking when you hate listening?

Vendetta1 said:

I thought they were saying women feel love in their hearts and men through their dicks But I guess the other thing was said too so

Vendetta1 said:

yes, basically what is said as "truth" is that women love through their pussies.

I don't understand why some men who have a good thing going with a good woman, that they somehow feel the need to fuck it all up. Why create drama where there isn't any? And then you want to keep trying to make things right? I mean why bother if you keep fucking it up when you 2nd and 3rd chances?

I think I "get" guys pretty well for the most part. The only behaviour that truly baffles me is straight guys who'll hang with fun, smart, sane girls but choose to date or even marry boring, shallow, stupid, crazy girls. Wouldn't it make sense to pick the smart, fun, sane lady as the one to spend all your time with?

I don't get why a lot of guys end something that they then beg to have back...and I'm not talking about them just wanting it back in the meantime until they meet someone new.

I also don't really get the whole date hot, sexual chicks but settle down with the drab, almost cold fish girl. The whole Madonna/whore thing that men have is something I don't understand.

JustErin said:

my dad had an explanation to this:
he said they need to know how good it is and the way to find out, is by gauging bad it feels once they don't have it any more



I've had 2 boyfriends do exactly this, my dad said the second was just making sure that I was the one he was going to marry. I was like WTF!!! what a HORRIBLE way to do that! My dad was right about this particular case

ZombieKitten said:

I just don't get that mentality at all. A guy I know and had hooked up with a few times, asked me out, then acted like he wanted to spend the night together but then totally rejected me at the 11th hour. He later confessed that he was dating someone and wanted to test himself to see if he liked her enough to not cheat on her. Thanks, fucker.

That kinda shit...I don't get AT ALL.