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PrintableAnxiety said: oh, i should give a serious answer about judging people...
i think i do judge people. i think EVERYONE judges other people. i think to a certain extent it's a survival mechanism. i judge people in terms of who i have to be guarded around, and who i should avoid, or who i think might be toxic or black holes of drama that i could get sucked into. hell, and sometimes i think i judge people in terms of how judgemental i think THEY are. 
i keep about 99% of my judgey thoughts to myself and really only use those thoughts to keep myself safe. the other 1% i will share with people if i think a person is a threat and other people should know before getting hurt by that person. i have a fairly good intuition about people, and if someone gets my spidey sense going, i don't want to see people i care about getting hurt so sometimes i'll share my bad vibe forecast if i think it will protect someone. All of that, plus once in a while I'm cranky and sitting back and judging people -- especially, like, public figures -- is, as you said, better than yoga.  "What's 'non-sequitur' mean? Do I look it up in a Fag-to-English dictionary?" | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: Teacher said: Same here. I am less judgmental than I was a few years ago, but there's a looooong way to go still. Nobody is judgment free, anybody telling you that is full of it. I have to pull back sometimes and check myself. You never know people's stories.agreed on all that was said | |
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Vendetta1 said: Steadwood said: Do you feel guilty for judging others?
No, because I try to base that judgment on the "evidence" I've gathered on that person. That's the sad thing. Even after ive figured them all out I still feel bad. Especially after I finally tell them where to go with it. I don't understand it lol | |
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Steadwood said: I know I do ... no matter how good I like to think I am Discuss I hate really short non-humans with wild hair. Some have jewels on their bellies. WTF? Ugh! I wish they'd all DIE!    looking for you in the woods tonight Switch FC SW-2874-2863-4789 (Rum&Coke) | |
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Lol I abould be sleep. | |
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honeypot69 said: Lol I abould be sleep. I was sleep and now I can't fall to sleep again. | |
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I slept for about 4 hours earlier when I got off work. | |
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Teacher said: PEJ said: no usually I am the defendant and I stand before the judge.
Not anymore you don't  true I haven't been judged in a while!To Sir, with Love | |
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i judge everybody . ain't nobody bad like me   life's a bitch, but god forbid the bitch divorce me...
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Yes I do. Everybody does. That's only human and only a problem when people judge others wrongly, or all the time, and never have any self reflection. | |
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I think we all judge. It is what we do with the judgment that counts.
You can use your judgment to hurt that person, hurt yourself or you can just learn from it. | |
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there's a difference between judging someone and being judgemental.
You can judge all you want, as long as you keep it to yourself!!! we all do it. But trying to force your mores and values onto another through criticism, open disapproval, insults and prejudice etc is NOT cool, and no I won't do that.[Edited 1/6/09 3:33am] | |
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I judge. I detest being judged though | |
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I judge myself much harsher than I do others around me.
I need to change that. | |
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ZombieKitten said: there's a difference between judging someone and being judgemental.
You can judge all you want, as long as you keep it to yourself!!! we all do it. But trying to force your mores and values onto another through criticism, open disapproval, insults and prejudice etc is NOT cool, and no I won't do that.
Exactly - again that kind of behavior speaks more of the person acting out then it does the person they are trying to belittle | |
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Steadwood said: How do you feel about others judging you?
I am really quite fine with that opinions are like assholes ... 
what others choose to have issues with me over is really thier issue | |
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Dig ur sig Mach. | |
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honeypot69 said: Dig ur sig Mach.
Happy New year beautiful | |
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I really make an effort NOT to judge people. But, I admit I sometimes judge others for judging--if this makes any sense. And sometimes I slip-up because I cannot help, but jump to conclusions about somebody. Or maybe this person and I do not have a lot in common or have personality conflict, so it is difficult to say.. well.. "we just do not get along." It's like it always has to be somebody's "fault," and sometimes this is not the case.. or maybe it's both people's fault.
I just really feel we do not know all the circumstances, so..it is very difficult to judge unless we are in the other person's shoes. However, I admit this is easier said than done. | |
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many of us may make an effort to NOT judge people, but I believe it is human nature to judge people, whether we mean to or not. It is an automatic response to size someone up and make a quick judgement. Anyone who says otherwise is obviously lying... | |
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kenlacam said: many of us may make an effort to NOT judge people, but I believe it is human nature to judge people, whether we mean to or not. It is an automatic response to size someone up and make a quick judgement. Anyone who says otherwise is obviously lying...
Why do say someone is lying? Maybe this person just does not have a judgmental personality---like some do not have a jealous personality? I am not sure if it necessarily an automatic response to judge someone. I must admit I try to give people the benefit of the doubt more often than not. And when I do not.. well I get disappointed in myself. And yes, I would agree many--most of us make an effort not to judge people, I think. However, I have noticed some who seem to get a kick out of judging people and then being mean. It is like they have no guilt about it at all. | |
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lascantas said: kenlacam said: many of us may make an effort to NOT judge people, but I believe it is human nature to judge people, whether we mean to or not. It is an automatic response to size someone up and make a quick judgement. Anyone who says otherwise is obviously lying...
Why do say someone is lying? Maybe this person just does not have a judgmental personality because they're confirming the 'judge' in them lol .. they put off that label of lying on other people because they see that in themselves... as was said previously... 'it takes one, to know one' .. | |
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I know on some level we all judge. Some people take it to a whole nother level.
I try not to decide on shallow things whether I think someone is a good human or not. I do not think right off the bat that people who live, love, or pray different from me should be automatically killed. It seemes like more and more people do that. Maybe I am just becoming more aware of it. I think I get more angry at that than anything else right now. Peace. Love. Prince | |
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Yeah. "I saw a woman with major Hammer pants on the subway a few weeks ago and totally thought of you." - sextonseven | |
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most def due to the content i suggest you like this... | |
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It's human nature to judge, especially people. It's how we form opinions and decisions about who we deal with. And in some cases, it's how we survive based upon the act of judging. nWo: bboy87 - Timmy84 - LittleBlueCorvette - MuthaFunka - phunkdaddy - Christopher
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Steadwood said: I know I do ... no matter how good I like to think I am Discuss i compare other people to my own set of personal standards i've acquired over time and therefore yes, i do judge others. but i try to always be aware that i do this, and compensate by keeping an open mind when i can. | |
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We all judge, It's just human nature! As soon as you lay eyes on someone your brain is working and it classifies that person as rich, poor, hot or not. Just like when you hear someone talk on the radio, you judge them by their voice and you build a face to the voice. | |
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jockeyb4u said: Just like when you hear someone talk on the radio, you judge them by their voice and you build a face to the voice.
i was listening to a guy on the radio just the other night who was interviewing a band and totally kissing their butts up, down and sideways. i imagined the guy looking like a hippie james lipton, and i also decided he was doing the interview completely naked and totally freaking out the band, but we'd never know since it was on radio. was that judgey of me? | |
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