So I'm on the bus and this girl, sitting in front of me, answers her phone. It started out simply enough. I only got one side of the conversation but you could tell the boyfriend was asking her about her calling habits, namely who did she talk to that morning and why wasn't she taking his call.

She started out by explaining that she was talking to her mom who was in the hospital and that she spoke to 3 family members and a friend about it that morning. She explained that her phone never rang and she had no missed calls. She even offered to print out the phonecall history from the web.

This turns into 45 minutes of this girl explaining herself to her idiot boyfriend and the whole conversation reminded me of that 3 year relationship of horror I had with my ex. Her explaining things over and over and him playing head games acting like he has no idea what she's saying.

I totally recognized the insecurity, the games and the way he tried flipping all kinds of shit on her. So before I got off the bus I wrote this down:



I gave it to her as I got off the bus I gave it to her mid conversation too If I see her again she'll probably just turn on me and defend his stupid fucking ass I hope my letter works!

Supa



Karma can be a bitch and it comes and goes



DUCK !

Mach said:

I only wish someone warned me about my ex like that I have no problem standing before the Karma court when I have to answer why I would choose to try and help that girl avoid the life of misery she is so clearly walking into

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I love you

It was none of your busness, Supa! If I were the boyfriend I would find you and kick the living shit out of you!

Supa if it helps her you have done another good deed.

Her bf sounds like an abusive controlling prick.

Mach said:

Like I said, she'll probably be like a wild cat and scratch my eyes out for trying to release her paws from the trap

That reminds me, one time I was at a Del Taco (fast food) waiting for my order. As I was waiting for the cars ahead of me to get their orders, this car screeches to a halt and I hear this girl demanding that her boyfriend get out of the car and leave her alone. He was screaming and yelling at her and they both were freaking out but you could tell this dude was just punking her.

Well I got to the drivethru and told them there was an incident outside the restraunt and to call the cops. As I pulled out on the other side with my order they were still there and arguing and I told them that they had just called the cops and the girl says:

Papi, hurry get in the car

He jumped in and they took off together

who knows about the cheating part but he sure as hell is controlling

perhaps it will make her think about things snugglebug

abierman said:

And how is he supposed to find him? Through a written hand note?

abierman said:

Yeah, we can all just live in this world without giving a shit about others. I only wish someone had schooled me when I was younger. It might or might not open her eyes but if it does that's only a good thing.

And I will be bringing a knife with me on the bus

emm said:

All that accusing, "who" "what" "where" "when", in my situation and every other I have ever known that sounded exaclty like that, the man was cheating. I would bet one testicle that is the case here too

please be sure to let us know if you see her again!

luv4u said:

goog point

thekidsgirl said:

I've never seen her on the bus before, take it all the time. If I do I'll just leave it to her if she wants to confront me I can only hope that maybe she will think about things. I was in my relationship for a year and a half before I figured out that he was playing mind games and it wasn't me going crazy.

This girl was losing her mind trying to explain herself and just like my ex he only wanted to hear what he wanted to hear and nothing she was going to say was going to remove that scarlet A from his mind.
[Edited 1/7/09 10:25am]

Drama queen!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

It's not about that, people learn as they go through life.....same like you or I did. Who are you to intervene in a relationship of two people you don't know? People get what they call for, if the girl has any brains she would have laughed your little note off anyways.....if not, oh well.....

JustErin said:

If you ever need it, I'll even defend you

abierman said:

yeah we all have a life and I chose to live mine the way I want to And I think you're wrong about people getting what they deserve. That is true many times but hell no did I deserve to get my ass beat by my boyfriend. I went into that situation because I didn't know any better. I wish I had someone to help me along the way. But then if I did, I probably wouldn't have been able to do the Portal Music thread huh?


[Edited 1/7/09 10:31am]

Supa...U did a good thing...
I went thru the same type of
uber abusive relationship with
the accusations, interrogations,
and endless aggravation. The
SOB even had me tailed by a P.I.
after I dumped him!!
It was a freaking nightmare.
So, I completely support what u
did. U fully recognize and I
give u props 4 that.

I think you did a good thing Richard. It can be true in cases where the other half will put blame on the other one to cover their own tracks.

JustErin said:

I just like bugging you....

But you are a drama queen though. It just cracks me up.

JustErin said:

It would have been a drama queen move if I left my number. I did it anonymous and hightailed my ass off that bus

JustErin said:

You quoted yourself!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

You could have been like her fairygodmother, or the 'sign' she was waiting for to leave his ass...I just am really curious as to what her reaction was to that

Stay away from hokie!

ArielB said:

Notice how I never helped you with that Mexican girl? If I did you might not have met Hokie! Then again, you weren't trying to break up with her

thekidsgirl said:

Well I'm sure she'd have had to have explained the break in her conversation with her stupid ass boyfriend but I wonder what she is going to tell him. Act like she didn't just read it or read him the riot act If I helped her flip the script back on his ass I can only be proud

SUPA!!!

well done