Vendetta1 said:

Some women do. I wont lie. I put up with some bullshit from a man once because he was so damned good in bed. Then I realized how stupid I was and kicked him out. But I know plenty of women who will stay with a man and put up with all kinds of crap because of sex.

noimageatall said:

Shiiiiit, even WITHOUT good sex.

noimageatall said:

A man has never given me an orgasm so maybe the first one who does will have me lookin' for his ass in the daytime with a flashlight.

Vendetta1 said:

Do the men you've been with know that? You should set your coochie on fire and have them jump through hoop

Vendetta1 said:

I haven't either through penetration, but orally. . .

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Yeah, they know. It didn't matter to the most of them. they got theirs.

And see Richard. People wonder why I say sex is overrated.

SCNDLS said:

Nope, not orally either.

Maybe I should start pissing or get off the pot. I have never, ever been disappointed in bed with a woman. Ever.

Vendetta1 said:

That sounds like a psychological block IMO.

SCNDLS said:

What do you mean?

SCNDLS said:

SirPsycho said:

WHAT?

SCNDLS said:

SCNDLS said:

Only a few times in my life from penetration, but the man I stayed with when I knew I shouldn't was so good at oral...I mean he would just go and go and go and go until I had to ask HIM to stop.




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Vendetta1 said:

Vendetta1 said:

Most people agree that achieving an orgasm is mostly mental. Like I said, I've never gotten one through penetration and the times that I've come close I really had to free my mind then I'd start thinking again and the moment would pass. So I think there's SOMETHING in my psyche that's blocking the blessing.

There could be MANY reasons why you feel more comfortable sexually with a woman than with a man. At least comfortable enough to truly release yourself. I don't know enough about your personal history to speculate about you in particular. However, there are certain situations that I think certain conclusions can be drawn.

For instance, I've always thought that there are two types of lesbians. 1) Women that are truly born with that preference and 2) Women that are victims of sexual abuse that, as a result of it, are incapable of giving themselves completely to a man. I mean, having sex with anyone is the most vulnerable position you can find yourself in (no pun intended). If a woman associates an act of violence with that vulnerability of course she's gonna have issues engaging in sexual acts with a man. Also, women like these probably don't view other women as a physical threat and both women can probably identify with the feeling of vulnerability or whatever during sex. This lack of tension I think would make it easier to get to an orgasm with a woman vs with a man. Not saying this is you, just describing something that could result in a psychological block to having sex with a man.

Another thing is if a woman has a low self image of herself, I could totally see her being preoccupied thinking about how her male sex partner views her physically. I know I'm guilty of thinking about how my thighs or my ass looks during sex but then I get over that shit and keep it moving. BUT if a woman is overly self-critical about her appearance, she may focus on her insecurities instead of staying in the moment allowing her to arrive. AND if the guy is not aware of the issues OR is not sensitive enough to reassure her that he is TRULY attracted to her, how is she gonna enjoy sex MUCH LESS get off??? On the flip side, I THINK that being with a woman would be less stressful in that regard. I mean I know we can be brutal in our critiques of women on the street, but I THINK that when women are about to have sex with each other their focus is on more than just the physical. Whereas with men, many women assume that they are all about the physical appearance of a woman, which isn't ALWAYS true.

SirPsycho said:

Oh so you think a is gonna jump off?

reneGade20 said:

This is more common than men think. That's why I just laugh a porn when the women are making all that fucking noise.

SCNDLS said:

oh... ...nah...i just knew what you were getting at

SCNDLS said:

I have three older sisters who practiced TMI when we were younger, so trust me I know very well that its common....but as bad as it may sound, I am 90% sure that I've been successful in that arena...

reneGade20 said:

All men DO. How would you KNOW if you were though?

SCNDLS said:

Damn, girl.

So much of this is true. I don't consider myself lesbian but I have always been attracted to women and I was a survivor of sexual abuse and spent some time hating sex with men. When I got older, I decided not to just let people use me and made conscious choices. Now, I have been celibate for years and the next man I give myself to will get all of me. As a matter of fact, the only person I am interested in sleeping with has assured me that he wants ALL of me.

Damn, girl. It was if you read my mind.

SCNDLS said:

funny, this thread is more than twice the size of the one for women

SCNDLS said:

c'mon now!! I'm 42, not 22!! I know that the screams don't always mean jack...I look for the flushed skin, the breathlessness, the eyes...the tears....plus the fact that I end up getting scratched like a scratching post...

reneGade20 said:

Okay, but all those of are symptoms of any exertion not necessarily orgasm and just because a woman is enjoying sex doesn't mean that she's coming. Plus, the tears. . . women be acting their asses off. I ain't saying you ain't puttin' it down, Gadey-poo, but I'm just sayin' . . .
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SCNDLS said:

I just turn the sound completely off.

SCNDLS said:

I'm not so blinded by the golden tip that I don't get where you're coming from (no pun intended...) but in the end, as long as the customer is satisfied, I'm good too!

...and here all these women get their noses bent because ONLY men lie...

punkofthemonth said:

Like I said over there, men are pretty simple and easy to please. And if they start thinking too hard I just confuse 'em with sex.
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noimageatall said:

that's the truth Noimage

Vendetta1 said:

Girl, I have my moments.

IMO the bold sentence is the key, and if he's aware of your background and truly cares about you and pleasing you he's going to do whatever it takes to put you at ease and put it on ya correctly.