superspaceboy said:

Same here

i don't believe in soul mates by the definition we're fed in romantic movies and hallmark cards.

i think in the legions of people we meet through life, some stars shine a little brighter than others, and those people who we are drawn to and who make the larger difference in our lives are the ones who i believe are fated to get us from one goalpost in life to the next...or maybe we're the one getting them to THEIR next goalpost...or both at the same time. but i think people come into our lives for a reason, and to expect those people to exist in your life as intensely as ever, forever and ever, is to expect a lot. just enjoy what you have in other people in the here and now.

there are 3 people that i've known in my life that i would define in my own way as soulmates, one is my husband, one is my best male friend gustavo, and the 3rd is my best female friend pushpa. all 3 just know me, and i trust 100%!

Anxiety said:

i like that explanation. it fits well with what i'm going through now.

Haven't met my Soulmate or if I have We AREN'T TOGETHER.

True love, yes. Soul mate where the idea there is only one, no.

Cinnie said:

What's the diff between the two?

Meh. I'm only 23. I have a long way to go despite the fact that I'd love to be a mom and wife. I THOUGHT I found my soulmate. When things turned with him, it put me into serious shock. Not sure why, though. People do what he did all the time. Anyway...

I guess I was hoping to have the same explosive chemistry my dad and mom had together. THEY were soulmates. She helped him mold a dream that has given him the power to retire at 52. (Most men in his profession retire about 9-10 years later.) I know he misses her lots but all the wonderful stories he has about her are so touching. His eyes sparkle and his ol' voice softens when he talks about how they met, how she charmed the fam with her manners, and how she got my strong yet silent grandpa to give her a lifetime pass to the house before they were even dating. She was a cool sista who actually waited patiently for dad to end his playboy days before leaving her mark.

Do I believe in it? Speaking from the broken-hearted point of view, I'm not too sure. Love in general is so hard and painful to go through. The concept of a soulmate sounds wonderful, though. I suppose mine is still out there.

Feh. I ramble.

JustErin said:

In a person's life, there is probably someone they love, someone they marry, someone they have children with, and not always the same person.

Cinnie said:

i was always under the impression that a soul mate is a person who completes you in every way and fits perfectly with your personality. I also don't believe that this exists for most people.

i was also under the impression that true love is where two people love and accept each other, even the part that aren't so desireable. This is something I believe in. I think that both platonic and romantic true love exists.

Yes I do...and only because I have found mine.

It's sad to me when I see people that don't have anyone or can't keep anyone.
I would love for everyone to be as happy as I am.

yes there are people who i feel like i've known them my whole life when i meet them.

Revolution said:

Thanks

errant said:

My thoughts exactly. I believe that there will always be a person whom you have connected with and loved but cannot love anyone else in that same way. Not saying that you can't fall in love with someone else, but there will always be a person in which you can't explain why you love them, but you just do. As errant has said, though you might always feel strongly for that person, it doesn't mean that the two of you will live happily ever after.

Reply to 'The concept of "soul mate", do you believe in it?'

Yes, sure. I've had a few soul mates. I married the 4th.

Or 5th.

I used to, not anymore. I think you come real close to having many/most things in common w/ a person & you simply have to decide whether to stay & resist stranglin' they ass, or go & keep looking for your soul-mate in the ether.

& this isn't across the board - some people do find soul-mates, I just don't think it's in the cards for ME...

pplrain said:

Yes I believe in the concept of a 'soul mate' and yes I believe I did find him... if I could change anything it would be the fact that he passed away when we were both 19

missfee said:

heh. that part i highlighted is especially true. you may love them forever. or hate them. or both.

I have a friend who is married to her soul mate and by that I mean they are inseparable. They think alike, often know what the other is thinking. They have a very deep love for each other and feel there in no one on this earth that can fill the others needs.
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I used to believe in it. I just think some people get along better with certain people than they do others.
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pplrain said:

"Soul mate" I dont know about that but I think something pushed us together spiritually. I havent seen the guy I am with since I was 12 and all of a sudden we meet 13 years later in the same room same house and same time and fall in love..again.

If I could change something...it would be...his drinking. If he could just only drink on the weekend or do it as a pastime social event but not do it just to do it. However... at least he doesnt get drunk.